When girls are young, they’re always told that the boys who tease them secretly like them. “Pulling pigtails”, they call it. We always just assume that guys will grow out of that vaguely childish behavior, but women often find that when they’re older, guys will continue teasing them.
Sometimes, the pulling pigtails behavior doesn’t always mean what we’re told as kids. Women from all over are left confused and a little annoyed when men start making fun of them, even when they’re otherwise entirely pleasant. Guys who make fun of women come in a variety of flavors, with an array of reasons.
Some of them might not even know why they’re doing it. So what’s the truth? What does it really mean when a guy starts teasing and making fun of you? It’s a leftover instinct from when they were boys?
1. He likes you
This is usually what most people will tell you when you ask them why a guy who is otherwise entirely pleasant to you teases and makes fun of you. Sometimes, guys really don’t grow out of that ten year old phase of being mean to the girls they like. You’ll probably be able to tell if he likes you by the way he makes fun of you.
Is he teasing you to get you to loosen up and learn to laugh at yourself a little bit? If so, he probably doesn’t mind it when you take a few digs at him too. Playful teasing is probably the type of guy’s main form of joking and connecting with people. Don’t take it too seriously, especially if his jokes don’t come at the expense of making you feel poorly about yourself.
2. He feels threatened – or vulnerable
Guys who make fun of you can come in a variety of flavors, and one of these flavors is definitely defensive. It’s no secret that guys tend to mature emotionally a lot slower than women. When a guy likes you – you know, really likes you! – he can feel incredibly vulnerable. Guys like this tend to react to vulnerability to defensiveness.
He may feel like the only way to make himself feel like the big strong macho man he’s supposed to be is by making fun of you – which means, in the end, he’s probably going to get the opposite of what he wants. It’s no use trying to wait for this type of guy to grow up. Brush off his jokes and keep an eye out for a guy who can at least admit his feelings.
Of course, on the flip side – he might not even like you. Maybe you just really intimidate him with your looks, your accomplishments, your personality.
3. He’s just a jerk
Let’s face it – some guys make fun of women because they’re just flat out mean. You’ll probably be able to tell whether he likes you or not by the way he treats you the rest of the time. If he’s constantly making derisive statements and mean-spirited jokes, but never seems to have something nice to say, he’s probably just getting off on making you feel embarrassed or angry.
Some guys get a power trip from making women upset, and making fun of them for the way the talk, the things they like or the way they look is a sure fire way for guys to be able to exploit the kind of vulnerability that gets women fired up. In short: he’s an ass, and not worth even getting indignant over. When he figures out that he can’t rile you up, he’ll eventually get bored and either start acting like a human being, or move on.
When a guy is making fun of you, make sure you keep track of how he treats you otherwise. A guy who doesn’t have anything else to say to you other than jabs about your work, interests and personality probably isn’t harboring a secret crush on you. And likewise, a guy who just takes part in some playful teasing probably isn’t trying to get you made just for the fun of it.
Guys often have a hard time discussing their feelings, so they end up doing something like this: making fun of women and leaving women confused about what they actually want! If you’re not into it, stand your ground and confront him. You’ll either get him to fess up to why he’s actually doing it, or at the very least get him to knock it off.