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What Does It Mean When A Guy Holds Your Hand?


Hand holding is a very common way of showing affection for someone. Yet once in awhile it happens straight out of the blue, leaving us puzzled and wondering, ‘What was that all about?

We often hold hands with our parents, sometimes even after we are all grown up.

We hold our grandparents hands when we help them with something or they are wishing us well.

At times we will lock fingers with our best friends, just simply out of love and adoration!

Then there are those awesome times when a guy holds our hands. Usually it’s because we are romantically involved with them in one way or another.

But what does it mean if the two of you aren’t in a relationship?

Why would he hold your hand then?

What’s the deal here!?

Don’t worry, there’s always an explanation for when a guy does something spontaneously.

Meaning it’s not quite as random as we think.

When a man holds a woman’s hand, there’s usually a good reason for it.

They don’t just do it because they can, but more like because they want to.

There’s several reasons for that.

To help you better understand why a guy is holding your hand, we must go through all the different types of hand holding there and what each one means.

Fingers Loosely Laced Hand Holding

So he’s holding your hand, but not in a very noticeable way, right? His fingers might be lightly laced with yours, while your palms aren’t quite touching and if you moved even a slightly the whole hold would fall apart. This is usually a very casual type of hand holding that guys do.

This is a gesture used when he is just starting to develop feelings for you.

You will often find this hand holding is done when the two of you are out in public together, but you have not made it official as a couple.

He is trying to avoid being too public with you.

It could be that he is simply not a fan of public displays of affection.

Either way he does not want people to notice that the two of you are holding hands, yet he wants you to know that he is trying to be close to you.

He definitely won’t mind if someone takes notice to what you are doing, but he doesn’t want to make the gesture prominent enough for everyone to notice.

Hand Brushing Not Quite Holding Hand Holding

When the two of you are taking walks and he brushes your hand ever so slightly, what does it mean? At times this type of contact can be very awkward.

You might find yourself questioning whether or not it means anything.

We’re here to tell you: It definitely does mean something!

He is choosing to let the two of you come into close enough proximity of each other to let your hands physically connect.

He may be too shy to reach for the strong hold, but he still wants to let you know that he is making an effort for intimacy.

However, if this type of contact is only done once and is never repeated, it probably meant nothing. It is a good indication that you are just buds if he accidentally lets his hand brush yours, but then he pulls away and doesn’t do it again.

You can be sure that if he does it every time you are side by side, he likes you and wants to be touching you. In a really subtle way.

Interlocked Fingers Firm Grip Hand Holding

Now this is the type of hand holding that calls for a celebration, don’t you think? When he locks fingers with you and doesn’t let go it typically means that he likes you. Especially if he does so when you are out in public together. This is a sign that he truly likes you as more than just a friend and he isn’t afraid to show it to the world!

He is letting you know that he is there for you if he tends to give you a few squeezes while doing so. It’s a quiet reminder that you have him standing by your side no matter what you are doing.

This is common in short term relationships as well as long term ones. This kind of hand holding is the ultimate bonding experience!

Grabbing Your Hand, No Fingers Laced, Very Quick Hand Holding

When he grabs your hand unexpectedly for a squeeze, but doesn’t lace his fingers with yours at all, it could mean that he needed a bit of support. This gesture generally comes when one of you are scared or just received bad news. He just wants someone there for him for a minute, so he feels supported or vice versa. It doesn’t necessarily mean that he harbors any emotion other than fondness for you. It means that he needed someone to be there for him and he chose you. These types of hand holds don’t last longer than a minute or two. When the news has passed or the situation has been processed, he will let go.


  1. So there’s this guy I’m really good friends with, Ive known him for almost all of my life, our family and friends keep on teasing us and say that we like each other. However, we’ve always denied it. Lately I’ve noticed that he always wants to sit next to be and always be close. Sometimes he holds my hand interlocking his fingers with mine but he only does this when no one else can see. Does this mean anything romantically or is it just something friends do?

    • If he does it when no one else can see, it sounds like he is trying to be romantic. He may just be afraid to tell you how he feels because he doesn’t want to be rejected. If you like him back, try flirting or making a move and see how he responds. Best of luck!

