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What Does It Mean When A Guy Makes Fun Of You?

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When girls are young, they’re always told that the boys who tease them secretly like them. “Pulling pigtails”, they call it. We always just assume that guys will grow out of that vaguely childish behavior, but women often find that when they’re older, guys will continue teasing them.

Sometimes, the pulling pigtails behavior doesn’t always mean what we’re told as kids. Women from all over are left confused and a little annoyed when men start making fun of them, even when they’re otherwise entirely pleasant. Guys who make fun of women come in a variety of flavors, with an array of reasons.

Some of them might not even know why they’re doing it. So what’s the truth? What does it really mean when a guy starts teasing and making fun of you? It’s a leftover instinct from when they were boys?

1. He likes you

This is usually what most people will tell you when you ask them why a guy who is otherwise entirely pleasant to you teases and makes fun of you. Sometimes, guys really don’t grow out of that ten year old phase of being mean to the girls they like. You’ll probably be able to tell if he likes you by the way he makes fun of you.

Is he teasing you to get you to loosen up and learn to laugh at yourself a little bit? If so, he probably doesn’t mind it when you take a few digs at him too. Playful teasing is probably the type of guy’s main form of joking and connecting with people. Don’t take it too seriously, especially if his jokes don’t come at the expense of making you feel poorly about yourself.

2. He feels threatened – or vulnerable

Guys who make fun of you can come in a variety of flavors, and one of these flavors is definitely defensive. It’s no secret that guys tend to mature emotionally a lot slower than women. When a guy likes you – you know, really likes you! – he can feel incredibly vulnerable. Guys like this tend to react to vulnerability to defensiveness.

He may feel like the only way to make himself feel like the big strong macho man he’s supposed to be is by making fun of you – which means, in the end, he’s probably going to get the opposite of what he wants. It’s no use trying to wait for this type of guy to grow up. Brush off his jokes and keep an eye out for a guy who can at least admit his feelings.



Of course, on the flip side – he might not even like you. Maybe you just really intimidate him with your looks, your accomplishments, your personality.

3. He’s just a jerk

Let’s face it – some guys make fun of women because they’re just flat out mean. You’ll probably be able to tell whether he likes you or not by the way he treats you the rest of the time. If he’s constantly making derisive statements and mean-spirited jokes, but never seems to have something nice to say, he’s probably just getting off on making you feel embarrassed or angry.

Some guys get a power trip from making women upset, and making fun of them for the way the talk, the things they like or the way they look is a sure fire way for guys to be able to exploit the kind of vulnerability that gets women fired up. In short: he’s an ass, and not worth even getting indignant over. When he figures out that he can’t rile you up, he’ll eventually get bored and either start acting like a human being, or move on.

When a guy is making fun of you, make sure you keep track of how he treats you otherwise. A guy who doesn’t have anything else to say to you other than jabs about your work, interests and personality probably isn’t harboring a secret crush on you. And likewise, a guy who just takes part in some playful teasing probably isn’t trying to get you made just for the fun of it.

Guys often have a hard time discussing their feelings, so they end up doing something like this: making fun of women and leaving women confused about what they actually want! If you’re not into it, stand your ground and confront him. You’ll either get him to fess up to why he’s actually doing it, or at the very least get him to knock it off.

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  1. A while back at my Highschool (still currently in Highschool), I was walking off the campus on a rainy day , but as I was walking, I slipped in a pile of mud, and this boy and his group of friends laughed at me, I was humiliated,then not too long after whenever I saw this boy, he’s always staring at me, and giving me looks (not bad, but almost as if curious or sad), and I honestly don’t know what it means? He has a girlfriend btw, but I hate him because he’s a jerk

    • It is possible that he regrets laughing at your misfortune. He may be confused or uncertain about your feelings. There is no reason to reach out to him. If he reaches out to you, then share your kindness and compassion with him. He is in a relationship, so there is no reason to attempt to nourish a relationship with him. Have a great day, Christina!

