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What Does It Mean When A Guy Drunk Texts You?

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When guys get out and get to drinking, it seems like every rule they normally stick to just flies right out the window. The guys who are normally shy, end up being outgoing and throwing their thoughts around for anyone and everyone to hear. Even worse, their guarded thoughts and desires are suddenly not so guarded and secret.

When a guy gets drunk and suddenly decides that it’s the perfect time to shoot you a text about his emotions, it can leave you feeling pretty confused. What could those drunk texts mean? Why would he wait until he’s drunk to text you? Does it mean that he’s only after one thing?

Since we don’t have a Manipedia to explain men and their hidden meanings to us, I asked a few guys about their reasons behind their actions. They came up with quite a few explanations for the behavior that were pretty interesting. It turns out that he may not only have a single thought on his mind after all. Here they are:

1. He is too shy to talk to you without a little liquid encouragement

This guy is normally the friendly type who rarely speaks to you but seems to be around frequently. He may even be across the room most of the time, but looking your way. The fact of the matter is that guys are just as afraid of rejection as girls are. If you are interested, be sure to text him that you would like it if he called or texted you sometime that way he’ll feel a little more confident when he’s sober.

2. He’s been there and done that and is looking for a little late-night action

A booze call is a booty call 75% of the time. This is the guy that you’ve been with before and perhaps had a relationship with that just wouldn’t ever work out. There are normally still just enough lingering feelings there to make for a good one-nighter every once in awhile.

3. He is simply showing off in front of his friends by proving that he has a hot girl in his contacts

Let’s hope you didn’t take any questionable pictures when you were with this guy because, if you did, he’s likely showing them to his friends as he texts you. This guy does not respect you at all and you’ll generally know it because he will be very forward and seeking confirmation of your past to show off. He’ll text things like “Remember the last time I was over there?” just to get you to prove that he was there to his friends.

4. He wasn’t someone to talk to so that he doesn’t feel alone when he’s drunk

Everyone wants to feel like they have someone who will be there for him. You’ll know this is the case if he doesn’t text anything sexual or romantic and just wants to talk about random life happenings with you. If you have the time, lend him your ear and your friendship will be even closer.



5. He doesn’t even know what he’s doing

He has no idea what he’s doing because he can’t handle his liquor and is just going through his phone texting random people. This is typically the “what’s up?????” text and it reveals nothing and literally means nothing. I wouldn’t even bother responding to this guy because you normally haven’t even talked to him in months or in any kind of meaningful conversation.

When you have been lying in bed snoozing away only to be awoken by some weird text message from a drunk guy, it can make your life a little bit confusing. The next time you see him, what are supposed to say? How are you supposed to act? Should you mention the texts? Should you gripe about the implications of the message? Should you just come out and ask him about it?

Chances are, he will remember texting you but maybe not all of the details. Of course, if he had a really rough night, then he may not remember it at all. If you are interested in him, be sure to text him and let him know that he can call you sometime. If you don’t think he’ll even know to look back at the messages, then shoot him a quick text in the morning asking how he’s feeling and he’ll see the old messages.

If you don’t appreciate the attention or his intentions, then just don’t respond. He’ll be pretty embarrassed when he finally finds the message he sent you. Just make sure that you understand your feelings about the situation before you get too crazy and get into something you’ll regret. Once you’ve figured out what you want, then go for it! Life is short and you deserve to be happy, even if it’s only temporarily.

28 COMMENTS

  1. I have this guy friend whom I met on Tinder recently. We recently went through a break up and he was very serious in that relationship. He told me everything about his relationship and also told me his purpose to join Tinder was just to distract himself from her. This thing sometimes make me feel as if he is using me is it so?

    • Take this time to determine what you want for your future. Decide if his actions are acceptable to you. Speak directly and honestly with him about your thoughts and feelings. Give him an opportunity to share himself with you as well. Have a great day, Shine!

    • Girl run for the hills a guy who isn’t over a recent break up is just looking for a rebound you need to be number 1 not number 2 you are so worth it do ya really want to be played second fiddle

      • Thank you for sharing your thoughts and feelings. Please feel free to share more of your insights and experiences in the future. Have a great day, Kel!

