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What Does It Mean When A Guy Blocks You?

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Guys are complicated creatures. They have a way of knocking a girl right off her feet and then leaving her cold and alone. Just when she gets used to the cold, he walks right back up and offers her a warm fire. It’s so confusing that girls are typically left with their heads spinning trying to keep up with his latest mood.

One of a guy’s favorite moves to knock a girl off balance is the cold shoulder. They like to pretend that women are the complicated ones that play mind games, but guys have an entire playbook of them and women hate mind games. Also, if a woman is thinking of giving a guy the cold shoulder, it’s normally because he did something idiotic. A guy just does it to see what happens and to force you into being the submissive one. At least that’s what it always seems like.

In order to figure out why guys decide to give a girl the cold shoulder, or block her suddenly, I went out and asked a few guys to explain their odd behavior. Hopefully this will help us to understand what is going on in their minds so that we aren’t so damn confused anymore. Here are the responses I got:

1. He got what he wanted from you and doesn’t care to see you anymore. This is well-known as the old hump ‘n dump. If a guy is only after one thing and he gets it, he has no use for you anymore. That is, unless a time comes around that he wants to get it again and then he’ll suddenly come back around.

2. He is no longer interested and doesn’t want you digging around in his business. There is normally a confrontation of some sort before this happens like a break-up, or an argument. Or maybe you know he was just cheating on your best friend and he doesn’t want that info leaking.

3. He is confused about his own emotions and is taking a break from you to figure them out. This is okay because it is better for you if he figures them out before getting you involved in any way. There is nothing worse than getting with a guy and then figuring out that he isn’t sure about his own intentions. He could also be really into you and confused about his reactions to you.

When a Guy Blocks You What Does It Mean and What to Do



4. He needs space and time to think. In order to have that quiet moment, he took you out of the picture. This is not necessarily a bad thing. He could be trying to figure out if he’s ready to propose, or if his head is in-line with his heart.

5. He is following bad advice to try and get you to miss him and realize your feelings for him. This is one of those mind games that men pull. Why not just ask you how you feel about him? No one really knows. But this is one of his go-to moves to have you eating out of the palm of his hand. It’s the old trick of calling you every day and then waiting you out to see if you’ll go to him.

6. He is trying to prove a point to you. Yes, it’s yet another mind game. Perhaps you disagreed with something he said and he is now trying to get the point across that if you don’t agree with him, he won’t like you. Blocking you is his way of shutting you out until you beg. Don’t beg.

7. He disagreed with you about something and doesn’t know how to talk to you about it, so he just cut off communication instead. This is pretty childish, but we have all done it in one way or another at some point. The blocking will probably only be temporary since the two of you will eventually forget about the whole disagreement.

8. He is tired of seeing your status updates about your meals, your workouts, and everything else that you are doing. Some people prefer simplicity and constant updates clog their feeds. Don’t take it personally; just shrug it off and move on.

If you get the sudden cold shoulder from a guy, at least you’ll have a few ideas about what could be causing the odd behavior. Just figure out if he’s worth it to you to go through the trouble of deciphering his reasons and getting him back. If he’s not, then just let it go and move on with your life. If you think he’s playing mind games, run in the other direction because he sucks and you don’t want to deal with that in your life. If you like him and think he’s worth it, then just ask him what’s up. It’s the easiest thing to do.

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  1. I was talking to this guy and then he sent a a photo of him and I just zoomed it in and sent it back to him as a joke and then he blocked me out of no where

    • His behavior was a reaction to your behavior. He likely want confused and uncertain about the purpose of your action. This may have made him feel negative, which led him to block you. Allow him to fade from your thoughts. You are lucky to have this kind of person out of your life. Ensure that you continue to share your kindness and compassion with everyone in your life. Have a great day, Girl!

  2. What should I do my bf cheated m with another gf whome he met online since for 4 years..when I found he cheated me he treated m badly and immedaitely blocked me ..i than told everything to his sister and that to his online gf . If he had relationship before why he need another relatinship. We r very closed with each other used to spend most of the time togethers at work.i know he have done a mistake bt why I still love him and want him back

    • He cheated on you and then blocked you. You are lucky to be out of this relationship. You do not need this kind of abuse and neglect in your life. Allow thoughts of him to fade. Determine what you want for your future without him. If he reaches out to you, share your thoughts and feelings with him. Inform him of how his behaviors made you feel. Have a great day, Rosy!

