Guys are like giant mystery puzzles. You could spend years piecing together parts of the puzzle without ever actually finding out what the end result looks like. And just when you think you’re almost done and know what the picture will be, a mysterious thousand more pieces suddenly get dumped onto the table beside you.
Even when guys talk it’s like they’re spitting question marks out of their mouths mixed in with their words. Sure, we hear what they’re saying, but what the heck do they mean by whatever it is?
If the confusion just stopped there, that would be great, but it doesn’t. Even worse than their words, are their actions. One little act can tell you everything you need to know about how a guy feels if you know how to interpret it. But if you don’t, then you’ll be lost forever because a guy’s thoughts do not always line up with his actions.
For the sake of an article that you won’t be reading for the next ten years, we’re going to focus on one single gesture. When a guy introduces you to his friends, what does he mean by that? Does it mean that he really like you? Is he in love? Is he just wanting their opinion or to show you off? There are a lot of possibilities. In order to weed out the bullshit and figure out which questions are actual possibilities, I took the question to some guy friends of mine.
Here are their answers for why a guy would introduce you to his friends:
1. His friends know he’s dating someone and have been driving him crazy about how she must be ugly since he hasn’t brought her around. You’ll know if he’s just doing it to shut them up because it will be a two-second meet and greet and you won’t see them again for quite a while.
2. He wants to hang out with everyone and have fun. It’s not a big deal to him that you meet his friends. It just simplifies his life if you can all hang out at the same time. You’ll be able to tell if this is the case because he’ll want you to go to dinner with his friends, or come over and hang out while they’re all there.
3. He is claiming you. He wants everyone around him to know that you are off limits because he’s into you. He’s practically peeing on your leg so if you aren’t that into him, it would be a good time to walk away. This guy is typically the jealous type too so watch out.
4. He thinks you are totally hot and is wanting to show you off. It pumps up his ego to let his friends know that he can land someone like you. You’ll know this is the case because he’ll scoot you through just quickly enough for everyone to get a good look at you and say hi and then you’ll be out the door. Most likely, there will be someone, or something, across the room that you need to go to because they will all want to check out your body while you’re there. You may even hear something like “you were right” said to your boyfriend.
5. He likes you and is testing you to see how his friends feel about you. A girlfriend’s level of compatibility with a guy’s friends is important to a relationship. People trust their friends and listen to their advice eventually. This is like a test-run to see if his friends like you or not. If they nix you, you won’t see them again, and you’ll probably be breaking up sometime soon. If they do like you, you’ll suddenly be invited to lots of stuff that includes everyone.
Having heard all of that from guys, it really helped to clear the air a little bit. Maybe you won’t know immediately why he’s introducing you, but by the time you leave, you should have a better idea of what it was about. If you pay close attention to how his friends act, and how he reacts to them, then you should know a little more.
Remember that you can always turn down the friend invite until you’re ready. Putting it off a time or two will help to make sure that he’s introducing you for the right reasons. You can also offer him a picture of you to show them and see if that stops his asking. If it does, then you know that he was really only wanting to show you off. If it doesn’t, then he probably likes you a little more than you realized. Depending on why he introduces you to them, you may even decide that it’s time to walk away. At least you’ll know.