  2. my ex-boss drunk texted me in middle of a night while he was in another country,asking me how i’m doing and where i am and i replied : home obviously.how about you? he said : in a bar. drunk obviously. miss you by the way. haha

    i have a crush on him fyi.
    i dont know how does he feel, it was only a text or it did mean something?!

    lemme know what you think.

    • The fact that he messaged you while drunk, means that he has some level of feelings for you. He may want to develop a physical relationship with you. He may want to develop an emotional relationship with you. Take this time to determine what you want for the future of this relationship. Speak directly and honestly with him about your thoughts and feelings. Give him an opportunity to share himself with you as well. Have a great day, Aurora!

  3. I woke up to a filtered message request on Sunday morning. It’s a long complicated story but it’s from someone I have history with but that was over 8 years ago. We’ve had no contact since (I deleted social media accounts for a few years). Although last year he had a nosy at my linkedin, few months later he sent me a random drunk message about a dvd he watched and remembered I bought it for him (even I couldn’t remember that). The latest message was just ‘I dare you to rely to this drunken message’. I have no idea what to make of it. He’s married to the girl he was seeing at the same time as me. So me even accepting the message would cause all sorts of trouble I reckon so I’m going to ignore it I think. I just think he was bored and messaging me and maybe others. Who knows.

    • You have made the right decision. He is married, and there is no reason to attempt to establish a relationship with him. If he continues, then explain your thoughts and feelings. He may be messaging you for a wide variety of reasons. Have a great day, Sheila!

  4. A complicated story but a friend with benefits who I’ve not spoke to for years decided to contact me via Facebook. Last year it was a drunk message about watching a dvd I bought him and he just said he remembered who got it him. This weekend it was literally ‘I dare you to reply to this drunk message’. hes married and has been for a few years. I just don’t get why contact me as we haven’t spoke or seen each other for years.

    • He is married. There is no reason to develop a relationship with him. It is likely that he is interested in developing a physical relationship with you. There is no reason to respond to his message. If you do, then share your kindness and compassion with him. Have a great day, Random!

  5. I have a guy that I have been crushing on since ever. We would text once in a while. One day he texted me and we started to flirt out of nowhere he was trying to make me addmit I miss him. He than texted me “admit you miss me so we can be done with this back and forth arguing lol, hey we should hang out sometime,” I kinda avoid the hang out part because we began flirting again. I realized he was drinking with his friends because he sent me pictures..we ended the conversation with me sending him the last text saying “ how can you sleep at night knowing your so mean haha” stupid I know but he went to bed and opened it the next day but never replied so now I really feel stupid because he was probably drunk and didn’t even mean anything. Should I just forget everything and move on is there even a chance there?

    • It is possible that he is interested in developing a relationship you. He may have been drunk and was thinking about developing a physical relationship with you. Take this time to determine what you want for the future of this relationship. Speak directly and honestly with him about your thoughts and feelings. Give him an opportunity to share himself with you as well. Have a great day, Emma!

  6. Ive been seeing this guy for over four months and he usually goes out on the weekends without me, which is okay cause you know, guys wanna have guys night, but the other night I had the feeling something was wrong. So I went through his messages, mind you is never don’t this before so I was pretty nervous, and guess what I find? Texts to a girl saying that he’s “single and wants to know why she hasn’t tried to make him hers.” I was hurt and upset, so I decided to call the number, and according to her they’ve been “on and off since 5 months ago.” I confronted him about it over the phone and then in person. His excuses were that he was really drunk that night, and I’m the only one he’s been with. He explain that he’s just recently opened up about his feeling towards me, which is a big step for him. I forgave him, but knowing that in that “drunk” moment he wanted someone else. Since we never defined what we were or put a label on us, he said he is single, so that’s why the told her that. I’m been completely faithful this entire time, and I’ve only broken a promise once and it was to not drink that much. What’s crazy to me is that even though I was drunk, I never told anyone I was single. I make sure no one else touches me or tries to flirt with me because I know I’m not single.

