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What Does It Mean When a Guy Gives You His Shirt to Keep?


You have been dating for a while or just “hanging out.” The guy gave you his shirt to keep and now you want to know what it means. In most cases, this is a sign that he likes you on some level. The exact meaning depends on the situation and the exact relationship that you have for now.

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One of the most obvious reasons why this happens is because he likes you. Think of it as a badge of honor. It generally is done when a guy likes a girl and wants to date her exclusively. If he gives you his jacket, this is even more true. After all, he probably has multiple shirts, but he probably does not have that many jackets lying around. You can probably assume that the guy really likes you if you gives you any of his clothing items. It is like giving you a piece of himself to keep. He is hoping it will remind you of him and make you think about him whenever you wear it.

For a number of guys, it is also a turn on to see a girl in their shirt. You look like you are swimming in because it is so large on you. In his mind, he might be imagining what you would look like in just the shirt. At the very least, he likes the idea of you being in his clothes.

It Reminds You of Him

One of the reasons why guys give girls a shirt is so that they are reminded of him. Every time you see the shirt or wear it, you will think fondly of him. He is hoping that it will make you think of him all the time and eventually like him as much as he likes you.

He Wants a Second Date

This is actually one of the oldest tricks in the book. When you go on a first date with someone, you are not entirely sure if they will actually call you back. To increase the chances of getting a second date, you leave something behind so that you have an easy excuse to call him later on. There is a chance (especially if you just had a first date or just met) that he gave you the shirt so that he will see you again. Even if you keep saying that you are “busy,” he can still fairly ask to see you again to get his shirt back.

he gave me his jacket when i was cold

He Thought You Were Cold

Another obvious reason is that he may have just thought that you were a bit cold. If he did not have a jacket to loan you at the time, he may have given you his over-shirt to keep you warm. This chivalrous gesture is only done by extreme gentlemen or by guys who are interested in you.

He Was Just Being Nice

If you asked for his shirt, he may have been uncertain about how to respond. He may have just given you the shirt just because he did not know what else to do. It is also possible that he noticed that you were cold. He may like you, but he also might just be being nice. He did not know of another way to help you out, so he gave you his shirt.

Does a Guy Like You If He Gives You His Shirt?

I would say that this is true at least nine times out of ten. If a guy likes you, he wants you to think about him all the time. He wants to leave a visible reminder of himself so that you have something from him that reminds you of him. He may like imagining the way you look in just the shirt as well. All of these things mean that he most likely likes you.

There is also another, final reason why he might want you to have one of his shirts. Clothes are a way that people identify friends and foes. Think of old Scottish clans. They had certain tartans to distinguish different tribes. Even in your school or work, people do the same thing. The clothes that they wear show who they are, who they spend time with and how they want to be perceived by everyone else.

The guy most likely realizes this on a subconscious level. By giving you his shirt, he is showing that you are a part of his group of friends. It is also a territorial sign to other guys. You are wearing his shirt, which implies that you are connected on an intimate level. If another guy sees you in his shirt, they will assume that you are somewhat taken already. Whatever the case, it is fairly safe to assume that he is interested in you on some level.


  1. I met a guy online. When we met we talked for hours and then we arranged for him to come down to my house for the weekend. We had a good time and he gave me his shirt to keep and thats the last i’ve heard from him

    • It is clear that the two of you shared an emotional connection while the two of you were together. It is likely that he may want to spend additional time with you in person. Take this time to determine what you want for your future. Speak directly and honestly with him about your thoughts and feelings. Give him an opportunity to share himself with you as well. Have a great day, Jane!

  2. I was seeing someone for six month after being friends for a year. He broke up with me left his shirt. I text him if he wanted it back , he didnt reply.

    • He has decided to end this relationship. He likely does not want to speak with you or see you at this time. If he reaches out to you or you see one of his friends, then return his shirt. He likely is not concerned with his shirt. If he does not attempt to get it from you in the next month, then there is no reason to maintain hold of the shirt. Take this time to determine what you want with your future without him. Have a great day, Marisela!

  3. This guy is my friend he lives in a different city, one day while video chatting I told him I like his shirt that he should send it to me not wash so it would smell like him. I never though he would because it was a joke. Well I receive the shirt but what does it mean, also this friend of mine use to be my high school sweetheart but we broke up about 14 years ago and now have a friendship. Is there more to this or I’m overthinking it and its just Friendship ?

    • The two of you share a long history. It is clear that you have a strong social and emotional connection with each other. This person sent you his unclean shirt. Clearly the two of you have a special connection. Determine what you want for the future of this relationship. Speak with him about your thoughts and feelings. Give him an opportunity to share himself with you as well. Have a great day, Kat!

  4. my really friend that I have known for almost my whole life gave me one of his shirts for my birthday (he gave me other stuff too) i was kinda confused, soo GOOGLE. After i opened it he told me to put it on so i did and i came back idk. Im just confused. Im sorry for the incompetent grammar issues, poor word choice, and lack of capitalization; i am tired.

    • That is an interesting present choice. He might like you, or he might just think that you want a shirt like that. Since he gave you other items as well, it obviously wasn’t because he lacked the money to buy a present. Perhaps you mentioned liking the shirt in the past and forgot about it? I think the most likely causes of this gift are either he likes you or really thought that you might like it for some reason.

  5. So recently I slept over this guy I’ve known for a couple months now house an me and him had hooked up a couple weeks before , we both agreed to & once I stayed the night he gave me one of his shirts and said “something to remember me by” … does that mean he likes me ?

