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What Does It Mean When A Guy Makes Fun Of You?

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When girls are young, they’re always told that the boys who tease them secretly like them. “Pulling pigtails”, they call it. We always just assume that guys will grow out of that vaguely childish behavior, but women often find that when they’re older, guys will continue teasing them.

Sometimes, the pulling pigtails behavior doesn’t always mean what we’re told as kids. Women from all over are left confused and a little annoyed when men start making fun of them, even when they’re otherwise entirely pleasant. Guys who make fun of women come in a variety of flavors, with an array of reasons.

Some of them might not even know why they’re doing it. So what’s the truth? What does it really mean when a guy starts teasing and making fun of you? It’s a leftover instinct from when they were boys?

1. He likes you

This is usually what most people will tell you when you ask them why a guy who is otherwise entirely pleasant to you teases and makes fun of you. Sometimes, guys really don’t grow out of that ten year old phase of being mean to the girls they like. You’ll probably be able to tell if he likes you by the way he makes fun of you.

Is he teasing you to get you to loosen up and learn to laugh at yourself a little bit? If so, he probably doesn’t mind it when you take a few digs at him too. Playful teasing is probably the type of guy’s main form of joking and connecting with people. Don’t take it too seriously, especially if his jokes don’t come at the expense of making you feel poorly about yourself.

2. He feels threatened – or vulnerable

Guys who make fun of you can come in a variety of flavors, and one of these flavors is definitely defensive. It’s no secret that guys tend to mature emotionally a lot slower than women. When a guy likes you – you know, really likes you! – he can feel incredibly vulnerable. Guys like this tend to react to vulnerability to defensiveness.

He may feel like the only way to make himself feel like the big strong macho man he’s supposed to be is by making fun of you – which means, in the end, he’s probably going to get the opposite of what he wants. It’s no use trying to wait for this type of guy to grow up. Brush off his jokes and keep an eye out for a guy who can at least admit his feelings.

Of course, on the flip side – he might not even like you. Maybe you just really intimidate him with your looks, your accomplishments, your personality.

3. He’s just a jerk

Let’s face it – some guys make fun of women because they’re just flat out mean. You’ll probably be able to tell whether he likes you or not by the way he treats you the rest of the time. If he’s constantly making derisive statements and mean-spirited jokes, but never seems to have something nice to say, he’s probably just getting off on making you feel embarrassed or angry.

Some guys get a power trip from making women upset, and making fun of them for the way the talk, the things they like or the way they look is a sure fire way for guys to be able to exploit the kind of vulnerability that gets women fired up. In short: he’s an ass, and not worth even getting indignant over. When he figures out that he can’t rile you up, he’ll eventually get bored and either start acting like a human being, or move on.

When a guy is making fun of you, make sure you keep track of how he treats you otherwise. A guy who doesn’t have anything else to say to you other than jabs about your work, interests and personality probably isn’t harboring a secret crush on you. And likewise, a guy who just takes part in some playful teasing probably isn’t trying to get you made just for the fun of it.

Guys often have a hard time discussing their feelings, so they end up doing something like this: making fun of women and leaving women confused about what they actually want! If you’re not into it, stand your ground and confront him. You’ll either get him to fess up to why he’s actually doing it, or at the very least get him to knock it off.

115 COMMENTS

  1. I’m 13 and there’s a kid I hate and I always tell him to stop but he makes comments on things like my weight and things I can’t control like acne, etc. I have a feeling that he doesn’t like me because I don’t like him but how do I know if he likes me.

    • It sounds as though you have an unusual relationship with this person. As long as he continues to disrespect you, you should not attempt to establish a relationship with this person. Treat him with kindness and compassion. Avoid or endure him when he is present, and allow any insults or harsh words fade from your thoughts. Have a great day, Anon!

