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What Does It Mean When A Girl Winks At You?


When talking to women you need to pay close attention. Too often guys think that conversations are all about the words. The truth is that even dudes use things like tone and body language to convey a message, so you have the fundamental skills you need to read women.

What you need to do is put in the energy to developing this skill. That means looking out for signals women might be trying to send you non-verbally, and one of the best signals to look out for is the wink.

The wink might be the most important tool in a flirter’s arsenal. It’s simple but effective, all you need is the ability to close one eye at a time and a sense of timing.

Of course, when it comes to every gesture you need to understand that there’s no one meaning. Everything depends on context. That’s what we’ll be looking into, how you can look at the context of a flirt to make sense of its meaning.

A Wink When Flirting

Think back to what she was saying before she winked at you. Was she making a flirtatious joke? Maybe it was a sexual innuendo. In those cases, a wink is a very good sign, it’s a sort of romantic punctuation point.

Watch any romantic movie and you’ll see this sort of wink. One of the lead character says something witty and sexy and winks. The other character swoons, they’ve been hit with the wink’s sexual energy.

Just remember that life isn’t like movies. If you aren’t sure that she’s attracted to you then you don’t want to jump to conclusions. Still, a flirtatious wink is a good sign and it means you should try and respond with your own flirtatious gesture.

A Wink Accompanying Physical Contact

This is a big one. If a girl is comfortable touching you then she would probably be OK if you returned the favor. When a girl winks at you while she reaches out and touches your body she’s practically asking for you to touch her back.

Of course, you still need to be careful. You don’t want to lunge at her and start treating her like a piece of meat. Touch her in the same sort of area that she touched you and do it very lightly.

Flirting is a bit like dancing, it needs to flow and move organically. A wink is still a relatively subtle gesture so you don’t want to jump to a drastic response. Girls appreciate a slow build, and the process allows you to make sure that she is consenting every step of the way. Keeping her comfortable should always be your first concern.

A Habitual Wink

Some women are very selective flirters while other will get fresh with just about everyone they meet. Before you jump to any conclusions it’s worth doing some observation. Watch how your girl acts around different people.

If she flirts and winks with every guy then you can’t really say you’re anything special. She might still like you, but the wink won’t prove anything. If she doesn’t wink or flirt with other men then you should feel a bit more special. Girls that are cold around others but warm up around you are clearly putting themselves out you.

In these cases a wink is probably an invitation to something further, although that doesn’t mean you should try to shove your tongue down her throat. It just means you should fight fire with fire and get flirty yourself.

Don’t Get Lost

If this is all making your head spin you’re not alone. When you first start to delve into every subject you’re going to have trouble getting the hang of it. But don’t jump to conclusions. Too many guys think that because women communicate differently from men that they are impossible to understand.

That isn’t the case, it just means you have to put some effort into understanding them. If you really care about a woman then it’s worth putting some energy into understanding her perspective.

With that being said, be careful about going overboard. Chances are the women in your life aren’t putting hours of thought into every wink. They might be operating on a different level than you but it doesn’t mean they’re superhuman. The best way to blow things is by obsessing and trying to wring incredibly complex messages out of simple gestures.

If you feel like you’re losing it then it’s time to step back, take a deep breath, and just assume she’s flirting with her. Next time you see her say something flirtatious, wink at her, and see how she reacts. If she smiles and flirts right back then you’re good to go.

If she pulls back and goes a little cold then you misread the situation, life goes on. You can’t learn how to talk to people reading articles, eventually you have to practice and take risks. We can get you started on the right track but you have to actually take some steps if you want to reach your dreams.


  1. Thank you. But I want to know what the means by that when an British girl winks at me? It’s ordinary habitual or something like sex appeals?

    • Each person has different reasons for their actions. Look at the surrounding actions to determine the specific meaning of each action. Have a great day, Steve!

  2. Hi, I have a couple of questions that you may can help with. I work at the airport so I see a great deal of flight attendants. One caught me looking at her and she looked back over and smiled. I’m sure that’s a good sign? But recently I walked past one and we made eye contact and she immediately smiled and gave a nice long wink toward me. To me that’s even better. So the odds of seeing her again are better than slim. Should I do the same back to her? I am fully aware she sees a lot of guys on her job and she may do this frequently. I still question it though.

    • It is possible that she smiled to be friendly. It is likely that she smiled to be professional. If you meet her in person outside of her professional life, then determine what you believe is appropriate at that time. If this happens, then share your kindness and compassion with her. Have a great day, Jason!

  3. Hello..A teen came to my house with her elder sister to get a stuff.as I was talking with both of them I got this wink from her as she was standing behind her elder sister but I choose not to wink back(respond),then the conversation continues and she winks again..then I asked myself what she really wants.She’s a friend to me like wise her elder sister,then we talked about relationship and she said she’s single but I don’t think she’s being honest.

    • Her behaviors are indications that she is attracted to you. If she informed you that she is single, then it is likely that she is not in a relationship. If you are aware that she isn’t single, then don’t attempt to maintain a relationship with her. Make a decision about what you want for your future. Speak with her about your thoughts and feelings. Nourish this relationship by spending additional time with her in person. Have a great day, Nino!

  4. Hey I went to a barber shop and I met her there for the first time while barbing my hair she winked at me through the mirror what does it means

    • Her wink could potentially mean many things. It is possible that she was being friendly. It is possible that she was flirting with you. Make a decision about what you want for your future. If you feel that it would be appropriate for you to reach out to her, then dos o. nourish this relationship by spending additional time with her in person. Have a great day, Timmy!

  5. I was walking by an old classmate who was friendly to me in the past. We were taking our seats at a seminar and talking would have been rude. I instinctively gave him a quick wink when I walked by as a greeting. My hands were full of course materials. I’m hurt that he looked like he had been assaulted. He made very over-exaggerated actions and acted far disproportionately to the innocent hello. I actually helped him get together with his wife, another Lebanese girl. I always was greeted with a quick wink when the situation called for a hello. I have never hit on this guy and was happy to see him. Not any longer. We are both in same profession but apparently there is no nonverbal innocent hellos. It saddened me that he severely overreacted. Girls, even with equals there is a connotation that you are coming on to people. Guys, don’t flatter yourself. I have had so many guys do this without a jezebel connotation. The guy sat straight up in his seat and looked at the guy next to him. He looked puzzled. I should have had the guts to say that I was merely saying hello. I didn’t. Don’t put yourself in this situation.

    • He made the decision to take your wink as a flirtatious gesture, which is completely reasonable. If you find that you run into this issue in the future, then you should take that as a sign that it is important to be mindful of your actions. Being aware of how your behaviors are taken is important for successfully navigating your social relationships.


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