  2. There’s this guy and he’s always made fun of me til one day he said sorry at the end of the year. After that we really didn’t speak and we kept it professional, like only speaking to him when he or I needed help with lessons. Today he made fun of me again and was being plain rude by making fun of my name and he stuffed my pen in his trousers! He said sorry like after a while and said ‘You were okay with me, I’m sorry.’ Then his mate who sat next to him continued, but he kept doing his work. His behaviour confuses me and it’s weird. I don’t think he likes me, because he’s been crushing on this popular hot girl since last year,but I’m not sure whether he still likes her. Overall, he’s nice but he can get carried away when he’s around his friends, but what does his behaviour mean?? Thank you xxx

    • He regrets his previous actions toward you. He may view you as a friend. It is possible that he is interested in a developing a relationship with you. Take this time to determine what you want for the future of this relationship. Speak directly and honestly with him about your thoughts and feelings. Give him an opportunity to share himself with you as well. Have a great day, Tara!

    • Thre this boy Mihia and where both in grade 6, we’ve been friends ever since grade 2. This year we’ve been hanging out more after school with friends. Then at school this other boy called me doncky I didn’t let it get to me. Then we played with other friends after school and he called me donkey. Then that’s when it got to me I kept pushing and hitting but still won’t stop. He gets a giggle out of it but still he annoying. Them I yelled at him to stop, finally out of nowhere he stopped we acted like nothing ever happened.

      Does he have feelings for me or no?

      • It is possible that he has feelings with you. He likely feels emotionally comfortable with you. However, he has decided that abuse and violence are acceptable ways of sharing his feelings. Ensure that he treats you with respect as your relationship progresses. If you want to develop a relationship with him, then speak with him about your thoughts and feelings. Have a great day, Ellie!

  3. There is a boy in my math class he asked me out in the beginning of the year and I said no but we were still good freinds now he is calling me things like alien and ugly but he apologized but I still feel upset what does tgat mean

    • It is likely that he still has feelings for you. He may be confused or uncertain about his feelings. He is unable to speak to your in a mature manner. Take this time to determine what you want for your future. Speak directly and honestly with him about your thoughts and feelings. Give him an opportunity to share himself with you as well. Have a great day, Nameless!

  4. My crush and I don’t speak much in person but we text a LOT. Like a lot. And he’s pretty nice to me but he teases me sometimes,though it’s not mean and it’s like the friendly type of teasing. We’ve bonded so much in the past two weeks,he even sent me a funny picture of him XD. But,other than that he told me he thinks I’m funny and there was a time when he had to describe with an emoji and he chose “🔥”. We’re like reaaally good friends now. Though when I asked him why he doesn’t talk to me at school, he said it was because I’m shy and that makes him shy and it becomes a shy cycle. Plus,he said he hates it when I’m shy (I’m a super shy person). We don’t have classes together but we go by the same bus and I’ve caught him glancing at me for 2-3 seconds many times. What does it mean? I’m kind of confused whether he thinks of me as a friend or more than that.

    • It is certainly possible that he is interested in developing a relationship with you. He clearly feels a strong emotional connection with you. Take this time to determine what you want for your future. Speak directly and honestly with him about your thoughts and feelings. Give him an opportunity to share himself with you as well. Have a great day, Sasha!

  5. I just got into University and found myself making a group of friends along the way. This guy is one of them. After a few weeks into the semester things changed, last week he started teasing me along with this one girl. She stopped but he kept going on. This day was full of teasing. He teases me when we’re on our own but even more when we’re around our other friends. He usually says my name a lot and bosses me around playfully.It’s embarrassing but I’m always forced to smile. He also uses everything I do or say to accidentally embarrass myself against me. He tells everyone. I don’t understand why he’s targeting me and calling me names like. “Violent” when I did something “violent” (forward ) etc. I don’t know what’s going on. But the others play along, laugh and this one guy keeps asking me how I deal with him but I just reply with. “I’m used to it.” It’s not always fun to be teased like this because some times I’m not in the mood and it could open the gates to my emotions causing a flood when I’m already feeling down. I guess I’m easy to tease and I’m a blushing mess but sometimes it makes me feel insecure. Sometimes the girls are like: “leave her alone.” as they are laughing. I’m so confused. We get along well I guess but sometimes things are awkward. There’s a chance that he might like me. But I doubt it. I don’t want to be crushed on. He’s a pisces and I’m a cancer. That means were a perfect match. Is my guy friend crushing on me? Why does he act like this? Why does everyone understand what’s going on besides me? Are they bullying me?