  2. Comment: There is one guy,one year older than me teaches us (my best friend and me) physics keeps making fun of me.well there are good reasons like I panic and talk too much but still..He is very good with my best friend.Quite I feel that he admires her as she is very polite and quiet,at least she doesn’t speak as much as I do.
    So he keeps teasing me and laughs while watching me doing stuff. I really feel weird when he does so. I feel sad too sometimes. I guess he dislikes me.

    • He likely does not dislike you. It is probable that he is sharing his thoughts through jokes. If you feel that his actions are inappropriate, then speak directly and honestly with him about your thoughts and feelings. Give him an opportunity to share himself with you as well. This will ensure that the two of you clear up any confusions that may be present. Have a great day, Simi!

  3. Hey I’m 14 years old and i am getting harassed by this boy. He mimickes me and my movements often. he even finds things to tease me about such as my lips 👄. I don’t know what this means. I think he doesn’t like me.

    • If you believe that his actions are meant to be hurtful, then immediately speak with him or someone that you trust and explain that you want him to stop. It is possible that he is interested in developing a relationship with you. Take this time to determine what you want for the future of this relationship. Speak directly and honestly with him about your thoughts and feelings. Have a great day, Brie!

  4. There’s this guy that I don’t exactly like but I feel like he likes me. Likes he’s super clingy and always making jokes and he’s always around me. Like for instance if I went to go sit down somewhere he would come and sit right next to me and if someone’s already there he’ll literally force them to move so he can sit with me.

    • He is interested in spending time with you. It is possible that he is interested in developing a relationship with you. Take this time to determine what you want for your future. Speak directly and honestly with him about your thoughts and feelings. Give him an opportunity to share himself with you as well. Have a great day, Danielle!

  5. Hi,there is this guy in my team which much younger than me like 5 years gaps. He loves to share his problems (family,feeling,work,his long distance girlfreind or anything). We could spend hours just talking and discussing hows life about. Always asking for my opinions on certain things.He consistently telling jokes or make fun of me in front of everyone. He never feel ashamed to share about anything. He keeps repeating the songs that i sang. He always notice if there is a guy tried to flirt with me. Knowing that his GF is much prettier than me makes me wondering why he behave like that.is it just me getting wrong signals or he just comfortable around me?

    • He is currently in a relationship, so there is no reason for you to attempt to establish a relationship with this person. Continue to share your kindness and compassion with him. If his relationship ends and you determine that you are interested in developing a relationship with him, then speak directly and honestly with him about your thoughts and feelings. Have a great day, Ron!

  6. okay, this guy always makes fun of my i insecurities like my.forehead. it’s not even that big like, barely 4 fingers fit on it, bit the more i look at pictures of myself the more it seems like im an alien. with a big forehead. he always brings it up and laughs about it and i fake laugh but it actually makes me kinda upset because im already self-concious about literally everything that’s on my body. ugh.

    • It is normal to be self conscious about your body. He may be teasing you to get a reaction from you. If you believe that he is purposefully attempting to harm your feelings, then remove him from your life. If you think he is trying to be friendly and you want him to stop, then explain your feelings to him. Whatever decision you make, you will find that being direct and honest about your thoughts and feelings will bring productive results. Have a great day, Anon!

  7. There’s this guy that I have in my class and he was talking to a group of guys and he was like “who would ever want to date (my name)?” And then I told him that was rude of him and he said he was just kidding, some times he says my name wrong on purpose and sometimes says hello to me in the mornings. I don’t know if he likes me or hates me

    • It is possible that he is interested in developing a relationship with you. However, his actions are immature and unacceptable. Take this time to determine if you think his actions should be discussed. Speak directly and honestly with him about your thoughts and feelings. You may find benefit in looking inward and determining what you want for the future. Have a great day, Emma!

  8. There’s this guy that likes this other girl a lot but he likes teasing me for fun it’s funny and he also likes playing around with me he also sometimes touches my hand dose that mean he likes me ?

    • It is possible that he is interested in developing a relationship with you. Take this time to determine what you want for the future of this relationship. If he is single, then speak directly and honestly with him about your thoughts and feelings. If he is in a relationship, then allow your emotional energy to be focused elsewhere. Have a great day, Person!

