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What Does It Mean When A Guy Stares At You But Doesn’t Smile?

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You might catch a guy looking at you but oddly enough, he is not reacting to your attention. Both of you hold an awkward staring contents and you cannot read or understand what is going in his head. To some extent, it might freak you out or even scare you. His blank stare has you questioning if he likes you, if does not notice what he is doing or if there is something on your face. Do not worry, we have all been there and here are a few things that he might be thinking.

what does it mean when a guy stares at you for a long time

What does his stare mean?

1. You remind him of someone

We all have encountered someone who looks exactly like someone we knew. We stare at them and examine their face to see if it is the person we are thinking of.

As you know, when people see something familiar, they get lost in their own thoughts. Due to that, he might not be smiling because he is in his own little world. He could be thinking of moments that he has had with the person you remind him of.

2. He is in a deep thought

Zoning out is something done by everyone. Often times when people zone out, he or she ends up having a focal point and staring there for a good amount of time.

If you catch a guy staring at you with a blank expression on his face, there is a high chance that he is in a deep thought. Awkwardly enough, he just happened to choose your face as a focal point.

The best way to see if he was zoned out is be seeing his reaction after he snaps out of it. If he seems embraced and his face and body become more expressive, he was definitely in a deep though.

3. He is trying to be mysterious

There is always that one guy who tries to get your attention by acting like he does not care. That act is still relevant in this day and age, unfortunately.

He might just be trying to give you that mysterious vibe so you can try to pursue him. You can get a better gist of his intentions if you get to know him better.

4. You started the poker-face competition

Sometimes, we do not notice the actions we do and this can lead to strange situations. If you notice a guy staring at you with a poker-face, you could have initiated the poker-face competition.

In this type of situation, it is difficult to figure out who started it. He may have took your stare as a challenge or maybe an aggressive act so he is giving you a taste of your medicine.

5. He might like you

There are the guys who want to give off the mysterious vibe to capture your attention but then, there are the shy guys who are too afraid to react around you.

Some guys do not react or show any expression of interest because they are too shy of how it will come off. If you catch a guy staring at you without smiling and then instantly looks away, there is a high chance he is attracted to you but to shy to approach you.

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How to respond to the stare

Of course, it is difficult to know which situation you are in when judging someone’s stare. You have no clues since no reaction might come from you staring back. You are left with a big question mark but here are some ways to respond.

1. Stare back

The most obvious thing to do is stare back. It could become a staring competition but this can definitely determine what the stare means.

If one of you cracks into a smile, it could definitely lead into something. He might loosen up and make a funny face or even talk to you after. This is where you could see what his intentions are and by that, you can see if he likes you.

2. Confront him

To the fearless, confronting him could be something easy for you to do. This is not a reason to confront him aggressively though. You could joke around by saying, “Did I have something on my face before that you couldn’t tell me?”

That way, he knows that you caught him looking but it also creates an easy environment to break the ice. He notices that you did not find it weird and made the situation into a laughing matter.

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3. Break the staring contents 

If you catch a guy staring at you and he’s not smiling, another thing you can do is break him out of it. A subtle smile can definitely stop him from staring so seriously. After all, smiles are contagious. If you smile, there is a high chance he will smile back.

You can also make a silly face. He might think you are crazy but it will definitely make him snap out of his zone.

