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What Does It Mean When A Guy Calls You My Love?

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Pet names and nicknames are a staple in a lot of relationships, both romantic and platonic. Girls have been known to call their girl friends ‘babe’, and or men calling their group of guys anywhere from ‘dude’ to ‘bro’. Shorthand names and terms to refer to people you’re close to is one of those endearing human quirks that the only species who has mastered language has. It’s sweet, no matter who you’re saying it to.

Some terms of endearment can cause confusion, however, especially if you’re not sure what they mean or what your relationship with the person is. ‘My love’ can be a confusing pet name to figure out. What does it mean when a guy opts for using ‘my love’ rather than, say, ‘baby’ or ‘babe’ or ‘sweetheart’?

Women across all the lands and sea have turned to the internet to help decode what guys are trying to say when they call a woman ‘my love’. Like most things, it all depends on the context in which the phrase is being said. Is he a new boyfriend? A long-term partner? Are you just friends? Don’t worry, this will help you start to figure it out.

1. He loves you

If you’re in a bit of a long-term relationship, at least six months deep, he’s probably saying that he loves you without saying that he loves you. Men can have trouble communicating their feelings, and nicknames and pet names are an easy way to show that they feel close to you and enjoy the intimacy.

Saying ‘I love you’ can be a big step for guys, so they might start to show it in little ways before actually taking the plunge and saying the big three words. ‘My love’ is a close second. To figure out exactly what he’s trying to say, you can always sit him down and have the big talk. If he’s in love with you, it’ll be a relief if you bring it up first so he doesn’t have to do it.

2. He likes you, but ‘my love’ isn’t a serious pet name to him

If you’re in a relationship that’s still in the budding stages and he says ‘my love’, it could be a pet name that he’s used in past relationships, and it doesn’t necessarily mean that he’s in love with you. ‘My love’ doesn’t always mean that the guy who says it is hopelessly head over heels in love with you. It’s also a popular term of endearment in many different countries and regions.

When he says ‘my love’ to you, it could mean that he likes you quite a bit, but that, colloquially, the term doesn’t carry the same weight as saying ‘I love you’. Maybe he even heard it in a movie and thought that is sounded nice. If it’s still a new relationship, I wouldn’t worry about it too much. Try playing a game to see what each other’s favorite pet names are. It’ll likely turn out ‘my love’ is at the top of his list.



3. He uses it for everyone

If you’re just friends and a guy calls you ‘my love’, it probably means that it’s a casual nickname that he uses for all girl friends. He might be from somewhere that saying ‘my love’ to your casual friends. Observe how he is around his other friends the next time you’re hanging out in a group.

If he uses ‘my love’ with some of them as well, he probably doesn’t mean anything heavy by the term. So, if you’re trying to figure out if one of your guy friend is secretly in love with you and trying to communicate that, you might have to decode something other than his casual use of the term ‘my love’.

There you have it

Guys can have a plethora of reasons for all the things that they do that women can’t seem to figure out. Nicknames can be one of the hardest mysterious to uncover. It’s always better to ask what it means rather than worry over something that might not be a big deal. But, at the same time, you don’t want to dismiss something important to him without meaning to.

Your long-term boyfriend might not be ready to say ‘I love you’, or he may just be picking up an endearing pet name that he heard in a movie or in the numerous British television shows he’s been secretly watching on Netflix. If anything, you can start saying it back and see how he reacts.

24 COMMENTS

  1. My ex b/f and I were together Oct 2016 til Sept 2017 . We are having a baby on the way. We planned this baby before break up. He broke it off with me. On his fb he keeps says come home my love. But it said he single. He said we are not together as lovers but together for our baby fam now no going back. What is he trying to tell me.

    • Take this time to determine what you want for the future of this relationship. Speak directly and honestly with him about your thoughts and feelings. Give him an opportunity to share himself with you as well. Have a great day, Whitney!

    • Sounds to me he was his cake and ice cream. He wants you and to be free at the same time. When I was younger, I experienced the same thing with my ex. This type of man isn’t a healthy person for a relationship. No real man would leave when you get pregnant.

      • Thank you for sharing your thoughts and feelings. Please feel free to share more of your insights and experiences in the future. Have a great day, Jennifer!

  2. A Guy I’ve been friends with for 6 years and says the nicest things about me… this week left me a text saying, Safe flight my love.
    I think the world of him, what is he saying…

    • It is certainly possible that he is interested in developing a relationship with you. It is clear that he cares for you and wants you to be safe. Take this time to determine what you want for your future. Speak directly and honestly with him about your thoughts and feelings. Give him an opportunity to share himself with you as well. Have a great day, Madeleine!

  3. I have a guy that I like but he’s a bit older than me, Every time we communicate he calls me swettie. Im afraid that he might think of me as a “not for in a serious relationship” type of girl. What should I respond to take his interest in me more.

    • It is possible that he wants to develop a romantic relationship with you. He may view you as a friend and may want to share his feelings with you. Determine what you want for your future. If you want to develop a relationship with him, then speak with him about your thoughts and feelings. Spend additional time with him and show him that you want to nourish a relationship with him. Have a great day, Amie!

  4. So I met this guy online who i ended up dating after a month. The following month he left me and said that he felt like he may have rushed me into the relationship and said that his depressed friend needed his help in looking for the right kind of guy, so he is “dating” her right now as a favour but me and him talk exactly as before and its more serious and intimate than before and we often talk about future plans. I love him very much but what should I do?, this girl he is with is suicidal and that’s why he struggles to leave her.