  3. Me and a guy were in a relationship which went on smooth but after sometime.. Few people understood about our relationship and he had to give a promise to them to never speak to me.. This happened in 2016 and then in 2017 we started to follow each other in insta and facebook and sorts of social media.. I still love him, though I don’t know what is going on with him. Once I was just a bit angry on him for a matter a mnd blocked him. I tried to forget him but couldn’t so unblocked him again.. Later when he realised that I had unblocked him.. He blocked me.. And ever since.. He hasnt unblocked.. We are in the same college but he still ignores me.. I don’t know if he ignores me because of that promise or does he really hate me

    • You blocked him, which likely caused him to feel confused and uncertain. This may have led to him no longer feelings an emotional connection with you. He then decided to block you. This means that he is not interested in maintaining a relationship with you and is not interested in being contacted by you. Allow thoughts of him to fade. Determine what you want for your future without him. Have a great day, Ananya!

  4. Me and a guy were in a relationship which went on smooth but after sometime.. Few people understood about our relationship and he had to give a promise to them to never speak to me.. This happened in 2016 and then in 2017 we started to follow each other in insta and facebook and sorts of social media.. I still love him, though I don’t know what is going on with him. Once I was just a bit angry on him for a matter a mnd blocked him. I tried to forget him but couldn’t so unblocked him again.. Later when he realised that I had unblocked him.. He blocked me.. And ever since.. He hasnt unblocked.. We are in the same college but he still ignores me.. I don’t know if he ignores me because of that promise or does he really hate me.. Help me with this confusion please.

    • You blocked him, which likely caused him to feel confused and uncertain. This may have led to him no longer feelings an emotional connection with you. He then decided to block you. This means that he is not interested in maintaining a relationship with you and is not interested in being contacted by you. Allow thoughts of him to fade. Determine what you want for your future without him. Have a great day, Ananya!

  5. This is a complicated story. So me and this guy (who I’ll call Alec) isn’t on good terms anymore. We first became friends because my now-ex best friend liked him. So I helped her start a relationship with him and helped them theough their relationship because she had to keep it a secret. At first I didn’t like him since all the bad stuff my ex-bestie told me about him and how he was taking her from me and our group of friends. Eventually I got used to him and got to know him as himself instead of her boyfriend so we became really close friends. They had a really toxic relationship because my ex-bestie had all the control in the relationship and always determined when they were together and when they were not. So truthfully I felt bad for Alec and I could’ve related to him with that because in me and my ex-bestie’s friendship she had all the control. So anyways our friendship ended because I didn’t want to take sides on a situation and me and Alec remained close. I gained feelings for him 2-3 months after the huge fight with my ex best friends and our friendship got really complicated. I told him I liked him maybe a month after I realized my feelings and he was fine with it until this girl who also have feelings for him, told him that I started a rumor that they liked each other (even though it’s a complete lie and she started it herself ) he told me that he needs a break A LONG one and then blocked me on Snapchat .

    • You have had a complicated social experience, and these relationships may have permanently changed because of it. Your ex best friend and you may want to decide what you want for your future. The man in your life has chosen to block you. This means that he is unlikely to be interested in continuing to maintain a relationship with you. Have a great day, Layla!

  6. I never had closure with my ex and we broke up a month ago. I felt down recently and talked to one of my friends and she said the reason you feel like this is because you never had any closure. So I told him could we meet later to talk. He agreed to meet up and talk later. And then all of a sudden he blocked me on everything. I’m so confused.

    • It seems like he doesn’t want to talk about anything after all. While you need closure, he may be fine with just moving on. After agreeing to talk, he may re-thought about it and realized that there is nothing left that he needs to talk about. Unfortunately, this means that you might not be able to get the closure you need. It seems like his way of moving on is trying to forget you and heal as much as possible, so it does not seem like he will be interested in talking any time soon.

  7. Hi i’ve been in a relationship for 8yrs and i got bored because i thought my bf don’t have plans for us.. Then i started seeing someone else just to divert my attention but suddenly i fell inlove with this guy i can’t help my self but to think about him everyday. I was just afraid because i have strong feeling for this guy until now that i’m engage with my bf in 8yrs..i was just confused right now because i will get married nextyear but i still have feelings with other man although i’m aware that the guy i’ve dated distant himself to me after knowing that i’m already engage. I’m so confused

    • It is easy to fall for someone else. We always wonder about the “what-ifs” in life like what if we had dated someone else or what if we had taken a different job. Sometimes, these “what-ifs” can get in the way of your actual happiness because you become depressed and wonder what your life would have been like. When you first start dating someone, there is an intense infatuation stage caused by hormones within the mind. During this stage, it becomes nearly impossible to think of anyone else. This stage eventually turns into affection and a lasting love, which are easier for the mind to maintain over the long term. In your case, it seems like you are dealing with the infatuation stage and a major “what-if.” The best thing that you can do is move on and forget about the guy. You are obviously well-matched with your fiance, so it would be horrible to throw that relationship away for a “what-if.” In most cases like this, part of the attraction of the other man is that he is forbidden. Supposing you acted on these feelings, the love would eventually die down and then you would be devastated when you realized your mistake. Try to avoid the other guy and focus on your relationship. With time, those feelings will fade.

