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What Does It Mean When A Guy Just Wants To Cuddle?

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When you’re dating a guy and he says he just wants to cuddle, all of your warning signs go up, and for good reason. We have all learned the hard way that no guy just wants to snuggle up with you; there is always an ulterior motive. The real question comes from figuring out why he is saying that he just wants to snuggle or worse, if he means it and why.

In order to figure out what their deal is, I’ve asked a few guys why they might elect to just cuddle with a girl as opposed to sleeping with her. Their answers were pretty interesting and spanned a large number of possibilities. To help you better understand what exactly it is he’s getting at, check out their answers.

1. He is a player and is setting himself up

He will just snuggle the first time you’re over, but the second he will make his move and claim it’s never happened like that before. You will know because he will suddenly stop texting you afterwards and disappear faster than Jehovah’s Witness at a Pagan’s house.

2. He is gay and hasn’t told you or hasn’t admitted it to himself yet

If you have been together several times and he has yet to make any moves, then he may be struggling with his sexuality.

3. He is the one decent guy in that half of the country

Seriously, there’s only one. Every guy wants sex all of the time so, if the guy you are seeing is okay with waiting and you know that he’s not seeing anyone else, then you’d better lock him down. That, or get him tested for STD’s.

4. He has strong feelings for you and doesn’t want to mess it up so he is taking it slow

This guy is normally struggling to not take it farther as pulling himself away at the last minute. He may ask if you are ready fifty times before he makes his move, but he’s still trying to make a move.

5. He is unsure if she wants it or not because he is shy, socially awkward, and inexperienced

He may have told you he’s inexperienced, or he may just be making very awkward trying to figure out where to put his hands. Either way, you should be able to tell that he doesn’t have a clue and is kind of hoping you’ll take the lead.



6. He is gaining bragging rights with all of his friends

If you know the same circle of people, then he may just be spending his time with you long enough to tell people he was at your place for a few hours. If everyone you see the next day is giving you knowing looks, then that guy is a jerk and you need to not waste your time with him anymore.

7. He enjoys the chase and wants the upper hand

Meaning, you going to him for it instead of him asking. This guy enjoying hunting for his next victim and will disappear right after you have become the new notch in his belt. Don’t beat yourself up too bad, everyone has been there at least once.

8. He enjoys having his pelvis against your butt and getting himself off that way

No matter who you are, rubbing your pelvis against something hard feels good. It is just the way we are made. Have no doubt though, this guy is still all about the endgame, he is just pleasing himself in the meantime.

9. He is getting what he wants elsewhere and you are just one of a few

It doesn’t matter what he has to say about this, if he is satisfied and it is not from you, it’s from somewhere else. Yes, he will swear up and down that you are the only one just like any other guy, but you aren’t. It’s like they were trained from the age of two to lie about this because they are damned good at it.

10. He asked if you wanted to “cuddle” but he meant, “let’s have sex but start out cuddling.”

For some reason, it’s always a surprise to us when their hands start wandering and we have to get that creeped out feeling. If you just know what he means going in, then you can shoot him down before he ever starts. Unless you’re wanting more.

Now you’ll have a better idea of his motives and reasons behind his actions the next time you find yourself with a guy saying he just wants to cuddle. At least you won’t be blindsided by his moves when he starts making them. Because, unless he hit a couple of those bullet points, he will make them. Just remember that you can always say no. It’s never too late to back out even if you’re already having sex.

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8 COMMENTS

  1. It happened just like in the movies my best friend and I kissed and we slept n the back seat of his car he held me n his lap. The next day he came and got me and told me how he wasn’t going to do relationships until we kissed and I was trying to play it off so I asked him who was he in a relationship with and he turnt and looked at me and we like so know you don’t know. And every since that night I just can’t get him off my mind I don’t know if it’s real or is it fake. I went to his job today to take him his wallet and he wanted me to stay there until he finished his shift at work I really like him a lot but I don’t want to end up hurt again. I texted him and told him how I feel. But I don’t want to mess things up by opening up to him 😁🤗 How do I know if I’m moving to fast?

    • You have shared your thoughts and feelings with him. Give him an opportunity to share himself with you. If he is unable or unwilling to nourish a relationship with you, then allow thoughts of him to fade from your mind. Do not reach out to him at this time. If he reaches out to you, then share your kindness and compassion with him. Have a great day, Shawnda!

  2. Yup. In the same position here. He wants to cuddle and when it gets close to sex, he bounces!

    We used to sleep together a couple of years back when he broke it off. He recently contacted me again and have treated me nicely. But no sex. He hasnt had any women except for one it didnt work out with, nothing serious, after me.

    So whats the deal?

    • He may be interested in developing an emotional relationship with you. It is possible that he has concerns about having a sexual encounter. Take this time to determine what you want for the future of this relationship. Speak directly and honestly with him about your thoughts and feelings. Give him an opportunity to share himself with you as well. Have a great day, Lucile!

      • Turns out he was in a longterm relationship that lasted 2 years and he contacted me a month after it ended. She moved out of town and theyre still friends. One time when we had been a little bit intimate, he almost cried and was in a bad state saying he didnt wanna hurt her, me or himself. I said: -Yeah plus theres hope of the two of u getting back together. He didnt reply but has told me several times he thought about ending it 6 months before they mutually did. So that night we decided on a friendship and thats all. I got really sad but dud t show him anything and my sexdrive and what small feelings I had developed for him died.

        Two weeks after she moved he went for sex with me but I shot him down. So so much for meaning just friends.

        I also met him after he’d helped her move (he said a friend but ut came out it was her) and he was all smiles and beemed happyness and talked about moving to the same city so I took that as he was still in love with her and that Im second runner up and Im not ANYBODYS second choice, I have plenty of other options and a thing called pride.

        However it hasnt seemed to have worked out with any of it and months before this happened he sugned up for an apartment across the street from me he’s now moved into. So since a couple of days we’re now neighbours.

        Now WTH is going [email protected] :'(

        • His attempt to nourish a relationship with his ex partner may not have been successful. He made the decision to move next to you. He likely feels an emotional connection with her. He is still interested in maintaining a relationship with his ex. Give him an opportunity to get over his partner. If he reaches out to you in the future, then share your thoughts and feelings with him. Have a great day, Lucile!

  3. So this guy said I am fine as hell and he said he wants to cuddle. I don’t know what to do. He is cute and I think I am developing feelings…..what do I do

    • He is interested in developing a physical relationships with you. He may be interested in nourishing an emotional relationship with you. You want to develop a relationship with him, so speak with him about your thoughts and feelings. Give him an opportunity to share himself as well. Have a great day, Jennifer!

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