  9. there are boys at my school and they call me ethier no gender or a boy and I really try to dress kike a girly and act girly but I doesn’t help. What do I do?

    • These boys are immature and choose to treat you poorly because they can not handle their own sexuality. Allow their statements to fade from your mind. Focus your attention on your friends and school work. If you find that you want to continue to develop a feminine style, then do so. Have a great day, Grace!

  10. Okay so my friend has been acting super weird lately. He was always a tease, but in these last couple of months, almost all he was doing was basically waiting for me to say something so he cam quickly judge. Everytime we’re with a group of friends he manages to find something to bother me or make me feel bad about myself. At first I thought he liked me but now stuff have seriously gone out of control and his anger/bullying are just too much. I try to think whether i did something that hurt him but I’m 99% sure I didn’t. I keep telling him to stop but he always manages to blame me for being dramatic. Even my friends started to notice and this really hurts me cause I really liked him. Emphasis on past tense.

    • He may have previously had feelings for you. He may still have feelings for you, but he is unable to share those feelings in a mature manner. Whatever his reasons for his actions, he is inappropriate. Speak directly and honestly with him about your thoughts and feelings. If he continues to mistreat you and ignore your feelings, then remove him from your life. Have a great day, Tina!

    • It is possible that he is interested in a developing a relationship with you. Take this time to determine what you want for the future of this relationship. Speak directly and honestly with him about your thoughts and feelings. Give him an opportunity to share himself with you as well. Have a great day, Sabrina!

  11. There’s a boy at my school and he teases me a lot but when he’s not teasing me he is really nice to me but I don’t think he likes me I think he likes one of my friends. What do I do? 🤔

    • It is possible that he is interested in a developing a relationship with you. Take this time to determine what you want for the future of this relationship. Speak directly and honestly with him about your thoughts and feelings. Give him an opportunity to share himself with you as well. Have a great day, Anon!

  12. At my work place there is a guy who was initially friendly but now makes fun of me. He repeats whatever I say in a funny accent, makes fun of my height (Im tiny but totally okay with it) and also of my country at times. He does this in public and today in front of the bosses. I find it highly annoying. I think I will go have a talk with him soon. One on one. Pls. advice. Why is he behaving this way? I am just tired of dealing with complicated men!

    • It is possible that he was interested in developing a relationship with you. It is possible that he is uncertain or confused about his thoughts and feelings. Whatever his reasons, his actions are inappropriate. Take this time to determine what you want for your future. Speak directly and honestly with him about your thoughts and feelings. Have a great day, Confused!

      • There’s this boy that micmikes me all the time. He talks to other boys about me. They called me his girl once. He even said rude things about me.he even listens to my conversations

        • It is possible that he is interested in a developing a relationship with you. Take this time to determine what you want for the future of this relationship. Speak directly and honestly with him about your thoughts and feelings. Give him an opportunity to share himself with you as well. Have a great day, Aubrionna!

  13. I like this guy. He always says mean things like about my eyebrows when we talk but he smiles after doing it. But when I reply teasing he tells me to shut up and go away. We have moments of just staring at each other and he always looks away. He says I love you winks and then tells the people around that he hates me. I honestly am so confused I really like him but I don’t want to get hurt.

    • It is likely that he is interested in developing a relationship with you. It seems as though he has a difficult time sharing his emotions. He may be confused or uncertain about your feelings toward him. Take this time to determine what you want for the future of this relationship. Speak directly and honestly with him about your thoughts and feelings. Give him an opportunity to share himself with you as well. Have a great day, Choco!

  14. There’s this boy I like at school. He is a grade older than me and we barely talk to each other. Whenever he passes, he would always make eye contact with me and if he says something funny, he would look at me to check if I’m laughing. But sometimes, he would tease me in front of his classmates and it pisses me off. So does he like me or not?