    • It is certainly possible that he is interested in you. He may be teasing you as a friend. Take this time to determine what you want for your future. Speak directly and honestly with him about your thoughts and feelings. Give him an opportunity to share himself with you as well. Have a great day, Alicia!

  6. Well, there’s a guy I’ve know for almost three years, and we’ve always been friends, until last year, when he started to act all weird. We had a fight, and ever since that fight he has started to act weird. He’s making fun of me, laughs at me when I get hurt and spreading rumours about me.

    Later my best friend, told me that he liked me before that fight, I don’t know if that fight was so important, alla I know is that it endes our friendship.

    • His actions are likely because of his emotional feelings toward you and toward the argument. His feelings have led him to be be cruel toward you. His actions are inappropriate. Take this time to determine what you want for your future. Speak directly and honestly with him about your thoughts and feelings. Give him an opportunity to share himself with you as well. Have a great day, Diana!

  7. My boyfriend likes to make fun of me and tease me. He has been doing this since we were kids and still does from time to time.

    • This is likely his way of sharing his emotional connection with you. He likely feels as though his behavior is appropriate. If you don’t appreciate his actions, then speak directly and honestly with him about your thoughts and feelings. As long as he chooses to respect you and treat you well, then it is clear that he loves and cares for you. Have a great day, Delly!

  8. There is this guy in my class but, his girlfriend sits right next to me. He however sits behind me he often looks at her and says “ do you know who is hot?” And he says my name. We used to date btw. He always brings up when we used to date and jokes about us still being together but he also calls me ugly and a hoe, and tells me my hair is ugly and I should dye it. And tells to go away and leave him alone. I liked him a lot and maybe still do. What should I do and why is he acting like this?

    • He is in a relationship. He should not be treating you or his partner like this. Speak directly and honestly with him about your thoughts and feelings. If he does not stop treating you poorly, then speak with your teacher or a counselor about his actions. You may also find benefit in speaking with him girlfriend about his actions. Have a great day, Julie!

  9. Hey great article, I think I narrowed it down to #1 or #2 with my current situation.

    I think he’s cute but his behaviour towards me is off putting. Maybe he thinks that he’s loosening me up by trying to poke fun at me but I don’t like it. I’m a reserved person and that’s not the way to get me to open up. If he wasn’t kind to me at all I’d stop talking to him.

    Part of me feels he doesn’t know how much he’s hurting me but another part of me feels he’s purposely trying to break me down. I don’t even know why we’re both the cute type and he’s in grad school while I’m an undergrad!

    • It is possible that he is interested in developing a relationship with you. He likely is uncomfortable with his behavior because he had not learned to act in a more acceptable manner. Take this time to determine what you want for your future. Speak directly and honestly with him about your thoughts and feelings. Give him an opportunity to share himself with you as well. Have a great day, Sharla!

  10. So there’s this guy who I like, but him and I are really close friends and he keeps making fun of the way I talk sometimes and teases me a lot. Ive told him to stop and he said sorry but he still does is and im not sure why he is doing it. It is actually hurting my feelings…

    • It is certainly possible that he is attempting to flirt with you. You have shared your thoughts and feelings with him. He may be clumsy with his behavior and may not be intending to harm you. Take this time to determine what you want for your future. Speak directly and honestly with him about your thoughts and feelings. Give him an opportunity to share himself with you as well. Have a great day, Kim!