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  1. Hello, so there is this guy who I had multiple awkward encounters with.This guy is always on his phone when he is walking, only looks up to see he is not going to trip. He only has guy friends who he rarely hangs out with and I have never seen him talk to a girl. We live in the same hallway of the residence hall, so at first I thought it was normal since we lived in the same hallway. Until one day, I was walking back to my dorm from the school cafeteria and he was a certain distance behind me. I heard footsteps rushing until I saw a guy pass me. Just as I was getting closer to the doors to enter the residence building, he passed me, opened the door, and stood there holding it while staring at me. I thought he was just being a gentleman; however, I took the stairwell and so did he, we reached the third floor and I opened the door to enter the hallway. just as I had opened the door, he reached just above my shoulder to hold the door. I thought it was super weird since we don’t know each other…we are complete strangers. Weeks later, he saw me holding hands with my boyfriend who came to visit me. So i think he now knows that i am in a relationship, so days after he saw us, I encountered him in the hallway and he stared at me without blinking or smiling as he was walking pass me. I held the gaze for about 4 sec and then looked away. Usually when he is walking while looking at his phone and I pass by him, he turns to look at me but I avoid making eye contact with him. So one day before we had our winter break I decided to approach him in a friendly manner. We were both in the elevator and we were directly facing each other, he was looking down at the floor until I asked him a question. we talked as we walked into the hallway and had a nice conversation. the day after, when I saw him I waved and smiled hello at him. He did a small wave with a blank/cold/surprised look on his face. I felt bad because of his response but them that same night I saw him at the cafeteria where he waved at me first, still with the blank facial expression, no smile, nothing. after a month of not seeing him, I didnt know what i should do if I saw him. This week we came back and I saw him so I waved hello and smiled. then again he waved back at me with his serious face.
    I’ve never seen him talk to girls. he’s always on his phone. only comes out of his room if he’s going to class or has to eat. only had guy friends. and he is not afraid to look me into the eyes and maybe hold the stare. I don’t understand, is he shy? does he not like me? am I annoying to him? does he just not know how to talk to a girl or even how to act around a girl? does he not want to be my friend? does he not want to get close to me? am I intimidating? what could he be thinking?

    • Each of your questions are valid, but they can only be answered by you speaking with him. Take this time to determine what you want for your future. Decide what you think is appropriate. Speak with him about your thoughts and feelings. Ensure that you give him an opportunity to share himself with you. You may nourish this relationship by spending additional time with him in person. These interactions will help you better understand how he feels toward you. Have a great day, Jess!

  2. There is a girl in my school.Sometimes she stares at me and sometimes she ignores me.
    She stared at me when the school was over and the very next day she was ignoring me.
    One day she stares and the very next day she doesnt.
    I dont know whats going on…
    But I really gets shy when i see her staring at me.
    So what kind of signs is she showing….?

    • It is possible that her behaviors are indications that she is interested in developing a relationship with you. She may be confused or uncertain about your feelings toward her. It is certainly possible that she has a crush on you. Determine what you want at this time. Decide if you believe if it is appropriate for you to speak with her about your thoughts and feelings. Nourish this relationship by spending additional time with her in person. Have a great day, Anon!

      • First of all thanks for reply .
        Even i am interested in her but i dont know how to start cgat with her as I am a bit shy guy.
        Can you please suggest me how to start the conversation with her?
        But I also have a feel that it could be an accidental staring .I dont know what to do?
        Really I am in love with her.

        • You have stated that you are in love with her. This likely means that you are interested in developing a relationship with her. Nourish this relationship by spending additional time with her in person. Speak with her about your thoughts and feelings. Be direct with your statements. Give her an opportunity to share herself with you as well. Have a great day, Anon!

          • It took me 4 hours to find her instagram id.
            I sent her following request,even my friwnd sent her request.
            She accepted my friend’s request but didnt accepted mine.
            There are 2 possiblities,either she was unable to identify me in my profile pic or she isnt interested in me.
            Really feeling sad now.
            I think I should change my profile pic.😂😂😂
            Bro what are ur views about this???
            The earlier signs i conveyed you were enough or this was just coincidence

          • There may be various reasons for her actions. It is possible that she was uncertain of who you were. There may be another reason why she didn’t add you. Since she didn’t, give her space. It is possible that she will add you in the future. You may need to change your picture. Regardless, ensure that you share your kindness and compassion with everyone in your life. Have a great day, Anon!

  3. Really you are great brother.
    You reply instantly.
    I am thankful to you for your replies.
    Btw i will inform you about whatever will happen next.
    👍👍👍

    • We look forward to your future experiences and insights. Please share more of your supportive comments in the future. Have a great day, Anon!

      • Finally she accepted my follow request but still I am waiting for follow back.It seems that she is showing a bit of attitude but no problem.
        Now how should I start the conversation on insta?????
        It is nearly impossible for me to talk to her in school.
        So my only hope is instagram.

        • She has accepted your request. If you believe that she is showing attitude, then you need to take a second look at how you are perceiving her behaviors. She does not owe you anything. If you are unable to communicate with her, then do not attempt to nourish this relationship. If you are serious about attempting to develop a relationship with her, then speak with her in person. Have a great day, Unknown!

          • Brother problem is that it is nearly impossible to talk to her in school.I just want one suggestion that how should I start conversation with her on social media?