    • Take this time to determine what you want for the future of this relationship. Decide what actions you think are appropriate for this relationship. Speak directly and honestly with him about your thoughts and feelings. Give him an opportunity to share himself with you as well. Have a great day, Andrea!

  7. I got a drunk message from this guy that he said he liked me and wanted to take me out I dont know if it was his true feelings he would message me before this and id ask him if he was drunk hed say yes im so confused now we hardly talk I asked him after the night he messaged me drunk if he meant it or it was just bc he was drunk he said sorry like I said im so confused about everything now

    • It is likely that he was sharing his honest thoughts and feelings with you. It is likely that he felt more willing to share his thoughts with you because he was drunk. Take this time to determine what you want for your future. Speak directly and honestly with him about your thoughts and feelings. Decide what amount of alcohol consumption you would like in your relationship. Have a great day, Benita!

  8. I have a boyfriend who texts his so called church friend when he’s drunk. I’ve conversions with him about this and told him he needs to set boundaries. This past weekend he again drunk text her saying “babe”. This was at 12:30am. I really don’t know what to think and I’m confused. He tells me all the time they are just friends. But why would a man feel a need to text her when he’s drunk and he’s with me?

    • It sounds as though your partner makes the decision to get drunk and text another woman that he calls by a pet name. Take this time to determine what you believe is acceptable for your relationship. Speak directly and honestly with him about your thoughts and feelings. If he chooses to ignore your feelings, then focus your emotional energy elsewhere. Have a great day, Margarit!

  9. Sooo my best guy friend of many years who I have had a crush on and been friend zoned am ok with it most days …. got drunk and wanted to suddenly sext !
    With pics and was quite blunt in what he wanted to do !!!
    Next day not a word !!! ( we exchange texts daily and or phone calls )and hang out ..so the silence was killer ! Two days still silence but few texts . No mention of the drunk night or pics !
    He was drunk but also aware of what he was doing by the things he was saying !
    So confused !
    I tried to make light of and was ignored so no clue what’s going on in his pretty little head …. thoughts

    • He may be embarrassed about his behavior. He may be confused or uncertain about your feelings for him. There may be another influence that may be causing him to ignore you. Take this time to determine what you want for your future. Speak directly and honestly with him about your thoughts and feelings. Give him an opportunity to share himself with you as well. Have a great day, Barb!

  10. I was going through a rough patch with my ex when I met this guy. We met through a friend and he works in my office. He started by sending me a follow request on Insta right infront of me and that night both of us along with some other friends went out for drinks and the two of us ended up talking the entire night and things got really personal. He started texting me from the following day and we started talking all the time and he would tell me how unfulfilling his job felt and how he was unhappy. I was kind of going through the same. He would tell me how bad his relationship with his ex girlfriend turned out and that anytime he felt like he was getting a little too serious with someone, he would freak out and act like a total asshole. Both of us talked to each other a lot. He was aware of my ex and other hook ups I had. He was aware that I was involved with someone else. He would tell me it’s not a good idea to be in a relationship if it’s not keeping me happy. Then one fine day, he just stops texting me and he became very inconsistent with that. Eventually he completely stopped and I didn’t try much from my end as I thought that I might have done something to probably turn him off. By then I had gotten so attached to him and i realised how strongly I felt about him that I just couldn’t continue with my ex and broke up with him. Eventually I ended up going clubbing with him and his friends and things seemed very normal with him, like nothing ever went wrong. I could see how he was trying to hold me, I would find him looking at me, he was trying to be around me and all and finally after getting very drunk we ended up making out. The weird part is, his friend had kissed me that night too, a few hours before the guy I like did and the next day his friend told him about it. He didn’t say anything though. Everything was really awkward for me the next day, we didn’t talk to each other and eventually I was so disturbed and hurt by everything that I told him how I felt and he kind of admitted he was feeling the same way and he freaked out about how he was feelings and how he was letting his guard down but he didn’t want to screw things up with me and hence he wanted to keep things platonic. I didn’t know how to feel about all that so I didn’t text him after that and he would text me once in a while, mostly when he is drunk. He tells me that he thinks of me, misses me and he liked kissing me. The thing is I resigned from my company and leaving the state in a month and I told him about it. I don’t know what to do because he is not doing anything till now and only a few weeks are left to go. Should I just not expect anything now and move on?