  11. So there’s this guy and he likes to make fun of me and tease me a lot but just when I say something weird or if I’m wearing a fun outfit he loves to make fun of me and when I tell him to stop he smile and say I’m sorry I’m just messing with you but when I’m serious he respect me alot and we have deep conversations all the time too

    • He either views you as a really good friend, or he likes you. It sounds like he could be interested in you romantically though and is trying to get to know you better. Now, you just have to figure out if you like him back and what you would like to do about it. Good luck, Alli!

  12. I think this guy that I like might like me…. but he is sending mixed signals. I want to tell him how I feel but every time I can’t. I like him so much I’m jelous when he talks to someone else. And when ever he teases me and goes a little too far I don’t say anything but I should cause I’m sure he would like me better if I stood up for myself

    • If he makes you uncomfortable or offends you by going too far, then definitely stand up for yourself. As for making a move, it is up to you. Since he is sending you mixed signals, there is always a risk that he will reject you. If you are brave, go for it. If not, keep taking to him and see if he makes his feelings a bit clearer. Best of luck, Confused!

  13. I used to go to a coaching institute…and a guy used to laugh at me with his friends whenever he saw me or whenever I entered the class. It wasn’t even a smile..he literally laughed.Even my friends noticed..I think he used to make fun of me but I didn’t even know him and we didn’t even ever talk so I wonder what he used to laugh about. I never understood that guy whatsoever. He was cute btw 😂

    • It is possible that he felt attracted to you. It was clear that he was immature about his actions. Allow thoughts of this person to fade. Allow the memory of his action to influence you to treat everyone in your life with kindness and compassion. Have a great day, Sarah!

  14. I’ve this one crush and there’s one day he looks at me and I’m excited so i brag about it in front of my friends and I kept repeating about how handsome he is. lol. and as we’re talking, few minutes later, we found out that he’s actually walk right behind us and I’m sure that he heard everythingGGGGG. and since that day, everytime I bump into him, he kept on looking at me and sometimes tried to make me feel very shyyyy by walking veryyy near to me. what does that mean? I’m confused and shy. too.

    • It is certainly possible that he heard what was said. It is possible that he may want to develop a relationship with you. Determine what you want for your future. Speak directly and honestly with him about your thoughts and feelings. Give him an opportunity to share himself with you as well. Have a great day, Amira!

  15. There’s this guy I met in school. We always hang out because we’re classmates and seatmates. And also, I’m a fan of Kpop. When he found out that I love Kpop, he always teases me about Kpop. He said that Kpop is boring, Kpop is gay and etc. But I just laugh with him even though I’m quite annoyed. A few days after, He suddenly shows interest in Kpop. He says that my Idol is his brother even though he’s not. And he also praises my Idol alot which is quite weird and new for me. I once joked about Kpop and before the year ends, he told me that he still remembers it. I also caught him sometimes, stealing glances at me. So, without me realizing, I started to like him. He always laugh at my lame jokes even though it’s not so funny. He also compliments me, not that often but every compliments he said is so touching. He teases me with other guys. He touches me alot which is making me blush sometimes. He’s always around me. So, it was in month of december when he started acting more weird. He’s a school heart rob so many girls like him. Whenever each one confesses, he always tell me and I always act like I didn’t care becausw I don’t want him to know that I like him and I also want to avoid awkwardness between us. He always sides me with me. I have a fight with his friend and mostly, he always sides with his friend but now, he doesn’t. I confessed to him in February and he said that it’s okay but that time, I don’t have feelings for him anymore. So, I told jim that we should ignore each other for the time being and he said that it’s up to me. I didn’t even tried to take a glance on him, I don’t even talk to him even though he’s my seatmate, and I also avoid him. But, he kept talking, looking to me. After a few days, I talked to him again but our conversation wasn’t long unlike how we used to. He doesn’t reply to my messages, he always left me on seen. I felt like I was abandoned by him so I felt so heart broken. So, since we’re classmates, the president of our class wanted to have a get together or for us to gather and have fun. Like a party. So they set the date and I didn’t showed up on that day because I don’t have enough confidence to face him so I made up an excuse that I was sick. From then on, I didn’t talk to him or message him. Then, I came to a basketball game with my cousins to watch. I also didn’t expect but I saw him there, talking to my cousins. My cousins knew that I used to have a crush on him so theu kept teasing me about him since the day they found out. When my cousins saw me, they told him that I was there and I saw him quickly hides somewhere, I didn’t really payed attention to it. But after the game ends, my cousin said that he was smiling and laughing when they teased him about me. And he hided because he’s shy about me. They also heard him talking to his friend about hiding from me. My friend said that it could be possible that he have feelings for me but I denied it because I don’t want to jump to conclusions.
    I really want to confirm but I’m so so shy to ask him. And also, one time, he gave us a clue about his crush and his description fitted me, that’s what my friend told me.
    Can you give me your opinion? I really want to know. Thank you!