    • It is possible that he is interested in a developing a relationship with you. Take this time to determine what you want for the future of this relationship. Speak directly and honestly with him about your thoughts and feelings. Give him an opportunity to share himself with you as well. Have a great day, River!

  15. My crush always makes fun of what I eat. Ex: He made fun of me eating a banana (dirty joke). What does it mean? Does he like me?

    • It is possible that he is interested in a developing a relationship with you. Take this time to determine what you want for the future of this relationship. Speak directly and honestly with him about your thoughts and feelings. Give him an opportunity to share himself with you as well. Have a great day, Lilly!

  16. There’s this boy that makes fun of me for playing a certain sport because I’m a girl and I’m only 15 years old. He says that Golf (the sport that I play) isn’t really a sport and it’s for old men. That really hurts whenever he says it because he gets the whole class involved by taunting me and saying that it’s not a sport. Also, I got one, ONE, bad test grade in another class that we are in together, and he got the whole class to taunt me about my grade! I’m really self conscious about my grades and I try to keep my grades up. Does any of that mean that he likes me?

    • It is possible that he is interested in developing a relationship with you. However, he has chosen a poor way to show his feelings for you. Take this time to determine what you want for the future of this relationship. Speak directly and honestly with him about your thoughts and feelings. Give him an opportunity to share himself with you as well. Have a great day, Taylor!

  17. There’s this guy who always jokes around with me. He was in my 8th grade class. He always jokes around that I am his best friend. Does he like me or no?

    • I am also confused because I have feelings for a girl. It’s been a hard school year because, the girl lied to me. if someone did the same mistake three times is that okay? she now said she is really sorry. She said that she was crying because she felt bad. she said that she doesn’t think that when she goes out with someone it wouldn’t work. So I get happy thinking it won’t work out and we could date when I can but she then dates another boy. She told me that she will wait for me. She said that she is fat but here she is dating a boy. I really have strong feeling for her. Is she the one? What do I do?

      • She is currently in a relationship. Focus your emotional energy elsewhere. There is no reason to attempt to establish a relationship with her. If she reaches out to you, then share your kindness and compassion with her. Have a great day, Anon!

    • It is possible that he views you as his best friend. It is possible that he is interested in developing a relationship with you/ Take this time to determine what you want for the future of this relationship. Speak directly and honestly with him about your thoughts and feelings. Give him an opportunity to share himself with you as well. Have a great day, Anon!

  18. I’m 11, this kid makes fun of me about my pimples,and calls me names like big bird , I have a feeling he Hayes me but I also have a feeling he likes me. How do I know if he likes me ?

    • It is possible that he likes you. It is clear that he has chosen to treat you poorly. Take this time to determine if you believe that his actions are acceptable. Speak directly and honestly with him about your thoughts and feelings. Have a great day, Leila!

  19. Hi there’s this boy I like but I don’t know if he likes me back we text soemtimes and in school we talk sometimes too but I’m really shy and so is he. At the beginning of the year in the class I have him somebody made a joke about me and he laughed? What does it mean I’m really confused and I already told him I liked him so he knows and all he said was about maybe going out one day

    • It is possible that he is interested in a developing a relationship with you. Take this time to determine what you want for the future of this relationship. Speak directly and honestly with him about your thoughts and feelings. Give him an opportunity to share himself with you as well. Have a great day, Lilian!

  20. A while back at my Highschool (still currently in Highschool), I was walking off the campus on a rainy day , but as I was walking, I slipped in a pile of mud, and this boy and his group of friends laughed at me, I was humiliated,then not too long after whenever I saw this boy, he’s always staring at me, and giving me looks (not bad, but almost as if curious or sad), and I honestly don’t know what it means? He has a girlfriend btw, but I hate him because he’s a jerk

    • It is possible that he regrets laughing at your misfortune. He may be confused or uncertain about your feelings. There is no reason to reach out to him. If he reaches out to you, then share your kindness and compassion with him. He is in a relationship, so there is no reason to attempt to nourish a relationship with him. Have a great day, Christina!

