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What Does It Mean When A Guy Plays With Your Hair?

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Men don’t always say what the mean to say, when they mean to say it. Unfortunately, that means that women have to figure out what a guy means in other ways. One of those ways is observing a guy’s body language- this could be anything from the way he stands and sits, to the way he interacts with you with casual and affectionate touches.

A question that tends to plague women’s minds is: what does it mean when a guy plays with your hair? You know, you’re hanging out with a guy and he starts to run his fingers through your hair, or maybe he twirls one end around his finger. These types of casual touches can mean any number of things, but guys probably won’t be the first to admit any of them.

It isn’t really a platonic gesture when a guy plays with a girls hair. So what is the level of emotion that he feels? Is he just flirting and doesn’t mean much buy it? Or is he really feeling your connection? Figuring out what exactly a guy means when he plays with your hair is all about the body language.

1. He’s flirting

Sometimes, men just happen to be naturally flirty. There are some guys who just can’t turn off their natural charm and everything about them seems (or is) flirtatious. Guys who are single are usually the culprits of a casual flirtation. If he’s playing with your hair, it might mean that he’s flirting with you – but it doesn’t always mean that he’s serious.

Sometimes, flirting is just for fun. Keep an eye out on whether or not he’s playing with the hair of other girls as well. If he is, he probably just doesn’t even know he’s doing it. He could just be flirting on auto pilot with every girl he finds attractive. A guy who’s very tactile might not even be aware of the way he comes across when flirting. If you’re having fun, there’s no use worrying over some harmless, innocent flirting.

2. He’s attracted to you

When he plays with your hair, does he comment on the color, or how soft it is, or how nice it feels? Does he look you in the eyes while he’s playing with a strand of your hair? Or maybe he looks you up and down. If so, he might find you attractive, and playing with your hair is one way for him to nonverbally express that sentiment.

A guy who’s attracted to you don’t always mean that he’s interested in you or wants to date you. It could mean those things, but it could also mean that he’s just looking for a little casual fling. Or, maybe he just likes to make women feel good about themselves. Either way, you’re getting a free compliment. Enjoy it! If you find him attractive two, maybe you’ll even hit it off and enjoy flirting back and forth.



3. He likes you

This tends to go hand in hand with being attracted to you. Not every guy who’s attracted to you likes you, but every guy who likes you is attracted to you. So, when he strokes your hair and compliments you, he might be giving away his feelings and showing that he likes you.

Especially if you two have known each other for a while, and he hasn’t always been demonstrative in his affection. Maybe he tucks your hair behind your ear so he can see your face more clearly, or plays with the ends of your hair while you’re having a conversation. When he does this, he’s trying to think up any excuse that he can to touch you and be affectionate while still remaining polite.

 

Guys are a lot more “show” than they are “tell”. They’ll be more interested in being physical that they will trying to talk through their feelings. Sometimes, they won’t even be able to tell what those feelings are – they’ll just act on them. Like touching and playing with your hair! A guy may totally be into you and not even know they are until they find themselves entranced by your hair.

Even if he’s just harmlessly flirting or trying to express his affection, you make this guy lose himself enough to just want to reach out and touch you anyway he can, and playing with your hair is the safest bet. Or, you know – maybe he’s just really jealous of your silky hair. If that’s the case, recommend him your conditioner so he, too, can have perfect wavy hair.

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39 COMMENTS

    • Allow concepts like someone being out of your league to leave your mind. If you he touching your hair, then it is certainly possible that he is interested in developing a relationship with you. If you want to develop a relationship with him, then reach out to him. Speak directly and honestly with him about your thoughts and feelings. Have a great day, Jazz!

  1. Today in class, I was laughing so hard that I put my head down. (Me and my guy friend where sitting at the same table) And then suddenly, he starting to try to braid my hair! I was so shocked so I still kept my head down. 😊 So could he like me? I’m still not really sure…

    • It is certainly possible that he is interested in developing a relationship with you. It is clear that he has a strong emotional connection with you and feels comfortable around you. Take this time to determine what you want with this relationship. Speak directly and honestly with him about your thoughts and feelings. Have a great day, Rachel!

