Imagine that you’ve been hanging out with a guy, texting back and forth and things seem to be going great. You’re flirting all the time, you get along well, you have the same interests. You probably want to take it a bit further, right? Well, what happens when a guy suddenly tells you that he doesn’t know if he likes you? It probably comes out of left field.
After all, you’ve been hanging out and talking non-stop, and it seems like he likes you. He treats you kindly, checks up on you, invites you to go places, and seems to enjoy spending time with you. But he suddenly just comes out with this doubt of whether or not he really likes you. Before you panic, take a deep breath. It probably means any number of things, and some of them don’t spell doom for a relationship that hasn’t even happened yet.
1. He’s nervous
If he’s otherwise been showing signs that he likes you, it might just mean that he’s nervous. Maybe he likes you more than he realized, and he needs a moment to gather his feelings together. He’s probably trying to pull away in order to clear his head. This doesn’t mean that he’s never going to come back. It just means that the feelings that he has are more overwhelming than he had anticipated, and it’s making him nervous. The best thing to do is to give him some space to figure it out.
2. He’s testing you
As weird as it is, a guy might say this in order to test and see how much you like him. If he tells you this and you just shrug it off and move on, then you’re letting him know that you don’t like him that much either. At least, you don’t like him enough to stay and find out what he really means by it. If he tells you that he doesn’t know if he likes you and you stay to try and work on it or figure it out, it’s a sign to him that you’re really invested in being with him. It might be annoying, but guys do just as many weird things as girls do when they like someone. So, it might just be a test to see how much you like him.
3. He’s confused
Feelings of affection can be confusing for anyone! A guy who tells you if he doesn’t know if he likes you might just be confused as to what he’s feeling. If you get along really well and seem to enjoy one another’s company, he probably does like you – he’s just not used to feeling that way before! You might be the one girl that really gets him feeling like this in the first place. The best thing to do is to just wait it out, and see if he wants to talk about his feelings. If not, give him some space while still letting him know that you’re there if he needs it.
4. He just doesn’t like you
This is a hard pill to swallow, but it might just be true. If he tells you that he doesn’t know if he likes you, it might be his way of trying to let you down gently. Maybe you got along really well, but he’s starting to realize that he likes you as more of a friend than a potential relationship. These things happen, and you’ve probably experienced the same thing on your end once or twice before, too. He might not want to hurt your feelings by telling you flat out that he doesn’t think of you like that. He’s probably trying to soften the blow. Ask him how he feels and tell him he doesn’t have to sugar coat it. The truth will probably come out.
Sometimes, a guy just needs a little push to say what he means. When he tells you that he doesn’t know if he likes you, it could mean that he just doesn’t know – or that he definitely knows, and the outcome isn’t in your favor. On the other hand, it could just mean that he’s trying to work out his feelings on his own. Guys aren’t socialized to express their emotions the same way that women are.
Still, it doesn’t mean that they don’t have feelings at all! Guys feel just as much as girls do. When he likes you, he knows – whether or not he tells you that depends on the guy. As long as you give him the space that he needs, and keep open communication, you’ll get to the bottom of the mystery in no time. Hopefully, he just needed some time to work things out. If he really doesn’t like you, though, it’s best to cut your losses and move on.