          • If you feel that you can only speak with her on social media, then send her a message. Greet her and give her an opportunity to respond. Speak with her about your thoughts and feelings. Give her an opportunity to share herself with you as well. If she does not respond or chooses to keep the conversation short, then ensure that you respect her wishes. Have a great day, Unknown!

  4. I proposed a my junior on social media and she neither said no nor yes…
    After that day we becane very close and we chat with each other everyday for 3-4 hours late at night..
    She is considering me as a close friend and she said that she dont know if we will have future relationship.
    She also know thay i love her a lot and even she loves me.
    She always responds to my texts.
    Yesterday she told that it is difficult for her to be in a relationship bcoz she have health related issues too.
    I dont know she will go for relationship with me, but sometimes her texts ensure that she wants that but then she turns the talks and says that we are only close friend
    IDK wtf is going on

    • She has informed you of your thoughts and feelings. She doesn’t know if this relationship has a future. Ensure that you continue to share your kindness and compassion with her. If she doesn’t want to nourish a romantic relationship with you, then respect her wishes. Speak with her about your thoughts and feelings, and give her an opportunity to share herself with you as well. Have a great day, Anon!

  5. One night I went to a party with my sister and met friends there, and their was this boy there and I know him most definitely and he glared at me & his friends were acting a little weird and wasn’t but nobody paying attention to it but I was lol but after the party he wanted to ride in the same ride I was riding in and then days days later i see him around at school and I never use to see him around but how I see him around!! so… one day everybody went outside for the fire alarm that went off and I was outside with a friend on a rock doing whatever and I look over and he is STARING AT ME WITH A BLANK FACE? and I looked over and saw him do that but I looked at him and I wonder how long was he staring at me? and why? and my friend didn’t even know nothing but I don’t know if he looked away but all I know is he was staring in a blank face and I caught him but I’m not sure when he looked away cause I looked away not fast but fast ANY IDEAS???

    • His behaviors are indications that you are on his mind. His blank face may be a sign that he is uncertain or confused about your feelings toward him. It is possible that he is interested in developing a relationship with you. Determine what you want for your future. If you want to nourish this relationship, then speak with him about your thoughts and feelings, and spend additional time with him in person. Have a great day, Kechelle!

  6. Ok, so there is this guy at my school. We haven’t spoken at all, like ev er?!
    He sta res at me but then looks away when I look back. Sometimes he will just st are at me with no emotion. I want to talk to him but I’m shy. I have found his Instagram, maybe I should talk to him on there?

    • His behaviors may be indications of his feelings for you. You have found him on social media, so you may want to communicate with him there. This may give the two of you the comfort of online communication to better start a conversation. Determine what you want for your future. You may want to speak with him about your thoughts and feelings. You can nourish this relationship by spending additional time with him in person. Have a great day, Unknown!

  7. I have a friend that I have a crush on and just sometimes during lunch, class and in the halls he will just stare at me. Its a blank kind of stare and a lot of times after he laughs mostly because of how I shrink up. I mean, he has a girlfriend though, but she was crying once and all her friends told him but he just continued to talk to his friends, he also just gives her side hugs, so I feel like he’s not very passionate about this relationship. So I don’t know what to think, he was recently being nicer to me but I got a bad haircut so it stopped a little bit, I am growing it out more though, but I’m getting off topic, do you think he likes me?

    • You are aware that this person has a girlfriend. It is reasonable for him to share his positive energy with you, as the two of you are friends. Continue to share your kindness and compassion at all times, as this will draw positive people and energy into your life. Do not attempt to nourish this relationship at this time. If his relationship naturally ends, then speak with him about your thoughts and feelings at that time. Have a great day, Madelyn!

      • Yeah, I asked him out once or twice and that was before I knew he had a girlfriend but he never responded and I’m confused on to if he likes me to or not.

        • He has a girlfriend, so do not worry whether or not he likes you. Make a decision about what you want for your future without him. You will find great benefit in sharing your kindness and compassion at all times. Have a great day, Madelyn!

    • The person that you are interested in is now single. He may be going through some emotional turmoil at this time. Make a decision about what you want for the future of this relationship. Speak with him about your thoughts and feelings, and give him an opportunity to share himself with you as well. Have a great day, Madelyn!