  2. My friend who is a boy always walks by me and flicks my hair if in a bun or ponytail and if it’s down he runs his fingers through I like him could he like me I don’t know what to do I don’t want to ask my mom she will get all lovey

    • This person likely is interested in developing a relationship with you. Your mother knows this as well. Take this time to determine what your want with your future. Speak directly and honestly with him about your thoughts and feelings. Give him an opportunity to share himself with you as well. Have a great day, Makenna!

  3. This guy will sometimes like flick my hair or put something in it but today he was playing with my hair. He was trying to braid it and twist it. Yesterday he also gave me two front hugs. He’s been touching me a lot more lately. I’m not sure if he is just flirting or if he’s into me?

    • It is highly likely that he is interested in developing a relationship with you. Take this time to determine what you want for the future of this relationship. Speak directly and honestly with him about your thoughts and feelings. Give him an opportunity to share himself with you as well. Have a great day, Lola!

  4. This guy i like has been touching me more. He’s been like flicking my hair and putting stuff in it. Yesterday he come up to me and hugged me twice. Today he started playing with my hair. He was trying to braid it and twist it. I’m not sure if he is flirting or not

    • It is highly likely that he is interested in developing a relationship with you. Take this time to determine what you want for the future of this relationship. Speak directly and honestly with him about your thoughts and feelings. Give him an opportunity to share himself with you as well. Have a great day, Lola!

  5. This guy who sits behind me in class just started playing with my braid then I turned around and he stop and smiled wide. I turned back around and told his friend what he was doing (which also has been acting flirty with me and touching my arm a lot) said “he doesn’t know what he is doing”like he was jealous…do these guys like me or no

    • It is likely that he is attracted to you. He may be interested in developing a relationship with you. Take this time to determine what you want with this relationship. Decide if you believe that his actions are acceptable. Speak directly and honestly with him about your thoughts and feelings. Give him an opportunity to share himself with you as well. Have a great day, Byonia!

  6. Okay so everyday in class when my crush walks by me, he flicks my hair and he always is touchy such as grabbing my hand, leaning against me, putting his arm around my shoulder and even started saying “i love you” to me but he keeps saying he doesn’t like anyone so I don’t know if he likes me or not

    • It is certainly possible that he is interested in developing a relationship. His attention and statements are signs of his affection. Take this time to determine what you want for the future of this relationship. Speak directly and honestly with him about your thoughts and feelings. Give him an opportunity to share himself with you as well. Have a great day, Selena!

  7. I was on my school bus and I was leaning on my friend cause I was really tired. I closed my eyes and then suddenly I felt him playing with my hair, twirling one end with his finger. What shall I think bout this?

    • This action is a reflection of his emotional connection with you. He may be interested in developing a relationship with you. Take this time to determine what you want for your future. Speak directly and honestly with him about your thoughts and feelings. Give him an opportunity to share himself with you as well. Have a great day, Helena!

  8. My best guy friend and I have been getting increasingly close for a week or two now, and he’s been getting nicer to me. He was an a##hole for awhile but he made a sudden turnaround and started playing with my hair more and more and bopping me on the nose and sometimes even playing with my hands. When he cracks a joke he sometimes looks at me to see if I’m laughing or something. He always seems to be around me. But at the same time I’m not really sure if i want him to like me back because I don’t want it to ruin the amazing friendship we have. Help

    • It is certainly possible that he is interested in developing a relationship with you. He may have difficulty sharing his feelings with you. He may accidentally come off rude. Take this time to determine what you want for your future. Speak directly and honestly with him about your thoughts and feelings. Give him an opportunity to share himself with you as well. Have a great day, Sophia!

  9. My best guy friend and I have been getting increasingly close for a week or two now, and he’s been getting nicer to me. He was a jerk for awhile but he made a sudden turnaround and started playing with my hair more and more and bopping me on the nose and sometimes even playing with my hands. When he cracks a joke he sometimes looks at me to see if I’m laughing or something. He always seems to be around me. But at the same time I’m not really sure if i want him to like me, because I don’t want it to ruin the amazing friendship we have. Help

    • It is certainly possible that he is interested in developing a relationship with you. He may have difficulty sharing his feelings with you. He may accidentally come off rude. Take this time to determine what you want for your future. Speak directly and honestly with him about your thoughts and feelings. Give him an opportunity to share himself with you as well. Have a great day, Sophia!

