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What Does It Mean When A Guy Blocks You?

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Guys are complicated creatures. They have a way of knocking a girl right off her feet and then leaving her cold and alone. Just when she gets used to the cold, he walks right back up and offers her a warm fire. It’s so confusing that girls are typically left with their heads spinning trying to keep up with his latest mood.

One of a guy’s favorite moves to knock a girl off balance is the cold shoulder. They like to pretend that women are the complicated ones that play mind games, but guys have an entire playbook of them and women hate mind games. Also, if a woman is thinking of giving a guy the cold shoulder, it’s normally because he did something idiotic. A guy just does it to see what happens and to force you into being the submissive one. At least that’s what it always seems like.

In order to figure out why guys decide to give a girl the cold shoulder, or block her suddenly, I went out and asked a few guys to explain their odd behavior. Hopefully this will help us to understand what is going on in their minds so that we aren’t so damn confused anymore. Here are the responses I got:

1. He got what he wanted from you and doesn’t care to see you anymore. This is well-known as the old hump ‘n dump. If a guy is only after one thing and he gets it, he has no use for you anymore. That is, unless a time comes around that he wants to get it again and then he’ll suddenly come back around.

2. He is no longer interested and doesn’t want you digging around in his business. There is normally a confrontation of some sort before this happens like a break-up, or an argument. Or maybe you know he was just cheating on your best friend and he doesn’t want that info leaking.

3. He is confused about his own emotions and is taking a break from you to figure them out. This is okay because it is better for you if he figures them out before getting you involved in any way. There is nothing worse than getting with a guy and then figuring out that he isn’t sure about his own intentions. He could also be really into you and confused about his reactions to you.

 

4. He needs space and time to think. In order to have that quiet moment, he took you out of the picture. This is not necessarily a bad thing. He could be trying to figure out if he’s ready to propose, or if his head is in-line with his heart.



5. He is following bad advice to try and get you to miss him and realize your feelings for him. This is one of those mind games that men pull. Why not just ask you how you feel about him? No one really knows. But this is one of his go-to moves to have you eating out of the palm of his hand. It’s the old trick of calling you every day and then waiting you out to see if you’ll go to him.

6. He is trying to prove a point to you. Yes, it’s yet another mind game. Perhaps you disagreed with something he said and he is now trying to get the point across that if you don’t agree with him, he won’t like you. Blocking you is his way of shutting you out until you beg. Don’t beg.

7. He disagreed with you about something and doesn’t know how to talk to you about it, so he just cut off communication instead. This is pretty childish, but we have all done it in one way or another at some point. The blocking will probably only be temporary since the two of you will eventually forget about the whole disagreement.

8. He is tired of seeing your status updates about your meals, your workouts, and everything else that you are doing. Some people prefer simplicity and constant updates clog their feeds. Don’t take it personally; just shrug it off and move on.

If you get the sudden cold shoulder from a guy, at least you’ll have a few ideas about what could be causing the odd behavior. Just figure out if he’s worth it to you to go through the trouble of deciphering his reasons and getting him back. If he’s not, then just let it go and move on with your life. If you think he’s playing mind games, run in the other direction because he sucks and you don’t want to deal with that in your life. If you like him and think he’s worth it, then just ask him what’s up. It’s the easiest thing to do.

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194 COMMENTS

  1. I need advice i have dated for a guy who constantly asking me to go out with him since 2009 at first i’m hesitant because i’m not physicaly attracted to him but for being persistent i’ve allowed him to go out with me then something changed we’ve been dating for 5-6times and i can say that we had a intimate and sweet relationship when we were together but after that I haven’t heard anything from him he’s been ghosting me and ignoring my text and calls and then i started being dramatic and needy to him and after that we had a fight and arguments then suddenly he decided to blocked me to all my social media accounts i don’t know what he’s thinking right now if he’s inlove with me or not.pleas help!

    • The two of you shared a social and emotional connection. Something in his life caused his behaviors to change. He has blocked you for some reason. He is no longer interested in nourishing a relationship with you. Focus your emotional energy elsewhere. Determine what you want for your future without him. Have a great day, Toni!

  2. My boyfriend and I have been together for over a year. He thinks I’m cheating with my ex because he read our conversion on whatsapp. He says “our conversation does not indicate we are not having an affair” I last saw my ex two years back before I even met him. He told me “to sort myself out” and blocked me on whatsapp. I feel he is accusing me unfairly. I still love him and I don’t know what to think or do???

    • It sounds as though you are still emotionally connection to your ex. You are also nourishing a relationship with your current partner. Your actions are emotionally taxing on both people in your life. Determine what you want for your future and take appropriate action. Do not attempt to nourish romantic relationships with multiple people at once, as it harms the people in your life. Have a great day, Moeder!

  3. My boyfriend and have been together for over a year. He thinks I’m cheating on him with my ex because he read our conversion on whatsapp.I last saw my ex two years back before I even met him. I feel he’s accusing me unfairly. He said “there’s nothing indicating on our conversation, that we are not having an affair” he said i must sort myself out first, then when I finish I’ll let him know” then he blocked me on whatsapp. I have never cheated on him not even once. He doesn’t trust me because of his past. I still love but I don’t know what to think or do???

    • It sounds as though you are still emotionally connection to your ex. You are also nourishing a relationship with your current partner. Your actions are emotionally taxing on both people in your life. Determine what you want for your future and take appropriate action. Do not attempt to nourish romantic relationships with multiple people at once, as it harms the people in your life. Have a great day, Moeder!

  4. I wrote in a couple weeks ago but he has still not unblocked me and it hurts so bad..I don’t know how to move on and it makes me so angry that I have to feel like this when he’s most likely unaffected. If he really cared about me, have I just been erased from his mind after blocking me? Or I’m thinking maybe he did that so that he doesn’t once again forgive me and be tempted to speak to me again knowing a fight will just happen again? What would be the possibilities in this situation for keeping me blocked? I didn’t say anything threatening where blocking me would be a reasonable thing to do. This just hurts so bad and I miss him so much and I regret what happened.

    • He has decided to block you. He is not interested in nourishing a relationship with you at this time. There may be a variety of reasons for his actions. Since he is not interested in maintaining a relationship with you at this time, you will find great benefit in allowing thoughts of him to fade. Share your kindness and compassion with everyone in your life. Have a great day, Sofia!

  5. I’ve been racking my brain to figure out why the guy I’ve spoken with every day for the last 6 months blocked me. The only conclusion: he lost interest and no longer finds me intriguing. It’s easier to just stop talking to me than have a conversation as to why. But what people who do this don’t understand is that is absolutely hurt the other person. I’ve been embarrassed, mad, sad, hurt, pissed, happy, and confused over and over and over again. I wish he could have just told me: those videos weren’t attractive. You aren’t attractive. And I’m done. Rather than getting that green “you’ve been blocked, honey” message staring back at me the next day. So humiliating and demoralizing.

    • Your determination is likely correct. There may be a variety of reasons for his actions. There may be another person in his life causing him to act in this way. He may be confused or uncertain about his feelings. Regardless, he is no longer interested in nourishing a relationship with you. Focus your emotional energy elsewhere. Determine what you want for your future without him. Have a great day, Sammy!

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