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What Does It Mean When A Guy Blocks You?


Guys are complicated creatures. They have a way of knocking a girl right off her feet and then leaving her cold and alone. Just when she gets used to the cold, he walks right back up and offers her a warm fire. It’s so confusing that girls are typically left with their heads spinning trying to keep up with his latest mood.

One of a guy’s favorite moves to knock a girl off balance is the cold shoulder. They like to pretend that women are the complicated ones that play mind games, but guys have an entire playbook of them and women hate mind games. Also, if a woman is thinking of giving a guy the cold shoulder, it’s normally because he did something idiotic. A guy just does it to see what happens and to force you into being the submissive one. At least that’s what it always seems like.

In order to figure out why guys decide to give a girl the cold shoulder, or block her suddenly, I went out and asked a few guys to explain their odd behavior. Hopefully this will help us to understand what is going on in their minds so that we aren’t so damn confused anymore. Here are the responses I got:

1. He got what he wanted from you and doesn’t care to see you anymore. This is well-known as the old hump ‘n dump. If a guy is only after one thing and he gets it, he has no use for you anymore. That is, unless a time comes around that he wants to get it again and then he’ll suddenly come back around.

2. He is no longer interested and doesn’t want you digging around in his business. There is normally a confrontation of some sort before this happens like a break-up, or an argument. Or maybe you know he was just cheating on your best friend and he doesn’t want that info leaking.

3. He is confused about his own emotions and is taking a break from you to figure them out. This is okay because it is better for you if he figures them out before getting you involved in any way. There is nothing worse than getting with a guy and then figuring out that he isn’t sure about his own intentions. He could also be really into you and confused about his reactions to you.

When a Guy Blocks You What Does It Mean and What to Do


4. He needs space and time to think. In order to have that quiet moment, he took you out of the picture. This is not necessarily a bad thing. He could be trying to figure out if he’s ready to propose, or if his head is in-line with his heart.

5. He is following bad advice to try and get you to miss him and realize your feelings for him. This is one of those mind games that men pull. Why not just ask you how you feel about him? No one really knows. But this is one of his go-to moves to have you eating out of the palm of his hand. It’s the old trick of calling you every day and then waiting you out to see if you’ll go to him.

6. He is trying to prove a point to you. Yes, it’s yet another mind game. Perhaps you disagreed with something he said and he is now trying to get the point across that if you don’t agree with him, he won’t like you. Blocking you is his way of shutting you out until you beg. Don’t beg.

7. He disagreed with you about something and doesn’t know how to talk to you about it, so he just cut off communication instead. This is pretty childish, but we have all done it in one way or another at some point. The blocking will probably only be temporary since the two of you will eventually forget about the whole disagreement.

8. He is tired of seeing your status updates about your meals, your workouts, and everything else that you are doing. Some people prefer simplicity and constant updates clog their feeds. Don’t take it personally; just shrug it off and move on.

If you get the sudden cold shoulder from a guy, at least you’ll have a few ideas about what could be causing the odd behavior. Just figure out if he’s worth it to you to go through the trouble of deciphering his reasons and getting him back. If he’s not, then just let it go and move on with your life. If you think he’s playing mind games, run in the other direction because he sucks and you don’t want to deal with that in your life. If you like him and think he’s worth it, then just ask him what’s up. It’s the easiest thing to do.


  1. His friends keep making moves on me and I got so angry or night that I called him to tell him about what had happened. He got mad that I told him. That ticked me off and I kinda went crazy on him. Told him that his friends act the way they do because he talks about me to them. He told me to delete his number. I told him I won’t be told by him what to do. He blocked me on Whatsapp but started texting me on Facebook Messenger. When I pointed that out he blocked me on Facebook as well. The next day he slept over at my place but still hasn’t unblocked me.

    • He is unwilling to treat you with the respect that you require for this relationship. Determine what you want for the future of this relationship. Decide if you believe this relationship is viable. Ensure that if this relationship continues, that he is more understanding of your needs and respectful of your desires. Have a great day, Yolanda!