  2. Hey, a guy that I’m really good friends with grabs hold of my hands out of the blue, interlocking our fingers from time to time when we are together alone. But acts like nothing happened when we’re in public or with other friends. Every time I ask him about it he would say something along the lines of “you were itching closer to my hand, I got kind of annoyed and just grabbed on.” Making it seem like he had nothing to do with it or held my hand because he felt like he had to. But after a while he would go back to being really touchy and holding my hands again. I don’t know if he likes me or does it as a friend. I’m really confused and could use some advice.

    • Most people don’t just hold hands as guy-girl friends. It sounds more likely that he likes you and is just afraid of making a move quite yet. Still, if you are afraid of rejection, you can always wait a bit and see if he makes another move. My bet is that he likes you as more than a friend though. 🙂

  3. I want to get some idea from you admin. Actually I got a friend, i knew him for pass 7 months. Firstly when we know each other we never hold our hands. But now we started to hold our hands. He hug me from behind, sometimes he lift me up. I really got the intentions towards him but I dont know whether he got the same feel or he put me in friend zone. For me the way, he behave I feel like not friend zone. Please advice on this

    • It definitely sounds like he likes you. While it is possible that he is just a very close friend, it seems more likely that he is interested in you romantically. Now, the question is what do you want to do about it? Good luck!

  4. So my guy best friend and I went on this halloween haunted trail together. He grabbed and held my hand through it. Something more? Or was he just scared?

    • He may have been looking for an excuse to hold your hand. Taking you to a haunted house seems like an ideal date for someone who wants to find an excuse to hold their crush’s hand. 🙂

  5. So this guy I met told my friend he was going to hold my hand I was freaking out Because my last relationship was toxic and I wanted to know what it met!!!! Any advice please

    • You are aware of how relationships may turn negative, and it is certain that your experiences are guiding your feelings. Make a decision about what you want for your future. Treat each relationship without prejudice from your previous relationships, but remain mindful of warning signs.

  6. My husband doesn’t like holding my hand in public, he never even tries to hold my hand and when I go for it I feel like I’m forcing it because he’s not even holding my hand or he pulls away and acts like he’s doing something. This is mainly Everytime I hold his hand in public . He won’t let me kiss him on the cheek in public and I’m damn sure he won’t kiss me on the lips in public . Even at the movies a few nights ago it was us and one other couple in the movie theater, we sat on the bottom and the other couple was all the way up top making out . Halfway through the movie I turn to him and try to kiss him and he pushes me away . I don’t know if it’s because he’s having an affair and doesn’t want people to see me, if he’s embarrassed by me, or he doesn’t like it . Idk

    • If he has always been like this, then this is probably just who he is. Some people just dislike public displays of affection–my spouse is among them. Unless this was a sudden, recent change, I wouldn’t worry about it. If you can’t stop thinking about this, just talk to him about him and ask him why. Good luck!

  7. I know him from 1.5 years, the time we met he was in relationship.Its been 1 year for his breakup. He was to share breakup things with me and from last 5-6 months we are spending more time together. He loves planing weekends going out with me, even if I dont want to go out he wants me to be at his place for complete weekend but in week days he never text first. He expect me to call him every day in evening in case i dont do he will just text me asking why i dint call or what m up to if he is doing nothing (no office work) then he calls me. from last 1 month or so he is holding my hands tightly , he tries to hold my hand frequently and while watching movie or going out in car he puts his head on solder. If he dont like movie he lies down act like he is sleepy and hold my hand tight like a kid. I dont know what should i understand for all this. I’m getting attracted now but not sure how to confirm what he feels.

    • His behaviors are indications that he is interested in maintaining a relationship with you. Determine what you want for your future, and speak with him about your thoughts and feelings.

    • That is most likely what it means, although it’s possible that she just doesn’t feel ready to hold your hand yet. I’d wait for her to flirt with you or make some kind of move so that you can figure out what is going on in her mind. If you want to know for sure and don’t want to wait, you can also just talk to her about how she feels.


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