If you’ve ever had the dilemma of figuring out what exactly a guy means when he’s texting you, you’re not alone. Imagine you’re texting with a guy you know- friend, co-worker, acquaintance, or guy you just met last night at the social function -and he starts calling you ‘baby’. It’s an intimate enough of a phrase that it must mean something.
‘Baby’ is a pet name, after all, something that you usually call your significant other. But what does it mean when a guy calls you baby while you’re texting and you’re not currently intimately engaged? If it’s out of left field, you’re probably really confused as to what that guy is trying to get at.
Don’t worry, you’re not alone. Men are notoriously bad at communicating what it is they want, or what they are thinking. If you have found yourself in the situation of needing to decode a text from a guy, don’t worry. You’ve come to the right place.
1. He thinks of you romantically
If you are texting a guy who is a close friend and you text back and forth together a lot, he may call you ‘baby’ if he’s testing the waters of getting together with you romantically. Maybe there’s some romantic or sexual tension between the two of you. If you’ve noticed it too, it’s probable that he’s starting to think of you as more than friends.
Since some guys tend to have some issues with communicating how they actually feel, he might just be dropping ‘baby’ in a text to be able to see how you’ll react. Sending a risky text is a lot easier for people than talking face to face. It’s easier to get rejected over text, after all. If you’re not interested, give him a gentle swerve. But if you are, you can mention that he’s started calling you ‘baby’ and how you feel about that.
2. He already thinks you’re dating
‘Baby’ is typically a pet name you give your significant other. So, he might be a little confused over the boundaries between you. Are you dating? Have you hung out a lot? Have you held hands, flirted, maybe kissed a little? If he’s calling you baby, he might already consider you two an item. Guys can be a little slow on the uptake when it comes to communicating what they think, even- or especially -when it comes to relationships and feelings.
If you’re interested in getting together with him, you should sit him down and make sure you get the relationship talk out of the way. If you two are on different pages about whether or not you’re dating, one or both of you could end up getting hurt. If you’re more interested in a little fling, nothing serious, you should most definitely sit down and have a talk with him.
3. He’s a player
If you don’t know this guy well, and maybe you’re just acquaintances, him calling you ‘baby’ could mean he’s more interested in what’s in your pants than what’s in your head. An easy way to tell if he’s just a player is if he starts calling you ‘baby’ right out of the gate when you start texting. You exchange phone numbers, and start texting and that very day he breaks out the ‘baby’.
If there’s no lead up to some romantic texts, he probably has a lot of girls that he calls ‘baby’, and his only interest in texting you is to see if he can get some action. If you’re totally into some strings-free fun, enjoy it. But if you’re the type to get attached, make sure you try and figure out if he’s really into you before going further.
4. He doesn’t know you name
I know, that’s probably a bad thought, but it’s definitely probable. If you met this guy at the bar, or the club, or just between some mutual friends, he very well could just not know who you are. ‘Baby’ is a safe bet. It’s a pet name. It’s cute. If you had a mutual attraction together when you met and exchanged numbers, it’s probably a safe name to call you. He’ll probably never admit that he doesn’t know your name.
He might remember your face, but it’s definitely probable that he can’t remember who you are. Your name in his phone is probably ‘Girl From Bar’. It doesn’t necessarily mean he isn’t a good dude, or that he’s a player, or he doesn’t like you. Maybe the bar was loud, or maybe he just didn’t catch your name while you were caught up chatting and exchanging details. Of course, it could also mean that your number is one of many that he’s collected and he just can’t keep them all straight.
There you have it
When a guy breaks out ‘baby’, it can mean all kinds of things. Some of them good, some of them bad. You’ll want to make sure what the situation entails. Make sure you take into consideration the context, and how well you know one another.
If you’ve been friends for years, a guy calling you ‘baby’ probably doesn’t mean he’s a player, or that he’s forgot your name. Likewise, the guy from the bar last name probably isn’t calling you ‘baby’ because he’s in love with you, or thinks you’re already dating. Even if you still can’t figure out what it means exactly, you at least now have some leads on what’s going on it that guys head.