    • He has shared his thoughts and feelings with you. He is nourishing a relationship with another woman. He can not give you the attention and respect that you deserve at this time. Feel free to continue to share your kindness and compassion with him. Do not attempt to harm this relationship. If his relationship naturally ends and he reaches out to you, then share your thoughts and feelings with him. Have a great day, Tia!

      • Thank you for sharing your insights. We always appreciate our community supporting each other. Have a great day, Nena!

  5. So I met this guy online who i ended up dating after a month. The following month he left me and said that he felt like he may have rushed me into the relationship and said that his depressed friend needed his help in looking for the right kind of guy, so he is “dating” her right now as a favour but me and him talk exactly as before and its more serious and intimate than before and we often talk about future plans. I love him very much but what should I do?, this girl he is with is suicidal and that’s why he struggles to leave her.

    • He has shared his thoughts and feelings with you. He is nourishing a relationship with another woman. He can not give you the attention and respect that you deserve at this time. Feel free to continue to share your kindness and compassion with him. Do not attempt to harm this relationship. If his relationship naturally ends and he reaches out to you, then share your thoughts and feelings with him. Have a great day, Tia!

  6. So I have this best guy friend that I’ve been online friends with for almost 2 years now and we have been messing around with each other (phone/video sex) and he’s incredible and says the most perfect things to me and assured me that I’m his world. He had this gf that I sorta pushed him into dating and they broke up. Then it was like he and I got more connected and just completely closed than ever, we made plans to meet and soo each other and all that great stuff. But he had gotten back with his ex and I was devistated bc I knew she hates me and hates the closeness he and I have and that he tells her how important I am to him. So she’s apparently threatened by me and doesn’t want him being friends with me and now he and I don’t talk on the weekends ( bc that’s the only time he see her) and it kills me bc I’m more in love with him than I’ve ever been and he says she makes him happy and the plans he and I made are canceled bc I can’t visit him bc she hates me and ya know. So he and I argue a lot and he says how much he loves me and wants to be with me and how he really wants to meet me but bc of his gf he sorta can’t at the moment. It breaks my heart that he won’t make a sacrifice and show me wat I really mean to him and not just say it. I want to tell him to break up with her since it means he’ll have me but I’d feel like a bad person if I did that so I sorta don’t wanna tell him to and want him to do it on his own but I fear he won’t do it….I need help idk wat to do and I don’t wanna lose him anymore than I fear I may have already :((

    • Continue to share your kindness and compassion with him. Their relationship is rocky due to her jealousy regarding your relationship. Do not attempt to damage their relationship. If you feel that it is appropriate to continue speaking with him, then do so. If their relationship naturally ends, then speak with him about developing a relationship. Have a great day, Leelee!

  7. Hi, I’m new to this blog, but I appreciate the article. I have met someone online, in a gaming site. We have a lot of fun and we talk all the time. We have an age and cultural difference but recently he started calling me baby, mamas, and recently my love. I’m not taking it to seriously because we haven’t even met, but he wants to and I don’t want to read to much into it. Any thoughts?

    • Determine what you want for the future of this relationship. Decide if this relationship is viable. Speak with him about your thoughts and feelings. Share your compassion and kindness with him. You can continue to maintain a friendship with him without developing a romantic relationship. Have a great day, Lisa!

  8. So I met this guy on a dating site we dated for a month and half he told me he loves me.we are almost five months into the relationship but he has never introduced me to his friends and family I only know the nephew that he stays with I was clearly to him that I I’m looking for a serious relationship that could lead to marriage we are both divorced.He is a quiet guy and doesn’t open up much he does so mostly when he notice I’m getting upset. I want to know where the relationship is going I want to know if he has plans for as as a couple I want him to tell me. Is it too early or what. The other thing if he is with his kids he doesn’t call me my love and the call will be brief and formal. I really love him but I don’t know what he thinks of our relationship.

    • There may be a variety of reasons for his actions. It is possible that there is an influence in his life which is preventing him from nourishing a relationship with you. It is possible that your desires are different than his. You will find great benefit in speaking with him about your thoughts and feelings. This will help guide you to make the appropriate decision. Have a great day, Nono!

  9. I open up to him, I’m not ready to commit. He also has another girlfriend far from here. He likes calling me pet names. I have feelings for him. His friends told me that he is using me I should stop seeing him. It’s hard because I see him as a friend but when he starts calling me by pet name I get confused and upset. I wish he can tell me the truth. I spoke with him he is still in denial even though I saw him texting another girl and sending her heart emoticones. We can be good friends as long as he does not call me pet names and tell me that I miss my chance with him. I just want his friendship.

    • He is in a relationship. So do not attempt to harm his current relationship or nourish a romantic relationship with him at this time. Decide what you believe is appropriate. Speak with him about your thoughts and feelings. Continue to share your kindness and compassion with him. If he ignores your feelings, then allow this relationship to become more distant. Have a great day, Helmi!

  10. Well I need help, my best friend (guy) told me he had to go (we were texting) and he told me “goodbye my love” idk what it means he never does it to anyone and he has never told me that before, recently we started texting a lot more than usually so idk HELP

    • It is possible that his words were reflections of his emotional connection with you. It is possible that he is interested in developing a romantic relationship with you. Determine what you want for the future of this relationship. Spend additional time with him in person, as this will strengthen your relationship. Have a great day, Confused!

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