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What Does It Mean When A Guy Holds Your Hand?

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Hand holding is a very common way of showing affection for someone. Yet once in awhile it happens straight out of the blue, leaving us puzzled and wondering, ‘What was that all about?

We often hold hands with our parents, sometimes even after we are all grown up.

We hold our grandparents hands when we help them with something or they are wishing us well.

At times we will lock fingers with our best friends, just simply out of love and adoration!

Then there are those awesome times when a guy holds our hands. Usually it’s because we are romantically involved with them in one way or another.

But what does it mean if the two of you aren’t in a relationship?

Why would he hold your hand then?



What’s the deal here!?

Don’t worry, there’s always an explanation for when a guy does something spontaneously.

Meaning it’s not quite as random as we think.

When a man holds a woman’s hand, there’s usually a good reason for it.

They don’t just do it because they can, but more like because they want to.

There’s several reasons for that.

To help you better understand why a guy is holding your hand, we must go through all the different types of hand holding there and what each one means.

Fingers Loosely Laced Hand Holding

So he’s holding your hand, but not in a very noticeable way, right? His fingers might be lightly laced with yours, while your palms aren’t quite touching and if you moved even a slightly the whole hold would fall apart. This is usually a very casual type of hand holding that guys do.



This is a gesture used when he is just starting to develop feelings for you.

You will often find this hand holding is done when the two of you are out in public together, but you have not made it official as a couple.

He is trying to avoid being too public with you.

It could be that he is simply not a fan of public displays of affection.

Either way he does not want people to notice that the two of you are holding hands, yet he wants you to know that he is trying to be close to you.

He definitely won’t mind if someone takes notice to what you are doing, but he doesn’t want to make the gesture prominent enough for everyone to notice.

Hand Brushing Not Quite Holding Hand Holding

When the two of you are taking walks and he brushes your hand ever so slightly, what does it mean? At times this type of contact can be very awkward.

You might find yourself questioning whether or not it means anything.

We’re here to tell you: It definitely does mean something!

He is choosing to let the two of you come into close enough proximity of each other to let your hands physically connect.

He may be too shy to reach for the strong hold, but he still wants to let you know that he is making an effort for intimacy.

However, if this type of contact is only done once and is never repeated, it probably meant nothing. It is a good indication that you are just buds if he accidentally lets his hand brush yours, but then he pulls away and doesn’t do it again.

You can be sure that if he does it every time you are side by side, he likes you and wants to be touching you. In a really subtle way.

Interlocked Fingers Firm Grip Hand Holding

Now this is the type of hand holding that calls for a celebration, don’t you think? When he locks fingers with you and doesn’t let go it typically means that he likes you. Especially if he does so when you are out in public together. This is a sign that he truly likes you as more than just a friend and he isn’t afraid to show it to the world!

He is letting you know that he is there for you if he tends to give you a few squeezes while doing so. It’s a quiet reminder that you have him standing by your side no matter what you are doing.

This is common in short term relationships as well as long term ones. This kind of hand holding is the ultimate bonding experience!

Grabbing Your Hand, No Fingers Laced, Very Quick Hand Holding

When he grabs your hand unexpectedly for a squeeze, but doesn’t lace his fingers with yours at all, it could mean that he needed a bit of support. This gesture generally comes when one of you are scared or just received bad news. He just wants someone there for him for a minute, so he feels supported or vice versa. It doesn’t necessarily mean that he harbors any emotion other than fondness for you. It means that he needed someone to be there for him and he chose you. These types of hand holds don’t last longer than a minute or two. When the news has passed or the situation has been processed, he will let go.

22 COMMENTS

  1. Wow. This really helps! My boyfriend held my hand for the first time but it was in public and in the dark. He first brushed my knuckles and I got confused as to why he was doing that then we interlocked our hands but he would squeeze tightly. I finally understand what it means now. Thank you!

    • Thank you for sharing your insights and experiences. Please feel free to share more of your thoughts and feelings in the future. Have a great day, Andrea!

  2. This guy I was seeing for over a month and had intimacy with hold my hands in the dark and kissed-me before he left that night he has never answered my texts after that night . I kept wondering why he held my hand this explanation has me confused now as it’s been 3 weeks and he hasn’t called or text me back
    I told him I’m moving on with my life but deep inside I can’t move on from him as I still want him what should I do ?

    • If it has been three weeks since the two of you last communicated, then it is likely that he is unable or unwilling to establish a relationship with you. Take this time to determine what you want for your future. If you want to attempt to reach out to him one more time, then speak directly and honestly with him about your thoughts and feelings. If he does not respond to you, then allow him to fade from your thoughts. Have a great day, Ann!