  21. There’s this guy and he’s always made fun of me til one day he said sorry at the end of the year. After that we really didn’t speak and we kept it professional, like only speaking to him when he or I needed help with lessons. Today he made fun of me again and was being plain rude by making fun of my name and he stuffed my pen in his trousers! He said sorry like after a while and said ‘You were okay with me, I’m sorry.’ Then his mate who sat next to him continued, but he kept doing his work. His behaviour confuses me and it’s weird. I don’t think he likes me, because he’s been crushing on this popular hot girl since last year,but I’m not sure whether he still likes her. Overall, he’s nice but he can get carried away when he’s around his friends, but what does his behaviour mean?? Thank you xxx

    • He regrets his previous actions toward you. He may view you as a friend. It is possible that he is interested in a developing a relationship with you. Take this time to determine what you want for the future of this relationship. Speak directly and honestly with him about your thoughts and feelings. Give him an opportunity to share himself with you as well. Have a great day, Tara!

    • Thre this boy Mihia and where both in grade 6, we’ve been friends ever since grade 2. This year we’ve been hanging out more after school with friends. Then at school this other boy called me doncky I didn’t let it get to me. Then we played with other friends after school and he called me donkey. Then that’s when it got to me I kept pushing and hitting but still won’t stop. He gets a giggle out of it but still he annoying. Them I yelled at him to stop, finally out of nowhere he stopped we acted like nothing ever happened.

      Does he have feelings for me or no?

      • It is possible that he has feelings with you. He likely feels emotionally comfortable with you. However, he has decided that abuse and violence are acceptable ways of sharing his feelings. Ensure that he treats you with respect as your relationship progresses. If you want to develop a relationship with him, then speak with him about your thoughts and feelings. Have a great day, Ellie!

  22. There is a boy in my math class he asked me out in the beginning of the year and I said no but we were still good freinds now he is calling me things like alien and ugly but he apologized but I still feel upset what does tgat mean

    • It is likely that he still has feelings for you. He may be confused or uncertain about his feelings. He is unable to speak to your in a mature manner. Take this time to determine what you want for your future. Speak directly and honestly with him about your thoughts and feelings. Give him an opportunity to share himself with you as well. Have a great day, Nameless!

  23. My crush and I don’t speak much in person but we text a LOT. Like a lot. And he’s pretty nice to me but he teases me sometimes,though it’s not mean and it’s like the friendly type of teasing. We’ve bonded so much in the past two weeks,he even sent me a funny picture of him XD. But,other than that he told me he thinks I’m funny and there was a time when he had to describe with an emoji and he chose “🔥”. We’re like reaaally good friends now. Though when I asked him why he doesn’t talk to me at school, he said it was because I’m shy and that makes him shy and it becomes a shy cycle. Plus,he said he hates it when I’m shy (I’m a super shy person). We don’t have classes together but we go by the same bus and I’ve caught him glancing at me for 2-3 seconds many times. What does it mean? I’m kind of confused whether he thinks of me as a friend or more than that.

    • It is certainly possible that he is interested in developing a relationship with you. He clearly feels a strong emotional connection with you. Take this time to determine what you want for your future. Speak directly and honestly with him about your thoughts and feelings. Give him an opportunity to share himself with you as well. Have a great day, Sasha!

  24. I just got into University and found myself making a group of friends along the way. This guy is one of them. After a few weeks into the semester things changed, last week he started teasing me along with this one girl. She stopped but he kept going on. This day was full of teasing. He teases me when we’re on our own but even more when we’re around our other friends. He usually says my name a lot and bosses me around playfully.It’s embarrassing but I’m always forced to smile. He also uses everything I do or say to accidentally embarrass myself against me. He tells everyone. I don’t understand why he’s targeting me and calling me names like. “Violent” when I did something “violent” (forward ) etc. I don’t know what’s going on. But the others play along, laugh and this one guy keeps asking me how I deal with him but I just reply with. “I’m used to it.” It’s not always fun to be teased like this because some times I’m not in the mood and it could open the gates to my emotions causing a flood when I’m already feeling down. I guess I’m easy to tease and I’m a blushing mess but sometimes it makes me feel insecure. Sometimes the girls are like: “leave her alone.” as they are laughing. I’m so confused. We get along well I guess but sometimes things are awkward. There’s a chance that he might like me. But I doubt it. I don’t want to be crushed on. He’s a pisces and I’m a cancer. That means were a perfect match. Is my guy friend crushing on me? Why does he act like this? Why does everyone understand what’s going on besides me? Are they bullying me?