  8. I was talking to this guy on s dating app. Everything was going great until he said we’re two different people but he won’t tell me why. I think he’s afraid to share this information with me and how I’ll react. He said leave me alone in general for the time being. Do you think i should just give him space?

    • If he wants space, then give him space. He said that you are two different people, so it is possible that he feels like you are not the exact match for each other. No matter what is going on in his mind, the best thing that you can do is give him space. He will either realize that you are a good match, or he will have time to understand his feelings behind not wanting a relationship together. Good luck, L!

  9. After a few days of being a little annoyed with each other (and to be fair, both making hurtful verbal stabs) I suggested we have a lunch with the purpose not to talk about our recent differences, but to have a nice time together to get out of our rut. First excuse was he was busy, the second was that he already had arranged lunch that day and the last was that he was mad at everyone and everything so he is going to keep to himself from now on and as such he didn’t want to have lunch with me.

    Our male mutual friend later tells me they went to the pub for a couple of beers (during the ‘would be’ lunchtime). I was hurt but didn’t want to go to my usual defensive act of screaming at him, so I gathered my nerve and I didn’t say another word to him – radio silence is not me AT ALL so I know it would’ve been noticed.

    Anyway, later that day me and our male mutual friend decided that we would go for a drink together and picked a venue. somewhere along the line ‘Mr lunch excuses’ was invited. Our male mutual friend was free earlier than I was and told me that they would go to another place while waiting for me. Well, this sent my anxiety through the roof so I was purposely late and decided to go straight to our agreed venue so they would have to leave where they to meet me. Our male mutual friend eventually arrives alone and says that he could do with me and this man not fighting.

    Same night I get blocked on Facebook but not on Whatsapp which is how we communicate (which by the way, he’s been active on a few times since despite the fact I’m the only person he talks to on there)

    I guess he is offended I have iced him and he trying to pull a power move?

    What I can say for sure is that not all is fair in love and war because I’m really hurting 😔

    Great blog!

    • The two of you have made your decisions and behaved in particular ways. It is clear that neither of you are interested in maintaining a relationship with each other. He has chosen to block you. You can choose to learn from this relationship, and ensure that your future behaviors are positive and beneficial. Have a great day, Xoxo!

  10. I’ve been with the guy for bout 3 years now..for bout two years we weren’t that serious…each time I say something he doesn’t like he would block me.. we then got serious n we were OK until he blocked me few months back n i discovered he was cheating on me…I then forgave him.. recently we had a misunderstanding he blocked me now he’s not talking to me at all..and the rship that we have its a long distance one.. I’m confused I don’t know what to do as I love him

    • He has cheated on you and blocked you. He has shown you that he does not respect you or this relationship. Determine what you want for your future, and ensure that you do not nourish an abusive relationship. Focus your emotional energy elsewhere at this time, as it is unlikely that he will be willing to respect your wishes. Have a great day, Prudence!

  11. I have a friend which we have been together for a month now and it seems we liked each other,but he easily gets angry at when he wants to see me and I don’t meet with the Planned time.
    Recently he called and wanted to check on me but I didn’t not come out in time and he got angry left and blocked me on whatapp because that is where we normally chat although I was not online.
    I actually met him up on the road when he was leaving angrily and he told me himself he doesn’t know why he is still happy to see me that he just blocked me on whatapp angrily.
    But I told him sorry and asked him to unblock me.
    What do you think?

    • He is attempting to control you and your actions. He wants to know where you are at all times. This type of person may be emotionally manipulative. It is possible that he wants to develop a relationship with you. Determine what you want for your future. Speak with him about your thoughts and feelings, or allow him to fade from your mind. Have a great day, Ree!

  12. why does my ex block me in all after break up. He dosent even tried to talk to me personally to make me understand things. I must be the to do that because i am more than hurt than him but why?. there are a lot of question digging in my mind why does it happened i thought were happy, why does he cut off our communication without making clear all the things to me?

    • The two of you ended your relationship, so your ex has chosen to block you. This is common for people when they feel a relationship has been stressful or harmful to their emotional well-being. There may have been a variety of reasons behind his actions. However, he is not willing to share that information with you. If you want closure, then attempt to speak with him in person. Have a great day, Darlene!