    • It is normal not to be interested in public displays of affection. If you are not comfortable with his public action, then speak directly and honestly with him. If there are times that you feel more receptive or comfortable with his actions, then let him know your feelings regarding that as well. Give him an opportunity to share himself with you as well. Have a great day, Madison!

  10. My bf always plays with my hair I think iT is really sweet but he always does it on the school bus and everyone watches it and it creeps me the heck out…

    • It is normal not to be interested in public displays of affection. If you are not comfortable with his public action, then speak directly and honestly with him. If there are times that you feel more receptive or comfortable with his actions, then let him know your feelings regarding that as well. Give him an opportunity to share himself with you as well. Have a great day, Madison!

  11. Today, while my husband and I were talking to the couple next door, he kept reaching over and touching the woman’s hair, playfully tugging at it, running his fingers through it. He never touches my hair. Later at home, I told him this made me very uncomfortable and asked him to stop flirting. He became very angry and defensive, said he wasn’t flirting, started cussing at me and calling me names. Eventually he said, “I don’t care what you think, just go away.” We’ve been married 28 years.

    • His actions were flirtatious. He may not have felt as though her were flirting. It was right of you to share your feelings. His reactions show that he is not respectful of your emotions. His reactions may have also been signs that he was aware that he was flirting. It is possible that this is a manifestation of his thoughts regarding other women. Take this time to determine what you want for the future of this relationship. Speak directly and honestly with him about your thoughts and feelings. Have a great day, Anne!

  12. There is this guy on my bus, and whenever the bus stops, he “falls” onto me. Recently he touches my hair, bumps my shoulder and is making obvious attempts to touch me. He now goes out of his way to sit next to me.. Always looking at me to see if I am laughing after he tells a joke. I don’t know what to do!

    • If you believe that his behavior is inappropriate, then speak directly and honestly with him about your thoughts and feelings. Speak with the bus driver if his actions do not change. If you welcome his actions and are interested in developing a relationship with him, then speak directly and honestly with him about your thoughts and feelings. Give him an opportunity to share himself with you as well. Have a great day, Colette!

        • Thank you for sharing your positive comment. Please feel free to share more of your insights and experiences in the future. Have a great day, Colette!

  13. I have this guy who always messes my hair around,he mimicks me all the time, eye contact is very stong and theres a time he licked my hand(but i think that was to make me upset)he also tries to provoke me because he’s really tall and he’s a nice person overall but i am not sure if he likes me or if this is just a joke.

    • He is interested in developing a relationship with you. His physical actions are clear signs that he is attracted to you. Take this time to determine what you want for your future. Speak directly and honestly with him about your thoughts and feelings. Give him an opportunity to share himself with you as well. Have a great day, Francessa!

  14. My friend and I for the first time shared a bed and in the middle of the night I woke up to the sensation of his hands around my hair, playing with it. I in a sleepy way I asked him if he was playing with my hair? to which he responded. “Oh sorry, I didn’t ask for your permission.” I said, it was fine. and he continue to play with it, saying. “Since I was a kid, I would always play with my mom’s hair.” I’m a guy and we are both gay. What would he mean?

    • His actions are reflections of his emotional connection with you. He is likely interested in developing a physical relationship with you. Take this time to determine what you want for your future. Speak directly and honestly with him about your thoughts and feelings. Give him an opportunity to share himself with you as well. Have a great day, Alejandro!

  15. There’s this boy at my school I really like, and I don’t know if he likes me. He’s always playing with my hair, giving me high fives, and leaning on me, and looking from my eyes to my lips. I don’t know if he likes me though, because I’ve seen him flirting with other girls. What should I do?

    • He feels a strong social and emotional connection with you. His behaviors are indications that he is interested in developing a relationship with you. He is flirting with you. He is looking at your lips, which is a common sign that he is interested in kissing you. Determine what you want for the future of this relationship. Speak with him about your thoughts and feelings. Have a great day, Mollie!

  16. there’s this guy and he’s like a year younger than me i have a slight crush on him and today his friend and i are like really good friends and then his friend started trying to braid my hair but then the guy i like came over and said that he actually knew how to braid hair so then he started braiding my hair so then i was just standing there with two boys braiding my hair

    • It sounds as though you have a strong relationship with this guy. His friend also cares for you, and this may be a sign that he would approve of this relationship. You will find benefit in speaking with your crush about your thoughts and feelings. His friend may be willing to support this relationship. Have a great day, Lauren!

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