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What Does It Mean When A Guy Makes Fun Of You?

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When girls are young, they’re always told that the boys who tease them secretly like them. “Pulling pigtails”, they call it. We always just assume that guys will grow out of that vaguely childish behavior, but women often find that when they’re older, guys will continue teasing them.

Sometimes, the pulling pigtails behavior doesn’t always mean what we’re told as kids. Women from all over are left confused and a little annoyed when men start making fun of them, even when they’re otherwise entirely pleasant. Guys who make fun of women come in a variety of flavors, with an array of reasons.

Some of them might not even know why they’re doing it. So what’s the truth? What does it really mean when a guy starts teasing and making fun of you? It’s a leftover instinct from when they were boys?

1. He likes you

This is usually what most people will tell you when you ask them why a guy who is otherwise entirely pleasant to you teases and makes fun of you. Sometimes, guys really don’t grow out of that ten year old phase of being mean to the girls they like. You’ll probably be able to tell if he likes you by the way he makes fun of you.

Is he teasing you to get you to loosen up and learn to laugh at yourself a little bit? If so, he probably doesn’t mind it when you take a few digs at him too. Playful teasing is probably the type of guy’s main form of joking and connecting with people. Don’t take it too seriously, especially if his jokes don’t come at the expense of making you feel poorly about yourself.

2. He feels threatened – or vulnerable

Guys who make fun of you can come in a variety of flavors, and one of these flavors is definitely defensive. It’s no secret that guys tend to mature emotionally a lot slower than women. When a guy likes you – you know, really likes you! – he can feel incredibly vulnerable. Guys like this tend to react to vulnerability to defensiveness.

He may feel like the only way to make himself feel like the big strong macho man he’s supposed to be is by making fun of you – which means, in the end, he’s probably going to get the opposite of what he wants. It’s no use trying to wait for this type of guy to grow up. Brush off his jokes and keep an eye out for a guy who can at least admit his feelings.

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Of course, on the flip side – he might not even like you. Maybe you just really intimidate him with your looks, your accomplishments, your personality.

3. He’s just a jerk

Let’s face it – some guys make fun of women because they’re just flat out mean. You’ll probably be able to tell whether he likes you or not by the way he treats you the rest of the time. If he’s constantly making derisive statements and mean-spirited jokes, but never seems to have something nice to say, he’s probably just getting off on making you feel embarrassed or angry.

Some guys get a power trip from making women upset, and making fun of them for the way the talk, the things they like or the way they look is a sure fire way for guys to be able to exploit the kind of vulnerability that gets women fired up. In short: he’s an ass, and not worth even getting indignant over. When he figures out that he can’t rile you up, he’ll eventually get bored and either start acting like a human being, or move on.

When a guy is making fun of you, make sure you keep track of how he treats you otherwise. A guy who doesn’t have anything else to say to you other than jabs about your work, interests and personality probably isn’t harboring a secret crush on you. And likewise, a guy who just takes part in some playful teasing probably isn’t trying to get you made just for the fun of it.

Guys often have a hard time discussing their feelings, so they end up doing something like this: making fun of women and leaving women confused about what they actually want! If you’re not into it, stand your ground and confront him. You’ll either get him to fess up to why he’s actually doing it, or at the very least get him to knock it off.

84 COMMENTS

  1. So there’s this guy and he likes to make fun of me and tease me a lot but just when I say something weird or if I’m wearing a fun outfit he loves to make fun of me and when I tell him to stop he smile and say I’m sorry I’m just messing with you but when I’m serious he respect me alot and we have deep conversations all the time too

    • He either views you as a really good friend, or he likes you. It sounds like he could be interested in you romantically though and is trying to get to know you better. Now, you just have to figure out if you like him back and what you would like to do about it. Good luck, Alli!

