In a world that’s now dictated by social media, mobile phones, and indirect conversation, figuring out what it means what a guy means when he does something face to face can be hard. If you’re hanging out with a guy and he keeps making eye contact with you when you’re talking, for example. What exactly does that mean? Is he just being polite? Is he interested in what you’re saying? Or is he feeling attracted to you?
Most polite social convention dictates that eye contact is polite, and important, and also part of active listening. On the other hand, eye contact in this day and age can be intense. It can feel like someone is looking right into your very being. It can be difficult to figure out whether are guy is just practicing his active listening skills, or if he’s interested in you and can’t seem to look away.
So what exactly does it mean when a guy makes eye contact with you?
1. He’s being polite
The simplest answer is that eye contact is usually the polite thing to do. It shows that he’s actively engaging in the conversation and wants to show that he’s listening. Eye contact has fallen out of style with our technologically advanced methods of conversation.
But every now and then, face to face conversations are important to have, and when you do, it’s generally assumed to be polite to look the other person in the eye. It may not mean anything more than that, especially if you don’t know him very well or if your relationship is more of casual acquaintances than close friends or romantic partners.
If he makes eye contact with everyone he meets, he’s probably been taught that it’s the polite thing to do, and his eye contact with you doesn’t mean much more than that.
2. He’s interested in what you’re saying
Other than being polite, eye contact is a great way for you to show that you have an interest in what the other person is saying. It shows that you’re actively listening. If you’re having a conversation with a guy and he’s looking you in the eye while you’re talking, it means that all his attention is on you.
This is a good thing! If he’s not interested in what you’re saying, he may avoid your gaze or look at the table or at his phone. Take note of how he interacts with other people – if he’s always looking into someone’s eyes when he’s engaged in an interesting conversation, then you probably don’t have to worry about whether or not he likes you. It’s just how he shows he’s listening and engaged!
3. He’s interested in YOU
Looking into someone’s eyes can be a very intimate experience. That old saying ‘Eyes are the window to the soul’ didn’t catch on for no good reason! After all, our eyes are one of the main ways in how we experience the world. When a guy looks you in the eyes, and maintains that eye contact, it can mean that he’s more than just polite, or interested in what you have to say.
It can definitely mean that he’s interested in you. Eye contact can be incredibly romantic, especially if it’s just the two of you. The best way to figure this out is to look at how he interacts with others. If he’s not really interested in making eye contact with guys or other girls, it may be a sign that he reserves this for you, and considers eye contact and intimate thing.
4. He thinks you’re gorgeous
Let’s face it – any color eye can be absolutely stunning. Brown eyes can look like copper or gold. Blue eyes can look like the sky or the ocean. Green eyes can look like the fresh, upturned spring leaves. Grey eyes can look like the clouds just after the rain. Every color of the eyes is absolutely gorgeous, and if a guy is looking you right in the eye, he’s probably thinking the exact same thing. The dumb, love-struck look on his face should make this choice particularly obvious.
Eye contact can mean any number of things. If the guy who serves you your coffee every morning makes eye contact while you’re handing over your money, it probably doesn’t mean that he’s hopelessly in love with you.
Likewise, if a guy you’ve been seeing a while keeps eye contact with you while you’re together, it probably means something a little more than he’s just being polite. Admittedly, guys and sometimes be a mystery, especially when they’re so cagey about discussing their feelings.
The best way to figure out why a guy does what he does is to confront him about it. It may be a little embarrassing for him – he probably doesn’t even notice the things he does! – but in the end, you’ll figure it out.