  2. Hi. My boyfriend of two years and I were in a long distance relationship. We loved each other so much and We’ve never met each other in person. I wanted to move to his place. I was really serious about that. We talked on the phone 24/7. He bought me beautiful presents and we talked about future, marriage and etc .. I don’t know what happened to him..all of sudden he said: I have many problems and I can’t be responsible for you! First we need to see each other in person and find out if we can live together. But I was disagree because he changed his words. Long story short, he blocked me on every social media! It’s been 3 months since he blocked me. I talked to him one month after the break up. Ask him if we can stay in touch till I move on to his place. He said he doesn’t think about the relationship at the moment and we can stay friends! But I refused and said goodbye to him. Last week I deleted my telegram account and registered for a new account. He found out and blocked me again! Now I have three questions :1.why he still has my number? 2.why he blocked me even when I said to him it’s over? His reaction confused me. 3.we really loved each other but he has some bad relationships in the past and some economic issues at the moment. In total he’s a pessimistic person. Will he come back again and unblock me?? Have you any suggestion? Thanks for your time and help ^__^

    • His behaviors may be indications that he is unable or unwilling to maintain this relationship with you. He may feel as though this relationship is not viable, as the distance between you may have caused him to feel this way. There may be someone else in his life. Regardless of the reasons for his actions, he has decided to end this relationship with you. Allow thoughts of him to fade. Learn from this relationship. Share your kindness and compassion with everyone in your life. Have a great day, Peggy!

  3. Hi my name is sarah i’ve been also in a long distance relationship my bf and I were okay no problem at all.. and then one day i met a guy when i attended event my friend invited me at first i didn’t noticed him and he’s not my type but i find him cute anyways we became friends and i can say that we have a lot in common most esp when it comes to humor and interest after chatting and talking to him a few weeks or months he confessed that he had a crush on me before since the first time he saw me and he’s telling me a lot of story he noticed every details about me at first i don’t believe him but after telling me accurate stories about me since day 1 we met i started believing on him now he’s telling me that he loves me and he can’t live without me i can’ t control my self but also fall in love with him but i keep on controlling my self because i already have a bf.. I ask him to stay away from him because i know it’s not good that i’m falling inlove with someone else while i have a bf what can i do need advice. Thank you!

    • You are in a relationship. Allow thoughts of this other person to fade. Do not attempt to harm your current partner. If you are no longer happy in your current relationship, then determine what you want for your future. Do not attempt to nourish a new relationship while you are currently maintaining one. Continue to share your kindness and compassion with everyone in your life. Have a great day, Sara!

  4. I initiated the break up in the first place because he refused to give me reasons for the dumb things that he has done. A week later I regretted my decision and we met up to talk and I pretty much told him all the stuff that he did that make me really angry/ upset in the relationship, he didn’t say anything but we kind of got back together. A few days later, we were talking on fb and decide we will meet the next day. Next day comes around and I suddenly saw that he blocked me on fb?! I called him once, didn’t pick up and I left it there. It has been about 5 weeks since that incident, we had no contact at all. I’m still curious why he did that and I’m deciding if I should just forgive and forget and move on…thoughts? Thank you 🙂

    • You decided to end this relationship. You attempted to rekindle the relationship. He decided to block you. His behaviors are reflections of his feelings and influences. He is no longer interested in maintaining a relationship with you. Allow thoughts of him to fade. Determine what you want for your future without him. Have a great day, Chelsea!

  5. Hi im in high school and there has been a boy. he started to talk to me in the hall ways. then when days went we are in the hall so he asked me to give him a huge. after that his friends came out the class room and said is that your girlfriend. then he said yes. so in my mind i wondered what was going on. then when lunch came he asked for my imformation. i gave it to him. ever since then every time when we see each other in school he would huge me. sometimes he would text me. then a few days later we saw each other again this time we kissed. then every thing was still in. days pass on and i was at home then he texted me. he said the word “ayee” so i said “sup” after that he didnt text me back but he did read what i sent him. the next day i wanted to text him. then i looked he blocked me. so now he goes to a different school. and he didn’t text me back yet its been about 7 or 6 days. what should i do?

    • He was interested in developing a relationship with you. He is now going to a different school. He may not feel that this relationship is viable. He chosen to end this relationship in an inappropriate manner. Allow thoughts of him to fade. Take this time to determine what you want for your future without him. Have a great day, Jeni!

  6. Hi I’m a university student. I met him at pub a month ago and then we talked .One day , I drunk and I said stupid thing with him like he playing Facebook but not answering my text messages . Thus , I texted him again and he said whatever I’m done. After that, he blocked my Instagram , my Facebook .A few days ago , he unblocked me and I met him by chance . So I say Hi to him and he said ” How are you ? and he also asked who do you with ? Why do you come here ? and then I walked away . Do you think he still wants to talk with me ?

    • He has unblocked you. He was uncertain as to why he saw you. He walked away, which may mean that he is uncomfortable. Give him an opportunity to reach out to you. Determine what you want for your future. Perhaps attempt to speak with him again. You may find benefit in allowing him to fade from your thoughts. Have a great day, Nan!

  7. I had an ex boyfriend he blocked me in all social media account, but there were really times that he used to unblocked me, then after several days i will be block then unblock again. Sometimes i am really curious that he really took an effort just to block and unblock me? For what purposes? I just cant understand.