  2. I think this guy that I like might like me…. but he is sending mixed signals. I want to tell him how I feel but every time I can’t. I like him so much I’m jelous when he talks to someone else. And when ever he teases me and goes a little too far I don’t say anything but I should cause I’m sure he would like me better if I stood up for myself

    • If he makes you uncomfortable or offends you by going too far, then definitely stand up for yourself. As for making a move, it is up to you. Since he is sending you mixed signals, there is always a risk that he will reject you. If you are brave, go for it. If not, keep taking to him and see if he makes his feelings a bit clearer. Best of luck, Confused!

  3. I used to go to a coaching institute…and a guy used to laugh at me with his friends whenever he saw me or whenever I entered the class. It wasn’t even a smile..he literally laughed.Even my friends noticed..I think he used to make fun of me but I didn’t even know him and we didn’t even ever talk so I wonder what he used to laugh about. I never understood that guy whatsoever. He was cute btw 😂

    • It is possible that he felt attracted to you. It was clear that he was immature about his actions. Allow thoughts of this person to fade. Allow the memory of his action to influence you to treat everyone in your life with kindness and compassion. Have a great day, Sarah!

  4. I’ve this one crush and there’s one day he looks at me and I’m excited so i brag about it in front of my friends and I kept repeating about how handsome he is. lol. and as we’re talking, few minutes later, we found out that he’s actually walk right behind us and I’m sure that he heard everythingGGGGG. and since that day, everytime I bump into him, he kept on looking at me and sometimes tried to make me feel very shyyyy by walking veryyy near to me. what does that mean? I’m confused and shy. too.

    • It is certainly possible that he heard what was said. It is possible that he may want to develop a relationship with you. Determine what you want for your future. Speak directly and honestly with him about your thoughts and feelings. Give him an opportunity to share himself with you as well. Have a great day, Amira!

  5. There’s this guy I met in school. We always hang out because we’re classmates and seatmates. And also, I’m a fan of Kpop. When he found out that I love Kpop, he always teases me about Kpop. He said that Kpop is boring, Kpop is gay and etc. But I just laugh with him even though I’m quite annoyed. A few days after, He suddenly shows interest in Kpop. He says that my Idol is his brother even though he’s not. And he also praises my Idol alot which is quite weird and new for me. I once joked about Kpop and before the year ends, he told me that he still remembers it. I also caught him sometimes, stealing glances at me. So, without me realizing, I started to like him. He always laugh at my lame jokes even though it’s not so funny. He also compliments me, not that often but every compliments he said is so touching. He teases me with other guys. He touches me alot which is making me blush sometimes. He’s always around me. So, it was in month of december when he started acting more weird. He’s a school heart rob so many girls like him. Whenever each one confesses, he always tell me and I always act like I didn’t care becausw I don’t want him to know that I like him and I also want to avoid awkwardness between us. He always sides me with me. I have a fight with his friend and mostly, he always sides with his friend but now, he doesn’t. I confessed to him in February and he said that it’s okay but that time, I don’t have feelings for him anymore. So, I told jim that we should ignore each other for the time being and he said that it’s up to me. I didn’t even tried to take a glance on him, I don’t even talk to him even though he’s my seatmate, and I also avoid him. But, he kept talking, looking to me. After a few days, I talked to him again but our conversation wasn’t long unlike how we used to. He doesn’t reply to my messages, he always left me on seen. I felt like I was abandoned by him so I felt so heart broken. So, since we’re classmates, the president of our class wanted to have a get together or for us to gather and have fun. Like a party. So they set the date and I didn’t showed up on that day because I don’t have enough confidence to face him so I made up an excuse that I was sick. From then on, I didn’t talk to him or message him. Then, I came to a basketball game with my cousins to watch. I also didn’t expect but I saw him there, talking to my cousins. My cousins knew that I used to have a crush on him so theu kept teasing me about him since the day they found out. When my cousins saw me, they told him that I was there and I saw him quickly hides somewhere, I didn’t really payed attention to it. But after the game ends, my cousin said that he was smiling and laughing when they teased him about me. And he hided because he’s shy about me. They also heard him talking to his friend about hiding from me. My friend said that it could be possible that he have feelings for me but I denied it because I don’t want to jump to conclusions.
    I really want to confirm but I’m so so shy to ask him. And also, one time, he gave us a clue about his crush and his description fitted me, that’s what my friend told me.
    Can you give me your opinion? I really want to know. Thank you!