    • He is married. Speak directly and honestly about your desire for him to stop kissing and touching you. There is no reason for you to continue this relationship. You may want to speak with his wife about his actions. Focus your attention elsewhere. Have a great day, Esther!

  3. Ok there is this guy at my class that sometimes holds my hands and flirts with me and he got jelous one time when i told him about my ex boyfriend and i have been wondering what does this all mean…and he holds my hand in public ..

    • It is likely that he is interested in developing a relationship with you. Take this time to determine what you want for this relationship. Speak directly and honestly with him about your thoughts and feelings. Give him an opportunity to share himself with you as well. Have a great day, Tasnim!

  4. There is a colleague. First time he shake hands with me in public and kept holding it. Didn’t let my hand go.Then when I first time talked to him. He started staring into both of my eyes and kept smiling. I started to feel uncomfortable. So I left. Third time he brought a cup as a gift for me from another country. He asked me out once. I got nervous and i said ok have a nice weekend. He never text me but he reply me. He sent me his number when he went to another country for work. Does this person like me?

    • It is possible that he is interested in developing a relationship with you. Take this time to determine what you want for the future of this relationship. Speak directly and honestly with him about your thoughts and feelings. Give him an opportunity to share himself with you as well. Have a great day, Tia!

  5. The guy I like and I went out to see a movie and get dinner this past week. After we’d eaten, he moved over to my side of the booth so that we were right next to each other. Kind of out of nowhere, he brought up my hand size (I have smallish hands) and compared his hand to mine. For a few minutes, we just had our hands pressed together like that, no interlaced fingers or anything as we kept on talking. Then he said, “I’m going to pull a Jenkins” with a smile before locking our fingers together.
    For background, we took AP Psychology together, and Jenkins was our teacher. The teacher once told us to try going up to random people and holding their hand as such. This was a callback to that day in class, and I’m not sure if he meant it only platonically or as a “I like you” thing.

      • It is possible that he is interested in developing a relationship with you. It is clear that he feels comfortable with you. Take this time to determine what you want for the future of this relationship. Speak directly and honestly with him about your thoughts and feelings. Give him an opportunity to share himself with you as well. Have a great day, Anon!

    • It is possible that he is interested in developing a relationship with you. It is clear that he feels comfortable with you. Take this time to determine what you want for the future of this relationship. Speak directly and honestly with him about your thoughts and feelings. Give him an opportunity to share himself with you as well. Have a great day, Anon!

  6. I spent New Years Eve with my childhood friend and he held my hand throughout the night. Sometimes it was necessary because the crowd was insane, but sometimes it was unnecessary because the crowd was loose enough that we could walk without getting lost. When we were stuck in the crowd side by side his hand still held firmly and we interlocked fingers too and he did give a little bit of a squeeze once in a while. I didn’t want to think too much about it because he’s a close friend but after reading this, I’m back to thinking about it.

    • It is possible that he is interested in developing a relationship with you. Take this time to determine what you want for the future of this relationship. Speak directly and honestly with him about your thoughts and feelings. Give him an opportunity to share himself with you as well. Have a great day, Carey!

  7. So this guys says he likes me and I was sitting on my phone and he says to got into his room and I was about to win my video game and he held my hand and branch me to the room to play video games does he like me and should I ask him out or should he

    • It is possible that he is interested in a developing a relationship with you. Take this time to determine what you want for the future of this relationship. Speak directly and honestly with him about your thoughts and feelings. Give him an opportunity to share himself with you as well. Have a great day, Kalli!

  8. I’ve known him for a couple of months now, we talk a lot but never in a romantic way. I started having a crush on him after a point but he never showed any clue that he wants sth more than friendship, even when we were alone. It was a few days ago at a party, we both had some alcohol and we went to sleep to two beds, one by the other just a few inches apart. 2 mins after we layed down, he reached my hand we we held for sth like 20 mins until I probably fell asleep, could it mean anything or it was just the alcohol ?

    • It is likely that he has feelings for you. He almost certainly did not want to abuse your trust and attempt a sexual interaction with you while you were drunk. This is a testament to his character. Take this time to determine what you want for the future of this relationship. Speak directly and honestly with him about your thoughts and feelings. Give him an opportunity to share himself with you as well. Have a great day, Agna!

  9. What does it mean when a guy you talk to but are not in relationship with holds your hand at the movies. Holds it for a bout a minute but then let’s go . He’s done this twice. It’s really confusing and no I have never reached back to hold his hand.

    • This is a sign that he is interested in developing a relationship with you. Take this time to determine what you want for the future of this relationship. Speak directly and honestly with him about your thoughts and feelings. Give him an opportunity to share himself with you as well. Have a great day, Jasmine!

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