    • His behaviors are indications that he is unable or unwilling to maintain a healthy relationship with you. Allow thoughts of him to fade. Determine what you want for your future without him. If he speaks to you in the future, then share your kindness and compassion with him. Have a great day, Megan!

  8. Hi,

    Recently, a man I have been dating (who has a potentially life-threatening illness), has deleted and blocked me from all social media accounts, but still has my number (I can see my messages are going through).

    Things were going so great. He wasn’t responding as much lately but I chalked it up to him not feeling well from treatment for his illness. We literally texted the morning before he deleted me on social media.

    What could this possibly mean?

    • He has chosen to delete and block you. This may be due to a variety of reasons. If you believe this is out of character, then he may be having emotional stress. Perhaps attempt to reach out to him. He may no longer be interested in nourishing a relationship with you. Determine what you believe is appropriate. If he reaches out to you in the future, then share your kindness and compassion with him. Have a great day, Fanny!

  9. Its been 3months since we broke up with my ex. And honestly, there were really times i miss him. Now im good in my life. And ive been chatting and dating with a guy now and it makes me feel good anyway. But i one day, i saw my ex in my dreams, i dont how i was able to dreamt about him while, i totally moved on already. I dont know what does it mean.

    • Your dreams about your ex are reflections of your previous emotional connection with him. You are in a relationship at this time, and you have developed a strong relationship with him. Allow thoughts of him to fade, and focus your emotional energy on your current partner, as this will strengthen your current relationship. Have a great day, Megan!

  10. I know a man (age 47)three months ago, he is 5yrs older than me. Since day 1 .. we chat everyday, we shared everything (hobbies, food, work, family, parents , plan trip together and plan for retirement, etc )and we were so connected, care for each other just like soulmate.
    We went for vacation and everything went well. Though we don’t have much time together when we are back (due to work /travel).. but we stay in touch everyday. Lately I know he is facing a lot of pressure with his business.. but our communication (through message) continue, caring and loving . But no sure why suddenly he stop replying my message and the next day he blocked me (call and WhatsApp)
    I’m shattered.. I miss him so much and desperately hope to hear from him. I have been think again and again but totally no clue why he do this to me. There wasn’t any argument or disagreement.. we were all good .. and supposed to go for another short trip together soon.
    Can you tell me what could be the reason that he suddenly blocked me? I can’t even think of 1 reason..

    • He has blocked you. You are aware of one possible reason, though you have not mentioned it. That indicates that your reason is likely personal, and therefore is the most likely reason. He has blocked you, so you can not confirm your thoughts. Because of this, allow your emotional connection with him to fade. Determine what you want for your future without him. Have a great day, Leng!

  11. Hi I don’t know where to start because my situation is kind of complicated I have met a guy in a website dating website we have been talking for three months in the time that we were decided to Met he started in a big argument with me about I change with him I’m not honest with him but truly deep I was always honest with him when I get off from work I text him I tell him I’m off from work everything I always text him and tell him what I’m doing what I’m not doing but suddenly it was on Sunday afternoon was at work when I came back home in the afternoon at 8 PM I text him I said baby I’m home and then he just text back and said OK baby so I was waiting till he text me back but he didn’t and I fell asleep of the sofa and after 2 to 3 hours he told me good night we will talk tomorrow before I leave because he was coming on Monday for us to meet Just because he didn’t have a quick replied he text me a whole long romance text talking about I change with him I was never honest with him and said since I came from the Halloween party I’m all the time online and that’s not true , and we was keep on discuss ! Suddenly he wrote me a long ass texts and he block me everywhere on WhatsApp and Instagram ! But this guy are really interested in him and I wanna get to know him I buy me a extra sim card I put on my phone I text him he replied but his reply was kind of cold He said OK we will make a deal on July will be my birthday you can keep the sim card so that you can text me that time then we will find a way to meet so I questioned him why you don’t unblock me from my normal number his reply was if I am block you you will always wanna know what I’m doing because at that time I don’t have enough time. To replied and if I’m not replied on time you will get mad I’m working every day I’m trying to build my house and I’m not ready for stress ! But he said he was going to unblock me on Instagram but tell now he don’t do it and that place why should I do should I just leave him alone or remind him ? Juliy 2019 is a long way to wait on a guy and you’re not even going to text with him whole time I thought maybe the feeling will goes way But I guess I have to be patient because I’m not into any other guy then him!

    • His behavior are indications that he is not someone who is willing to treat you with respect. He has blocked you, which may mean that he is not taking your relationship seriously. You will find benefit in allowing this relationship to fade. Determine what you want for your future without him. You may want to attempt to nourish relationships with people that you meet in person. Please share your insights and experiences in the future. Have a great day, Rosena!


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