    • It is possible that this person wants to develop a relationship with you. It is clear that he is shy or confused. He may not want to say that he is interested in developing a relationship with you. He may fear rejection. You seem to want to develop a relationship with him. You may find that it will beneficial for the people in your life to support you by speaking with him. It is important that you speak directly with him about your thoughts and feelings. Have a great day, Seori!

  6. There’s this guy I met in school. We always hang out because we’re classmates and seatmates. And also, I’m a fan of Kpop. When he found out that I love Kpop, he always teases me about Kpop. He said that Kpop is boring, Kpop is gay and etc. But I just laugh with him even though I’m quite annoyed. A few days after, He suddenly shows interest in Kpop. He says that my Idol is his brother even though he’s not. And he also praises my Idol alot which is quite weird and new for me. I once joked about Kpop and before the year ends, he told me that he still remembers it. I also caught him sometimes, stealing glances at me. So, without me realizing, I started to like him. He always laugh at my lame jokes even though it’s not so funny. He also compliments me, not that often but every compliments he said is so touching. He teases me with other guys. He touches me alot which is making me blush sometimes. He’s always around me. So, it was in month of december when he started acting more weird. He’s a school heart rob so many girls like him. Whenever each one confesses, he always tell me and I always act like I didn’t care becausw I don’t want him to know that I like him and I also want to avoid awkwardness between us. He always sides me with me. I have a fight with his friend and mostly, he always sides with his friend but now, he doesn’t. I confessed to him in February and he said that it’s okay but that time, I don’t have feelings for him anymore. So, I told There’s this guy I met in school. We always hang out because we’re classmates and seatmates. And also, I’m a fan of Kpop. When he found out that I love Kpop, he always teases me about Kpop. He said that Kpop is boring, Kpop is gay and etc. But I just laugh with him even though I’m quite annoyed. A few days after, He suddenly shows interest in Kpop. He says that my Idol is his brother even though he’s not. And he also praises my Idol alot which is quite weird and new for me. I once joked about Kpop and before the year ends, he told me that he still remembers it. I also caught him sometimes, stealing glances at me. So, without me realizing, I started to like him. He always laugh at my lame jokes even though it’s not so funny. He also compliments me, not that often but every compliments he said is so touching. He teases me with other guys. He touches me alot which is making me blush sometimes. He’s always around me. So, it was in month of december when he started acting more weird. He’s a school heart rob so many girls like him. Whenever each one confesses, he always tell me and I always act like I didn’t care becausw I don’t want him to know that I like him and I also want to avoid awkwardness between us. He always sides me with me. I have a fight with his friend and mostly, he always sides with his friend but now, he doesn’t. I confessed to him in February and he said that it’s okay but that time, I don’t have feelings for him anymore. So, I told jim that we should ignore each other for the time being and he said that it’s up to me. I didn’t even tried to take a glance on him, I don’t even talk to him even though he’s my seatmate, and I also avoid him. But, he kept talking, looking to me. After a few days, I talked to him again but our conversation wasn’t long unlike how we used to. He doesn’t reply to my messages, he always left me on seen. I felt like I was abandoned by him so I felt so heart broken. So, since we’re classmates, the president of our class wanted to have a get together or for us to gather and have fun. Like a party. So they set the date and I didn’t showed up on that day because I don’t have enough confidence to face him so I made up an excuse that I was sick. From then on, I didn’t talk to him or message him. Then, I came to a basketball game with my cousins to watch. I also didn’t expect but I saw him there, talking to my cousins. My cousins knew that I used to have a crush on him so theu kept teasing me about him since the day they found out. When my cousins saw me, they told him that I was there and I saw him quickly hides somewhere, I didn’t really payed attention to it. But after the game ends, my cousin said that he was smiling and laughing when they teased him about me. And he hided because he’s shy about me. They also heard him talking to his friend about hiding from me. My friend said that it could be possible that he have feelings for me but I denied it because I don’t want to jump to conclusions.
    I really want to confirm but I’m so so shy to ask him. And also, one time, he gave us a clue about his crush and his description fitted me, that’s what my friend told me.
    Can you give me your opinion? I really want to know. Thank you!