    • It is possible that this person wants to develop a relationship with you. It is clear that he is shy or confused. He may not want to say that he is interested in developing a relationship with you. He may fear rejection. You seem to want to develop a relationship with him. You may find that it will beneficial for the people in your life to support you by speaking with him. It is important that you speak directly with him about your thoughts and feelings. Have a great day, Seori!

  16. There’s this guy I met in school. We always hang out because we’re classmates and seatmates. And also, I’m a fan of Kpop. When he found out that I love Kpop, he always teases me about Kpop. He said that Kpop is boring, Kpop is gay and etc. But I just laugh with him even though I’m quite annoyed. A few days after, He suddenly shows interest in Kpop. He says that my Idol is his brother even though he’s not. And he also praises my Idol alot which is quite weird and new for me. I once joked about Kpop and before the year ends, he told me that he still remembers it. I also caught him sometimes, stealing glances at me. So, without me realizing, I started to like him. He always laugh at my lame jokes even though it’s not so funny. He also compliments me, not that often but every compliments he said is so touching. He teases me with other guys. He touches me alot which is making me blush sometimes. He’s always around me. So, it was in month of december when he started acting more weird. He’s a school heart rob so many girls like him. Whenever each one confesses, he always tell me and I always act like I didn’t care becausw I don’t want him to know that I like him and I also want to avoid awkwardness between us. He always sides me with me. I have a fight with his friend and mostly, he always sides with his friend but now, he doesn’t. I confessed to him in February and he said that it’s okay but that time, I don’t have feelings for him anymore. So, I told There’s this guy I met in school. We always hang out because we’re classmates and seatmates. And also, I’m a fan of Kpop. When he found out that I love Kpop, he always teases me about Kpop. He said that Kpop is boring, Kpop is gay and etc. But I just laugh with him even though I’m quite annoyed. A few days after, He suddenly shows interest in Kpop. He says that my Idol is his brother even though he’s not. And he also praises my Idol alot which is quite weird and new for me. I once joked about Kpop and before the year ends, he told me that he still remembers it. I also caught him sometimes, stealing glances at me. So, without me realizing, I started to like him. He always laugh at my lame jokes even though it’s not so funny. He also compliments me, not that often but every compliments he said is so touching. He teases me with other guys. He touches me alot which is making me blush sometimes. He’s always around me. So, it was in month of december when he started acting more weird. He’s a school heart rob so many girls like him. Whenever each one confesses, he always tell me and I always act like I didn’t care becausw I don’t want him to know that I like him and I also want to avoid awkwardness between us. He always sides me with me. I have a fight with his friend and mostly, he always sides with his friend but now, he doesn’t. I confessed to him in February and he said that it’s okay but that time, I don’t have feelings for him anymore. So, I told jim that we should ignore each other for the time being and he said that it’s up to me. I didn’t even tried to take a glance on him, I don’t even talk to him even though he’s my seatmate, and I also avoid him. But, he kept talking, looking to me. After a few days, I talked to him again but our conversation wasn’t long unlike how we used to. He doesn’t reply to my messages, he always left me on seen. I felt like I was abandoned by him so I felt so heart broken. So, since we’re classmates, the president of our class wanted to have a get together or for us to gather and have fun. Like a party. So they set the date and I didn’t showed up on that day because I don’t have enough confidence to face him so I made up an excuse that I was sick. From then on, I didn’t talk to him or message him. Then, I came to a basketball game with my cousins to watch. I also didn’t expect but I saw him there, talking to my cousins. My cousins knew that I used to have a crush on him so theu kept teasing me about him since the day they found out. When my cousins saw me, they told him that I was there and I saw him quickly hides somewhere, I didn’t really payed attention to it. But after the game ends, my cousin said that he was smiling and laughing when they teased him about me. And he hided because he’s shy about me. They also heard him talking to his friend about hiding from me. My friend said that it could be possible that he have feelings for me but I denied it because I don’t want to jump to conclusions.
    I really want to confirm but I’m so so shy to ask him. And also, one time, he gave us a clue about his crush and his description fitted me, that’s what my friend told me.
    Can you give me your opinion? I really want to know. Thank you!