      • Is there a chance that he will come back to me? That after all he loves me. Is it like he just need some space or what.

        • It is possible that his feelings will change. It is possible that he is no longer interested in maintaining a relationship with you. Give him an opportunity to reach out to you. Determine what you want for your future without him. If he reaches out to you, then share your thoughts and feelings with him at that time. Have a great day, Darlene!

      • I dont know why i do have the feeling that one day my ex will come back to me Though i know now that it will not happen. Its like my brain and heart fights on this belief.

        • Thank you for sharing your thoughts and feelings. It is possible that he will attempt to nourish a relationship with you. He may have put thoughts of you to the past. Take this time to determine what you want for your future without him. Have a great day, Kriza!

      • I dont know why im beliveing that one day my ex and i will reconcile and will start a new one while i know for a fact that all is gone and its so impossible that he will change his mind.

        • Thank you for sharing your thoughts and feelings. It is possible that he will attempt to nourish a relationship with you. He may have put thoughts of you to the past. Take this time to determine what you want for your future without him. Have a great day, Grace!

  13. i miss him so much does he miss me too? does he wanted to see me also? Is he also hurt? Its hard for me to move on.

    • He has chosen to block you. This means that he does not want to see you. He also is not interested in speaking with you. There may be many reasons for his actions. Determine what you want for your future without him. Focus your emotional energy elsewhere. Have a great day, Darlene!

  14. So I was recently chating with this guy on whatsapp always and he always replied me or checked up on me and last week a friend of his told me he said he has blocked me on whatsapp ..But I know I didnt do anyhting wrong what so u guys think if I did a wrong thing of minding my business

    • There are a variety of reasons for why he may have behaved in this way. It is possible that there is another person in his life who caused him to block you. Something may have caused him to feel uncertain or confused about his thoughts and feelings. Regardless, he has blocked you, so allow your thoughts of him to fade. Determine what you want for your future without him. Have a great day, Gabriella!

  15. Why would a guy block me if I didn’t do anything to him always just check up on him and he does the same thing so what exactly might be wrong .

    • There are a variety of reasons for why he may have behaved in this way. It is possible that there is another person in his life who caused him to block you. Something may have caused him to feel uncertain or confused about his thoughts and feelings. Regardless, he has blocked you, so allow your thoughts of him to fade. Determine what you want for your future without him. Have a great day, Gabriella!

  16. My boyfriend and I are in a long distance relationship. We used to be together before because of his job he has to moved in London. We talked and videochat regularly and he’s planning to come back here after his project there. Just 2 weeks ago he got fired in his job and flew back here. Since he came back here I just seen him once and we’re not talking that much unlike before. He’s telling me that he’s feeling down and out, he don’t have a job, car and he’s staying with his brother. And he want a some time alone. He even tells that he don’t want to talk to anyone because he don’t know what to say. He said he want to be in his own right now. I don’t know what to do or what to say to him. I don’t understand what he meant when he said he wants to be in his own right now. I’m confused.

    • He feels depressed. He does not feel as though he has the emotional energy to nourish your relationship. Determine what you want for your future. Either attempt to spend additional time with him, or give him time to himself. Continue to share your kindness and compassion with him. You may find that his behaviors will change, so you may want to speak with his brother about your partner’s emotional well being. Have a great day, Bella!

  17. My boyfriend and I are in a long distance relationship. We used to be together before because of his job he has to moved in London. We talked and videochat regularly and he’s planning to come back here after his project there. Just 2 weeks ago he got fired in his job and flew back here. Since he came back here I just seen him once and we’re not talking that much unlike before. He’s telling me that he’s feeling down and out, he don’t have a job, car and he’s staying with his brother. And he want a some time alone. He even tells that he don’t want to talk to anyone because he don’t know what to say. He said he want to be in his own right now. I don’t know what to do or what to say to him. I don’t understand what he meant when he said he wants to be in his own right now. I’m confused. We had a misunderstanding 4 days ago and he blocked me in instagram but after 3 days we talked again. He keeps on telling me he wants some time alone.

    • He feels depressed. He does not feel as though he has the emotional energy to nourish your relationship. Determine what you want for your future. Either attempt to spend additional time with him, or give him time to himself. Continue to share your kindness and compassion with him. You may find that his behaviors will change, so you may want to speak with his brother about your partner’s emotional well being. Have a great day, Bella!

  18. I met this guy online, we exchange info and we talking on Snapchat. I really like him and he seem to have a interest in me, we even FaceTime each other and talked everyday and now all of sudden, he blocks me on Snapchat and my phone number and I don’t know why. Especially because I was really nice to him and sent him some encouragement everyday.

