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What Does It Mean When A Guy Asks About Your Ex?


There seems to always come a time when a guy asks you about your ex. Unfortunately we don’t always seem to understand why he wants to know this information. But luckily for you we have a few reasons as to why he might be asking you such private information. Take a look below to find out what they are!

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Reasons He Asks About Your Ex

He is jealous: There is no doubt that the most common reason a guy asks about your ex is because he has a jealous streak. Most men tend to get pretty jealous about these things when they start to develop pretty large feelings for you. Unfortunately this is more common than not. But it is important to be cautious about these types of guys. Jealousy can lead to many bad things and nothing good really comes out of it. So if the two of you are not dating officially, be a little worried. It is not his place to get upset or jealous about your ex. Especially if you are not an actual item just yet.

He is genuinely curious: However, there are times when a guy asks about your ex because he is genuinely curious about him. He just wants to know about him. This is something that happens when two people get close to each other. So if the two of you have gotten closer than ever and are heading in the direction of a relationship, he might just be ballsy enough to ask about your ex. It is something that is going to be discussed eventually if you two start dating each other.

He isn’t very experienced with women: It could be that he is asking about your ex, because he isn’t very experienced when it comes to the dating department. He might not get that this isn’t exactly something that someone wants to talk about when you first start hanging out. You will know that this is the reasoning behind it if you find out that he does not have much experience when it comes to women. This is especially common for young guys and guys that don’t seem to know what the heck they are doing when it comes to a relationship.

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He wants to talk about his ex: He might just be asking you about your ex at this time because he wants to open up a certain conversation gate. That gate being the gate of discussion about all exes. There many reasons that he might want to have a talk about his ex with you. It could be that he still has unfinished business with her. He could have issues that still bother him when it comes to his ex. Or he might have some information that is crucial to tell you before the two of you decide to take your relationship to the next level. The best thing to do is open up that doorway so he can get what he needs to get off of his chest. You’d be surprised at how important this can be sometimes!

He is insecure: Men tend to get jealous about ex boyfriends and ex lovers because they are very insecure about themselves. You will be able to tell that this is the reason he is asking if he starts asking obsessively. He might start bringing it up all the time. He might get angry when you refuse to talk about it. You will notice that he also focuses on people you have had physical relations with and not just the ones that you have actually dated. This is because he does not like to be left in the dark on this information. He has an urge to know everything so he can obsess about it some more. Be weary of this kind of person and put an end to the obsessiveness as soon as you possibly can.

He has plans for you two: Or he might want to take things up a notch with you and would like to get the “ex conversation” out of the way in case there is anything important that he needs to know. He might want to make your relationship official. How can you tell if this is the reasoning for him asking about your ex? Well, you will notice all the other signs that he is heading towards asking you to be his girlfriend. Everyone has a talk about their exes eventually when they start dating. He might just want to get the conversation out of the way sooner than later.

He wants to compare himself to your ex: This is another sign that he is very insecure about himself, but it is a very common reason that a guy will ask you about your ex. He wants to compare himself to your ex to see if he can match or be better than him. It’s safe to say if this is the reason that he might have a big ego. And that ego can be bruised very easily. It is up to you whether or not you want to humor him by proceeding with the conversation about your ex.


    • He has ghosted you. He is not interested in developing a relationship with you. Focus your emotional energy elsewhere. Determine what you want for your future without him. Ensure that your actions are filled with positive energy. Have a great day, Melanie!

  1. A guy I have known as just talking to him casually asked if I have a boyfriend, I said no and then he asked if my husband has a girlfriend, he knows we are going through a divorce.

    • This person is interested in developing a relationship with you. He wants to know if you are in a relationship. He is curious if your husband has developed a new relationship because he wants to know whether or not you would nourish a relationship with him again. Determine what you want for your future. Finalize this relationship and look toward the future. Have a great day, Christine!

  2. A guy I talk with casually asked if o have a boyfriend, I said no and he asked if my soon to be ex has a girlfriend, he knows we are going through a divorce. He’s also asked when is it gonna be done.

    • He is interested to know if you are available to nourish a relationship with him. His question regarding your ex is likely influenced by his concerns that you may be interested in restarting your relationship with your ex. He is interested in developing a relationship with you as soon as you are able to do so. Determine what you want for your future and take appropriate action. Have a great day, Christine!

  3. What does mean when a guy asking when I was with my ex then brings up if I ever kissed my mate and Then reminds me you that I kissed my ex boyfriend when I was with him

    • It sounds like this person is interested about your previous relationships. This may be a sign that he is trying to determine what he wants for his future. Feel comfortable with leaving your past in the past. It is likely that he is interested in kissing you. Determine what you want for your future and take appropriate action. Have a great day, Chloe!

  4. My crush asked me about what happened between me and my ex (which is his friend) and when i asked why he asked, he said never mind and hesitated to continue the question… what does he mean by that?

    • He is interested in understanding the nature of your previous relationship. This may be a social, emotional, or physical question in nature. Determine what you believe is appropriate. Speak with your current partner about his questions. Ensure that you are honest with your answers, as it is likely that his friend has shared some stories with your current partner. Have a great day, Lin!

  5. I dated a guy at uni then he ghosted for 3 years then we recently got back in contact and the first question was about my ex as he had heard from mutual friends I was in a serious relationship. When I told him he got so quiet because I still have the same friendship group with my ex and then he asked me out but I know he is seeing someone and when I asked he said “it’s early days, nothing serious’ what’s that about???

    • It sounds like he may be dating someone else, but they are just dating and aren’t officially a couple yet. He also seems to be concerned that you are in the same friend group as your ex, but you can’t really do anything about that. All you can do at the moment is hope that he doesn’t ghost you again–although, you may want to prepare yourself emotionally just in case he does. Good luck!

  6. I broke up with my ex. And since we didn’t talk. I started having a best friend. My bestfriend started having crush on me. I told him I was not ready. When I didnt know about my ex, my bestfriend was always there. So I give him the chances. We started going out but few days we broke up because he started liking somebody else. A month later my ex started texting me telling me that he love me and that he still miss me. He was asking me to see him. But I was not ready bc I had just finished a relationship. Few days later I decided to see him. He started asking me about my ex, I use to answer his question but It was not the right answer I lied to him about everything. He find out that I was not telling the truth he got mad at me, he started asking me more and more questions about my and and telling me to be honest. We I started telling him all the truth he start getting really mad. He use to hang up the call. The next day he call me again and say sorry for being like that to me. I felt bad bc I lie to him and he was the one that say sorry. Since that day he didn’t stop asking me questions of my ex until I tell him the truth, he started telling me that he can feel when I’m lying to him and when I’m being honest with him. But ever since he ask me questions about my ex.

    • It seems that you are aware that your relationship is strained. You need to take this time to make a decision about what you want for the future. Speak with him about your thoughts and feelings, and give him an opportunity to share himself with you as well. From there, the two of you can decide what is appropriate for the future of your relationship.


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