    • You have decided to move. Your relationship has ended. He does not seem as though he is willing to nourish a relationship with you. Allow thoughts of this person to fade. Focus on your transition at this time. Determine what you want for your future without this person. Have a great day, Anna!

  11. I have crush with someone, it’s been a month we know each other and we always spend time every weekend together. He said he likes me but he will leaving in 5 months later from the country. And he seems he doesn’t want anything serious with me because he will leave but he treat me very well like his gf. I’m just confused when he gets drunk he always texted me miss me and about romantic things, he knew I literally broke up when we start hangout and he said he doesn’t wanted to hurt me and he want me to be happy. I’m so confused about what he wants and his feelings to me while I really wanted serious relationship. Should i just being honest to him

    • It is possible that he is interested in nourishing a relationship with you. He may be unable or unwilling to do so. Determine what you want for your future. Speak directly and honestly with him about your thoughts and feelings. Give him an opportunity to share himself with you as well. Have a great day, Asteria!

  12. So there’s I guy whom I’ve known for almost a year, we go to the same school and we take dance classes together with other friends. After the classes we always laugh a lot and tease each other, sometimes we flirt a bit. But he never took the effort, so I finally decided to send him a friend request on FB. He didn’t accept it for days and I had no idea why because we always have so much fun after dancing and lately he would always compliment me. Then I messaged him and asked why he didn’t accept the request and he said he wasn’t sure of my last name. Then we started talking for hours, he was always asking questions and we flirted like hell. At some point he said something like “I guess u do this with your bf” and I told him I didn’t have one. He was all surprised for a moment and then we started flirting again, he even asked for my number. The next day he texts me but he is drunk as hell, calls me 6 times and tells me that he loves me and that I’m so hot and smart and kind and all. I was already asleep when this happened so I asked him the next day if he was serious or just had a fun time the previous day. He replied with “I may drank a bit too much” and said that once when he called he thought I picked up and said some naughty things.
    What exactly should I think or do? As much as I know he’s not the kind of guy with whom I could talk this through seriously.

    • He has shared his thoughts and feelings with you. The two of you shared your emotional relationship while he was sober. While he was drunk, he shared more of himself with you as well. Determine what you want for your future. Decide which actions are appropriate. Speak with him about your thoughts and feelings. Give him a chance to share himself with you. Have a great day, Kitti!

  13. So there’s I guy whom I’ve known for almost a year, we go to the same school and we take dance classes together with other friends. After the classes we always laugh a lot and tease each other, sometimes we flirt. But he never took the effort, so I finally decided to send him a friend request on FB. He didn’t accept it for days and I didn’t know why because we always had so much fun after dancing and lately he would always compliment me. Then I messaged him and asked why he didn’t accept the request and he said he wasn’t sure of my last name. Then we started talking for hours, he was always asking questions and we were intensely flirting. At some point he said something like “I guess you do this with your bf” and I told him I didn’t have one. He was all surprised for a moment and then we started flirting again, he even asked for my number. The next day he texts me but he is really drunk, calls me 6 times and tells me that he loves me because I’m so hot and smart and kind and all. I was already asleep when he messaged so I asked him the next day if he was serious or just had a fun time the previous day. He replied with “I may drank a bit too much” and said that once when he called he thought I picked up and said some naughty things.
    What exactly should I think or do? As much as I know he’s not the type of guy with whom I can talk this all through seriously.

    • He has shared his thoughts and feelings with you. The two of you shared your emotional relationship while he was sober. While he was drunk, he shared more of himself with you as well. Determine what you want for your future. Decide which actions are appropriate. Speak with him about your thoughts and feelings. Give him a chance to share himself with you. Have a great day, Kitti!

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