    • He has blocked you, and this may be caused by a variety of reasons. It is certainly possible that he has someone else in his life who influenced his actions. Allow thoughts of him to fade. You may find that many people have difficulty in maintaining relationships. Determine what you want for your future without him. Have a great day, Jarron!

    • If he has blocked you, then he is not interested in developing a relationship with you. You can attempt to reach out to him, but do not expect him to respond. People who block someone without explanations are often influenced by other people in their lives. It is possible that this behavior is an indication of other actions that he may take. Determine what you want for your future without him. Have a great day, Rain!

  19. This guy i have been friends with been chatting to me and having banter in person and on social media i.e. snapchat and instagram for a while. I saw him in person we had great banter and next day or that evening he had unfriended / unfollowed me. I know i haven’t done anything wrong and when he saw me few days after unfriending he didnt even acknowledge me.

    • It is unlikely that you did anything wrong. His behaviors are indications of his immaturity. There may be another influence in his life that caused him to take this action. Because he blocked you, you are aware that this relationship is no longer viable. Allow thoughts of him to fade, and allow this experience to guide your future actions. Have a great day, Kiran!

    • There may be a variety of reasons for his actions. If he unblocked you, then he may be interested in nourishing a relationship with you. Determine what you want for your future. Perhaps speak with him about your thoughts and feelings. Have a great day, Darlene!

  20. I have met a guy online we talked for two months he was really interested in me and we loved eachother one day at midnight my sister was on call with me when he called and my fone showed him busy after 5minyres i called him back and messaged him but he didn’t pick next morning when i wokeup he blocked me from everywhere i have no idea why i love him so much i tried to contact him from everywhere but he keeps on blocking me i don’t know what to do.

    • This person has blocked you. He is unable or unwilling to maintain a relationship with you at this time. The two of you may have shared a strong social and emotional connection in the past. Determine what you want for your future without him. Ensure that you share your kindness and compassion with the world, as this will bring positive people into your life. Have a great day, Elsa!

  21. Hi i would like to ask for an advice there’s a guy i’ve been seeing He’s courting me for a long time and we go on several dates at first i didn’t like him but eventually i end up falling for him. But suddenly he changed and he started ignoring me that’s why i decided to go abroad to find my self and moved on. After several months that we don’t have connections and communication now we are starting to talk again as if there’s nothing happened.now that i totally moved on he’s started telling me again that he misses me and he likes me and he’s asking if i still i like him to be my husband and get married to him he also tell me what if i’ll throw you away i will miss the chance maybe you are the one that i’ve been praying for the long time. I’m a bit shocked in what he’s saying right now i’m confused why he’s telling me this now that i already seeing someone else and i like someone else i don’t know he’s purpose please help.

    • He is attempting to share his thoughts and feelings with you. It sounds as though he may have difficulties sharing his ideas. Take this time to determine what you want for your future. You have no obligation to this friend from your past. Decide what you believe is appropriate. If you are currently in a relationship, then perhaps make a decision based on the merits of your partner. Have a great day, Nancy!

    • He is married. You will find great benefit in ending this relationship. He needs to focus his emotional attention on this wife. Take this time to determine what you want for the future of this relationship. Speak with him about your thoughts and feelings. Decide what you want for your future without nourishing a romantic relationship with him. Have a great day, Zendra!

  22. So me and this guy were really vibing super hard. In a month we had gotten so close. All of a sudden, he said he needed time to think n to slow down cause we were moving so fast. The thing is when i said that a mknth earlier he was ok with it. Next thing i know he blocks me on snap chat and his phone. So I ran into him and asked hin why. He said because he has to get things in order in his life and before he can keep telling people i am his lady he wants to be certain about his feelings and how he feels and what he really wants if he wants this. He said his past relationship really messed him up. I am left confused because it seems like this is his way of breaking up without saying it is over. But a part of me says that he reallybis confused about his feelings for me and maybe he does need time to think things through. It just hurts. Any thoughts on what you all think.

    Thanks
    Ryia

    • He has shared his thoughts and feelings with you. He has chosen to block you. He is no longer able or willing to maintain a relationship with you at this time. Since he has chosen to block you, ensure that you allow this relationship to fade from your mind. Determine what you want for your future without him. Share your kindness and compassion with everyone in your life. Have a great day, Ryia!

    • If your ex blocks and unblocks you, then he is uncertain about his thoughts and feelings. Do not reach out to him at this time. He likely will not expect you to do so. If you are no longer interested in maintaining a relationship with him, then perhaps you may want to block him. Determine what actions you believe are appropriate. Have a great day, Grace!

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