If you’ve ever had a guy friend offer to help you move, or offer to drive you somewhere, or offer to help carry your groceries or cook dinner, then you’ve probably, at some point, wondered what his ulterior motives might be. After all, people as a whole rarely do something unless they’re going to get something in return.
This definitely can apply to a lot of guys – but lucky for us, not all of them. Trying to figure out what a guy really means when he’s always offering to help can be difficult, especially when guys tend to be more emotionally immature than women. It could mean that they’re just being polite and offering to help – it could also mean something a little more.
1. He’s a nice guy
When a guy offers to help you, it may not have any other motivation than just being nice. Maybe he was raised polite and told to help others when they needed it. This is a good thing! It means he’s going to be a solid friend that you can depends on in the future.
It also means that if, for whatever reason, you two become more than friends, he’ll be there for you to depend on as well. A guy who offers to help when you need it most is the type of guy you want to keep around, even if it doesn’t mean he’s interested in you.
The best way to figure out if he’s just a really nice dude is to see if he offers help to everyone else, or just you. If he’s the type of guy who’s always ready to offer his services to anyone in need, then he’s probably not into you on the basis of offering to help.
2. He likes you
On the flip side, a guy who is always the first to jump to offering his help when you need something is probably trying to show that he’s boyfriend material. He wants to be available and helpful so that you’ll notice him. It also has the added benefit of the two of you spending time together, probably alone.
A guy who always offers to help and wants to spend time with you is a guy who is trying to show that he likes you, and that he’ll be an excellent boyfriend if you give him half a chance. If you’re into him to, let him keep helping you out – you’ll eventually be able to sneak in a way to let him know that you like him too.
A guy who offers to help you out to show that he likes you will also be able to show you that he’s a dependable and reliable kind of guy- he’s probably hoping to subtly give you the hint that you can trust him.
3. He wants something from you
And that something is usually sex. A guy who is eager to help you do something like more or drive you somewhere may be looking for something for his trouble. He’s probably looking to get intimate with you as a reward for all of his hard work. You’ll probably be able to tell that this is what he wants from other context clues – flirting, affectionate touching.
He might be hoping that if he helps you do things like move your furniture, that you’ll spend enough alone time with him that offering to take him to be will be the next step. If he’s a good guy, he’ll understand if he rebuff his advances if you’re just not that into him. After all, he’s the one who offered to help.
Guys aren’t all that mysterious when it comes down to it. They definitely don’t know how to express themselves as well as women, but in the end they’re not too hard to figure out. A guy who offers to help you out all the time can do so for any number of reasons. He either likes you and wants to spend time alone with you, or he’s just a helpful guy and was raised to be kind and courteous.
Context is always key! Observe how he is around guys and other girls to get a hint on how he treats other people. You’ll find out quickly if you’re a special case, or if this is just the way he acts with everyone. Once you figure out his motivations – if he even has any! – you’ll be able to figure out whether or not he likes you, and what to do about it if he does.