    • It is certainly possible that he is interested in you. He may be teasing you as a friend. Take this time to determine what you want for your future. Speak directly and honestly with him about your thoughts and feelings. Give him an opportunity to share himself with you as well. Have a great day, Alicia!

  25. Well, there’s a guy I’ve know for almost three years, and we’ve always been friends, until last year, when he started to act all weird. We had a fight, and ever since that fight he has started to act weird. He’s making fun of me, laughs at me when I get hurt and spreading rumours about me.

    Later my best friend, told me that he liked me before that fight, I don’t know if that fight was so important, alla I know is that it endes our friendship.

    • His actions are likely because of his emotional feelings toward you and toward the argument. His feelings have led him to be be cruel toward you. His actions are inappropriate. Take this time to determine what you want for your future. Speak directly and honestly with him about your thoughts and feelings. Give him an opportunity to share himself with you as well. Have a great day, Diana!

  26. My boyfriend likes to make fun of me and tease me. He has been doing this since we were kids and still does from time to time.

    • This is likely his way of sharing his emotional connection with you. He likely feels as though his behavior is appropriate. If you don’t appreciate his actions, then speak directly and honestly with him about your thoughts and feelings. As long as he chooses to respect you and treat you well, then it is clear that he loves and cares for you. Have a great day, Delly!

  27. There is this guy in my class but, his girlfriend sits right next to me. He however sits behind me he often looks at her and says “ do you know who is hot?” And he says my name. We used to date btw. He always brings up when we used to date and jokes about us still being together but he also calls me ugly and a hoe, and tells me my hair is ugly and I should dye it. And tells to go away and leave him alone. I liked him a lot and maybe still do. What should I do and why is he acting like this?

    • He is in a relationship. He should not be treating you or his partner like this. Speak directly and honestly with him about your thoughts and feelings. If he does not stop treating you poorly, then speak with your teacher or a counselor about his actions. You may also find benefit in speaking with him girlfriend about his actions. Have a great day, Julie!

  28. Hey great article, I think I narrowed it down to #1 or #2 with my current situation.

    I think he’s cute but his behaviour towards me is off putting. Maybe he thinks that he’s loosening me up by trying to poke fun at me but I don’t like it. I’m a reserved person and that’s not the way to get me to open up. If he wasn’t kind to me at all I’d stop talking to him.

    Part of me feels he doesn’t know how much he’s hurting me but another part of me feels he’s purposely trying to break me down. I don’t even know why we’re both the cute type and he’s in grad school while I’m an undergrad!

    • It is possible that he is interested in developing a relationship with you. He likely is uncomfortable with his behavior because he had not learned to act in a more acceptable manner. Take this time to determine what you want for your future. Speak directly and honestly with him about your thoughts and feelings. Give him an opportunity to share himself with you as well. Have a great day, Sharla!

  29. So there’s this guy who I like, but him and I are really close friends and he keeps making fun of the way I talk sometimes and teases me a lot. Ive told him to stop and he said sorry but he still does is and im not sure why he is doing it. It is actually hurting my feelings…

    • It is certainly possible that he is attempting to flirt with you. You have shared your thoughts and feelings with him. He may be clumsy with his behavior and may not be intending to harm you. Take this time to determine what you want for your future. Speak directly and honestly with him about your thoughts and feelings. Give him an opportunity to share himself with you as well. Have a great day, Kim!

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