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What Does It Mean When A Guy Holds Your Hand?


Hand holding is a very common way of showing affection for someone. Yet once in awhile it happens straight out of the blue, leaving us puzzled and wondering, ‘What was that all about?

We often hold hands with our parents, sometimes even after we are all grown up.

We hold our grandparents hands when we help them with something or they are wishing us well.

At times we will lock fingers with our best friends, just simply out of love and adoration!

Then there are those awesome times when a guy holds our hands. Usually it’s because we are romantically involved with them in one way or another.

But what does it mean if the two of you aren’t in a relationship?

Why would he hold your hand then?

What’s the deal here!?

Don’t worry, there’s always an explanation for when a guy does something spontaneously.

Meaning it’s not quite as random as we think.

When a man holds a woman’s hand, there’s usually a good reason for it.

They don’t just do it because they can, but more like because they want to.

There’s several reasons for that.

To help you better understand why a guy is holding your hand, we must go through all the different types of hand holding there and what each one means.

Fingers Loosely Laced Hand Holding

So he’s holding your hand, but not in a very noticeable way, right? His fingers might be lightly laced with yours, while your palms aren’t quite touching and if you moved even a slightly the whole hold would fall apart. This is usually a very casual type of hand holding that guys do.

This is a gesture used when he is just starting to develop feelings for you.

You will often find this hand holding is done when the two of you are out in public together, but you have not made it official as a couple.

He is trying to avoid being too public with you.

It could be that he is simply not a fan of public displays of affection.

Either way he does not want people to notice that the two of you are holding hands, yet he wants you to know that he is trying to be close to you.

He definitely won’t mind if someone takes notice to what you are doing, but he doesn’t want to make the gesture prominent enough for everyone to notice.

Hand Brushing Not Quite Holding Hand Holding

When the two of you are taking walks and he brushes your hand ever so slightly, what does it mean? At times this type of contact can be very awkward.

You might find yourself questioning whether or not it means anything.

We’re here to tell you: It definitely does mean something!

He is choosing to let the two of you come into close enough proximity of each other to let your hands physically connect.

He may be too shy to reach for the strong hold, but he still wants to let you know that he is making an effort for intimacy.

However, if this type of contact is only done once and is never repeated, it probably meant nothing. It is a good indication that you are just buds if he accidentally lets his hand brush yours, but then he pulls away and doesn’t do it again.

You can be sure that if he does it every time you are side by side, he likes you and wants to be touching you. In a really subtle way.

Interlocked Fingers Firm Grip Hand Holding

Now this is the type of hand holding that calls for a celebration, don’t you think? When he locks fingers with you and doesn’t let go it typically means that he likes you. Especially if he does so when you are out in public together. This is a sign that he truly likes you as more than just a friend and he isn’t afraid to show it to the world!

He is letting you know that he is there for you if he tends to give you a few squeezes while doing so. It’s a quiet reminder that you have him standing by your side no matter what you are doing.

This is common in short term relationships as well as long term ones. This kind of hand holding is the ultimate bonding experience!

Grabbing Your Hand, No Fingers Laced, Very Quick Hand Holding

When he grabs your hand unexpectedly for a squeeze, but doesn’t lace his fingers with yours at all, it could mean that he needed a bit of support. This gesture generally comes when one of you are scared or just received bad news. He just wants someone there for him for a minute, so he feels supported or vice versa. It doesn’t necessarily mean that he harbors any emotion other than fondness for you. It means that he needed someone to be there for him and he chose you. These types of hand holds don’t last longer than a minute or two. When the news has passed or the situation has been processed, he will let go.


  1. Wow. This really helps! My boyfriend held my hand for the first time but it was in public and in the dark. He first brushed my knuckles and I got confused as to why he was doing that then we interlocked our hands but he would squeeze tightly. I finally understand what it means now. Thank you!

    • Thank you for sharing your insights and experiences. Please feel free to share more of your thoughts and feelings in the future. Have a great day, Andrea!