    • It is possible that this person wants to develop a relationship with you. It is clear that he is shy or confused. He may not want to say that he is interested in developing a relationship with you. He may fear rejection. You seem to want to develop a relationship with him. You may find that it will beneficial for the people in your life to support you by speaking with him. It is important that you speak directly with him about your thoughts and feelings. Have a great day, Seori!

  7. There is a boy in my coaching , he always give me nicknames , he mimics the way I laugh , I caught him staring at me and rubbing his chin. There are other girls also. But he behaves like this only to me. He tries to touch me also. Does he likes me ??

    • He is likely interested in developing a relationship with you. His actions indicate that he may want to maintain a physical relationship with you. It is clear that he feels comfortable with you. Decide what actions are appropriate and what you want for your future. Speak with him about your thoughts and feelings. It will be beneficial to give him a chance to share himself as well. Have a great day, Yaya!

  8. So they was this dude who I sat next to in class and we talked and it was really nice (I think) anyway I liked him and someone told me they thought he liked me too but then I ignored him bc I’m dumb and started “talking” to him like 4 weeks later. Any way it’s about a year later and he started talking to me again but only at ski club which is 7 hours long but only saying my name when he passed me on a hill or encouraging me to go faster or join him on a black diamond. So I added him in Snapchat and we sent some photos then he got confused and stopped responding bc I didn’t send my face in photos (I think) anyway he would wink at me at school and say hi and stuff but then recently he’s been making fun of me saying oh you’ll have to be stuck with freinds name and “me” dramatically (not in front of me tho)

    • It sounds possible that he might like you, but there is no way to know for sure just yet. You might be right about the Snapchat. As for the rest, these are things that he could do if he likes you or if he just sees you as a friend. If he doesn’t realize that you might like him, then he may not even be trying to talk to you much because he thinks that there is no hope. The best thing that you could do is start talking to him a bit more. It will give him a chance to realize that you might be interested and to make a move. Best of luck!

  9. There’s this boy in my class.He always looks at me and apparently chats about me to his friends. We talk Everyday.although he acts up in front of his friends a lot by being mean to me(not all the time). And at First its bants and other times its not although when ever he knows i don’t find it funny he apologises and changes the subject. People have told me he likes me and whenever he sees me he always smiles.Im getting mixed vibes.I Thought I liked him but now i’m genuinely confused/hurt. My Ex and me were on good terms but I know he hasn’t gotten over me. This is because i’ve always caught him looking at me and speaking bout me on many occasions. Convincing boys not to ask/go out with me. The boy lets call him A. A acts” funny “whenever my ex joins the convo. Or A will bring him up. I only went out with my Ex for wayyy(3months) less than a year. And I feel awkward and weird whenever my Ex joins a group chat or a game (fortnite)ect… I just leave it. Hopefully i can get some advice.

    • His behaviors may be indications that he has an emotional connection with you. His poor behavior around his friends are signs of his insecurity, but may be signs of future behaviors. Your ex’s behavior is a sign that he may still be interested in you. Determine what you want for your future. Speak with your ex about your thoughts regarding his behavior. If you want to nourish a relationship with someone, then spend additional time in person with him. Have a great day, Moo!

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