    • It is possible that this person wants to develop a relationship with you. It is clear that he is shy or confused. He may not want to say that he is interested in developing a relationship with you. He may fear rejection. You seem to want to develop a relationship with him. You may find that it will beneficial for the people in your life to support you by speaking with him. It is important that you speak directly with him about your thoughts and feelings. Have a great day, Seori!

  17. There is a boy in my coaching , he always give me nicknames , he mimics the way I laugh , I caught him staring at me and rubbing his chin. There are other girls also. But he behaves like this only to me. He tries to touch me also. Does he likes me ??

    • He is likely interested in developing a relationship with you. His actions indicate that he may want to maintain a physical relationship with you. It is clear that he feels comfortable with you. Decide what actions are appropriate and what you want for your future. Speak with him about your thoughts and feelings. It will be beneficial to give him a chance to share himself as well. Have a great day, Yaya!

  18. So they was this dude who I sat next to in class and we talked and it was really nice (I think) anyway I liked him and someone told me they thought he liked me too but then I ignored him bc I’m dumb and started “talking” to him like 4 weeks later. Any way it’s about a year later and he started talking to me again but only at ski club which is 7 hours long but only saying my name when he passed me on a hill or encouraging me to go faster or join him on a black diamond. So I added him in Snapchat and we sent some photos then he got confused and stopped responding bc I didn’t send my face in photos (I think) anyway he would wink at me at school and say hi and stuff but then recently he’s been making fun of me saying oh you’ll have to be stuck with freinds name and “me” dramatically (not in front of me tho)

    • It sounds possible that he might like you, but there is no way to know for sure just yet. You might be right about the Snapchat. As for the rest, these are things that he could do if he likes you or if he just sees you as a friend. If he doesn’t realize that you might like him, then he may not even be trying to talk to you much because he thinks that there is no hope. The best thing that you could do is start talking to him a bit more. It will give him a chance to realize that you might be interested and to make a move. Best of luck!

  19. There’s this boy in my class.He always looks at me and apparently chats about me to his friends. We talk Everyday.although he acts up in front of his friends a lot by being mean to me(not all the time). And at First its bants and other times its not although when ever he knows i don’t find it funny he apologises and changes the subject. People have told me he likes me and whenever he sees me he always smiles.Im getting mixed vibes.I Thought I liked him but now i’m genuinely confused/hurt. My Ex and me were on good terms but I know he hasn’t gotten over me. This is because i’ve always caught him looking at me and speaking bout me on many occasions. Convincing boys not to ask/go out with me. The boy lets call him A. A acts” funny “whenever my ex joins the convo. Or A will bring him up. I only went out with my Ex for wayyy(3months) less than a year. And I feel awkward and weird whenever my Ex joins a group chat or a game (fortnite)ect… I just leave it. Hopefully i can get some advice.

    • His behaviors may be indications that he has an emotional connection with you. His poor behavior around his friends are signs of his insecurity, but may be signs of future behaviors. Your ex’s behavior is a sign that he may still be interested in you. Determine what you want for your future. Speak with your ex about your thoughts regarding his behavior. If you want to nourish a relationship with someone, then spend additional time in person with him. Have a great day, Moo!

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