Jealousy isn’t really a good look for anyone. Unfortunately, most people deal with it on a daily basis. Sometimes there is a clear explanation as to why someone gets jealous and other times we are left with not a single clue.
That’s why it’s important to evaluate the guy and what type of jealous behavior he is displaying. Is he getting aggressive towards another male because this male is spending time with you? Is he harassing you over this situation? Have you noticed that he is suddenly trying to make you jealous, too?
These are all typical reactions from a guy who has feelings for a woman. However, this isn’t always the case with all jealous men. Some men may not have any romantic feelings for you, but you might still find they have a jealous streak.
You may be misreading the situation.
So, what are some reasons that a guy gets jealous?
He Feels Like… You are trying to replace him. This type of jealousy stems from friends and lovers alike. You may just be really close friends with him, but if he notices that you have suddenly found another male bestie, he might start exhibiting signs of jealousy. Men can be very territorial, even if you aren’t theirs to be territorial over in the first place. Blame it on testosterone if you want, but it’s fairly common when you become close to someone. Even girls get a little jealous when their best friends start spending more time with other girls. It’s just human nature.
What can you do about it?
Well, first off, let your guy friend know that you are not trying to make him feel as if you are replacing him. Try to make a little more time for him, as well as your new pal. Spread your time out between both of him. The best way to prevent him from becoming jealous again is letting him know that the two of you are not exclusive romantically or platonically. It’s not fair to ask you to spend time with only one person. If he doesn’t understand that, then it’s best to ditch him. That kind of emotion doesn’t make for a very good friend.
However, if the two of you are connected in a more romantic aspect, it’s best to try and see where he is coming from. Are you spending too much time with a man who is seemingly a threat?
Maybe your boyfriend/lover sees that and is not liking how it’s making him feel.
Try to hear him out when you sit down to ask him what’s going on.
If he feels threatened, it’s up to you to let him know that you are not trying to abandoned him for this new mate of yours. Continue to make time for your partner, he comes first. That’s not saying you can’t have guy friends by any means, but listen to your partner’s worries and try to soothe him.
He Feels Like… You’re hanging with the wrong crowd. Just because a friend gets jealous does not always mean that he has feelings for you. He may just recognize that the person you are choosing to spend your time with is a bad influence in one way or another. This is a more protective type of behavior. Often it comes from someone that you are very close with. Someone you might look to as a ‘brother’ or ‘cousin’, without actually being blood related to him at all. Just because he’s not really your brother, doesn’t mean he will not act protective over you when he feels like someone is bad for you. Honestly, that’s a great friend. Sometimes outside viewers can see someone’s true colors better than you can. When we like someone, we often put on rose colored glasses and do not see them for who they truly are. This tends to lead us down a path of hurt and confusion. Hear your friend out and see why he feels like the dude you are seeing is a bad guy. He might have some points!
There may be a time where his protectiveness is all for naught. He may simply just think that no one is good enough to be with you, because he thinks so highly of you. Although this makes things a little difficult for you when it comes to dating, just remember that his jealousy stems from a good place. Let him know that his protectiveness is much appreciated, but that it is starting to get on your nerves.
The best thing you can do in this type of jealous situation is get him and your new love interest together for a hangout session.
If you truly don’t believe that your new guy is a bad deal, let your friend know it! Force them to bond with one another. That way he might warm up to him a little faster and see that he isn’t so bad after all!