    • His behavior may be an indication that he is interested in developing a relationship with you. It seems as though you are interested in maintaining this relationship as well. Speak with him about your thoughts and feelings. Give him an opportunity to share himself with you as well. Nourish this relationship by spending additional time with him in person. Have a great day, Linda!

  6. Over a year ago, I gave one of my friends a shirt of mine. I thought nothing of it because I do it all the time but since then, this friend and I have gotten really close. The past few weeks specifically we’ve been hanging out one on one a lot. So last night he said that he wanted to give me a flannel in exchange for the shirt I gave him over a year ago. So I said sure, and then he wanted me to wear it all night. Being as it was a whole year later and we’ve just started to get closer, what does this mean?

    • His behavior is an indication of his emotional and social relationship with you. It is certainly possible that he is interested in nourishing this relationship. The two of you are getting closer now, which means your relationship has grown. Determine what you want for your future. Speak with him about your thoughts and feelings. Nourish this relationship by spending additional time with him in person. Have a great day, Meghan!

  7. I had this guy who work in the military chase me for 4 months he asked me out last week I said yes. He added me on every social media possible. We met twice before he asked me out. This week he came round to my place after he got back from being away first thing he did was to see me we got quite close and before he left he said he has a present for me and it was his hoodie. One he was wearing when he was away with work. I haven’t heard from him since Monday. I know hes busy with work he did say he bad a busy schedule but ti go online and ignore me it’s not good. I gave him space not messaged I dont want to put pressure but little confused.

    • It sounds as though he is busy at work. It is possible that he is uncertain about what he wants for the future. Make a decision about what you want at this time. Speak with him about your thoughts and feelings. Give him an opportunity to share himself with you as well. If he ignores you, then you are aware of his feelings regarding your relationship. Have a great day, Tamara!

  8. I want to the beach with all my friends. We were getting ready to pack out things and head out to eat . While I went to pack my own things, a guy friend I think I like were talking when he suddenly siad his shirt would be big on me and asked it I would want to try it on. Of course I said said and I jokingly said “I may not gives it back. It’s s comfortable.” And he said it was totally fine since he had other shirts. So now I have his shirt and we did joke about me having to give it back or my Dad killing him if he finds out it’s not my own shirt, but, he insists I can keep it. So-

    • His behavior is a reflection of his feelings toward you. He is attracted toward you, and likely maintain a connection with you. Make a decision about what you want for the future of this relationship. Nourish this relationship by spending additional time with him in person. Speak with him about your thoughts and feelings, and give him an opportunity to share himself with you as well. Have a great day, Anon!

  9. Okay so theres this guy and we have been friends for a year now… and we both share a similar choice in music and he offered me his extra band t shirt to keep… i dont know if he likes me but that would be great lol

    • If he gave you his t-shirt to keep, has a lot of similar interests and devotes a lot of time to hanging out with you, it sounds more likely than not that he is interested in you. Good luck, Jess!

  10. I have a guy whom I would consider as a close-ish friend, and I secretly like him. He knows that I like him, just not too sure if he knows that I know that he knows I like him. What happened was that I got drunk and my close friend called him for help and he agreed to do so. Said close friend changed me into his clothes that he picked out for me to borrow and when I got home I asked him via text if I could keep them and he said, “Sure.” Does that mean anything? From what I know, he likes someone else. Maybe he’s just too nice. ;-;

    • I wouldn’t assume he likes you just from this because as you pointed out, he may just be a nice person. There is no harm in flirting with him a bit to see how he responds. Good luck!

  11. I met this guy a few months ago and we’ve been having a fling/occasional meet up for sex…he and I both agree that we enjoy each other’s company and not just sexually…yesterday he said he wanted to give me something and then told me it was a shirt of his he doesn’t wear anymore…honestly he could’ve given the shirt to anyone but chose me…idk what to think of this or even to think it means something…

    • This relationship has been nourished over the course of your relationship. His behaviors are signs that he is interested in the future. Speak with him about your thoughts and feelings, and give him an opportunity to share himself with you as well.

  12. Had chatted w/a guy from a dating site for about 3 days & went over to his parent’s house to have sex w/him(doesn’t have a car). He’s 34/I’m 50, mutual attraction & it had been 15 yrs. since I last had sex w/a guy. After the 1st time w/him, he texted me if I got home ok. Wanted to see me again, but was asleep when I got there. Did eventually have sex & later gave me an old T-shirt. His last text was that he’s spending the night at a friend’s.

    • He may just want a casual fling. It sounds like he cares about you as a person, but there is no way to know if this will translate into caring about you as more than just that. Most likely, the t-shirt was just to help you stay covered when you went home and he didn’t read too much into it at the time.

  13. So there’s this guy that I met online and developed feelings for, I found out that he actually feels the same way too. We aren’t in a relationship because he says he isn’t ready so we’re just hanging out/in the talking phase, but recently he asked me if he could mail me a bracelet that he made, would it be weird if I also asked him to send me one of his hoodies as well? ;-;

    • It would be acceptable for you to make any request that you feel is appropriate. If you want to have his hoodie, then speak with him about your feelings. It is certainly likely that he would be interested in sharing that with you. If there is anything that you want to send him, then you may want to speak with him about your feelings.

  14. So ive been casually seeing this guy for about 6 months now. When we are together he likes to feed me, hang out talk about how each other is doing and watch movies or play games before sex and then after he likes me to stay the night with him. I thought it was a friends with benefits type of thing till he asked me if i wanted to “up the level” between us by me wearing his clothing while im at his place. Im alittle confused, not sure if he is wanting more or just being nice

    • Perhaps he is just saying he wants it to be slightly more serious, even if he doesn’t necessarily want to make it official and have you be boyfriend and girlfriend quite yet.


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