Yikes. So he told you not to waste your time dating him, huh? Ouch. That has got to sting a little bit. Especially when you were really hoping things were going in a completely different direction. However, he might not mean what he really says. People can say one thing and absolutely mean a whole different things. It’s up to you to figure that out. But you do not have to do it alone. Luckily for you our research has brought us to the conclusion that there could be various different meanings when he says to not waste your time dating him. All you have to do is keep reading to find out what those various meanings are.
Reasons He Might Have Said It
He Really Doesn’t Think It’s A Good Idea: We hate to break it to you, but a lot of the time when he says that he doesn’t think you should waste time dating him it is just code for, “I don’t really think us dating is a great idea. Let’s not do that.” Yes, it sucks, because you certainly had your hopes up. But sometimes people feel what they feel and that’s that. It is best to just move on with your life. Stop depending on him for your happiness and kick his butt to the curve for not thinking that you are good enough for him.
He Is Not Ready Just Yet: But sometimes when he says it, it means that he just doesn’t think that now is a good time. He might like the idea of dating you at some point, but right now is not that point. It is definitely up to you whether or not you want to wait around for him to make up his mind or if you just want to move on. Your best bet is to just ask him if he means that he doesn’t think it is a good time now or if he really just doesn’t think it is a good idea in general. Otherwise you might be left in the land of wondering eternally. And no one really wants that.
He Has Another Love Interest/Relationship: Don’t waste your time dating him could mean that he is already invested in someone else that you may or may not be aware of. He might know that if the two of you date it won’t go anyone because he is more committed to the other love interest/relationship that he is involved in at the same time. He just does not want to waste your time, because he knows the two of you will never really get that far with each other.
He Is Scared Of Commitment: Yeah, a lot of guys out there say this because they are commitment phobes. What does that mean? It means he is absolutely terrified of getting seriously involved with someone. The thought of it sends him running for the hills. So his best response is that you shouldn’t waste your time dating him, because he doesn’t want to waste his time dating you. He knows that it will never amount to anything serious due to his phobia of commitment.
He Doesn’t Like You As More Than A Friend: He could also be saying this to you because he doesn’t want to be anything more than friends. He thinks that what the two of you have now is perfect and if you take it to the next level he believes that it will fail. Not only will it fail, but it will ruin the friendship that the two of you share with each other now. He thinks that it would actually be a waste of time to take things any further.
He’s Not Confident Enough: There is a very slim chance that he is saying this because he is intimidated by you. He might think that you will get bored with him right away or that you are more attractive than he is. This means that he is very insecure about himself. Insecurity could make him uneasy about furthering a relationship with you. He might have himself convinced that it will be going nowhere fast or that you will realize that you are better than him and get tired of the relationship.
You Caught Him By Surprise: He might also be saying this as a way to deflect you, because you caught him off guard by suggesting that the two of you should date! This might have been the last thing on his mind and then all of a sudden there you are mentioning it. He could just be surprised and his automatic response would be for you to not waste your time dating him. You can try to talk to him at another time when he has had time to process all of this new information.