  8. There’s this guy I’ve been staring contest for almost 4years now. I first saw him in the church around Nov of 2015 we were only two seats apart from each other at first I felt that there was someone eyeing on me so instinctually I turned my eyes towards his direction then viola I met his eyes but then as a introverted girl I looked away right away but for some reason we ended up looking at each other quite a few times until the mass has done. However, nothing happened after the mass, he didn’t approach me (maybe because I’m with my aunt during that time and I had no time to get away from her for a bit) but then when we were about to go home I’d met his eyes once again for a long distance like really I’ve felt our eyes glued for about a few seconds there. A year later, I’ve met him again and he’s now a leader of our church qoir when our eyes locked I knew he remembered me coz since then he’s been staring at me no matter where is my direction, of course I also looked at him but still nothing happens 😂😂😂. He never approach me whenever I’m alone or whenever we pass by to each other. I wanna approach him but my shyness was always in the way so it never happen but whenever we see each other we always stare at each other as if like it’s already a familiar thing for my eyes 😂😂😂. Well, he never approach me so I don’t know if he likes me the way I like him. I hope this staring contest ends soon though. I’d really appreciate it if you give me advice on what to do to make the staring thing stop coz really my head is spinning whenever I locked eyes on him a reason why I can’t even give a simple smile.

    • The two of you have been looking at each other and holding eye contact for years. It is clear that you feel a strong connection with each other. It is likely that he is interested in maintaining a social relationship with you, and he may want to nourish a romantic relationship. Make a decision about what you want for your future. Speak with him about your thoughts and feelings, and nourish this relationship by spending additional time with him in person. Have a great day, Tsuki!

  9. Hi! Hope you can enlighten me. So there’s this guy at the office who keeps on staring at me, but doesn’t smile. Whenever i catch him looking he quickly looks away. I can also tell that he was listening to my conversation with my seatmate because our topic that time is about a certain song. And then one day he plays that song with his guitar. And just recently while waiting in line i saw him with his friends and i can hear him since he talks really loud and my friends that time who is with me also says that he keep on staring at me thinking that he might want to catch my attention lol. Is he interested in me? If so, why won’t he introduce himself or talk to me? He’s not making any move at all to get to know me. I’m not a fan of making the first move btw.

    • His behaviors are indications that he is interested in maintaining a relationship with you. It is possible that he is uncertain or confused about your feelings for him. He may be shy or uncertain of himself. Make a decision about what you want for the future of this relationship. Speak with him about your thoughts and feelings, and give him an opportunity to share himself with you as well. Have a great day, Jane!

  10. I’m actually curious to a guy who likes a girl, but wont talk to her. How can he know if that girl have the same feeling if he won’t introduce himself?

    • It is certainly possible that she has similar feelings. However, it is possible that she is uncertain or confused about what she wants for the future. She may feel shy. If someone is interested in maintaining a relationship with someone else, then that person should share their thoughts and feelings with the other person. You will find great benefit in sharing your kindness and compassion at all times. Have a great day, Blake!

  11. So this thing has bothered me all these years. You seem to be very kind to give a well thought out and genuine reply to everybody our here so I think I should also post a question here.
    Everytime a notice a guy having a crush at me (which I come to know by staring, eye contacts and things like that ) I used to anticipate that he’ll try to atleast talk to me. But that too never happened. This used to made me very sad and hurt my confidence. I am painfully introvert and never itnitiate a conversation with anyone. I fear that if I dont get get a proper but a mean response instead lol so I am afraid to talk first. But if other person talks me to me I am very poilte and warm behaving. l always maintain long term freindships with people I click with. My face is also like this it looks I’m very serious and even angry all the time even if I’m not. I have a resting bitch face to be honest lol. Now I have moved on with all these as I’m now in a serious relationship gor the last 3 years. But I still want to know why all that happened in the past. Is there a problem with me ? Would this habit of mine affect my work life and social relationships in the future too ? I want to make a positive change in myself at all I’m wrong in any way.
    Thanks for reading and please reply if you have time and convenience 🙂

    • It really might not be anything you did at all–this is a common experience for everyone to go through. When you like someone, it is intimidating to talk to them. Sometimes, it is easier if both people try to get a conversation going, but this was obviously hard to do since you are an introvert. The guys were probably just afraid to make a move–and since you didn’t talk to them, they were really uncertain about your interest level. This probably isn’t going to affect your work or social lives at all–have you noticed any impact on them? If not, this is probably just happening when you are dealing with a shy crush.

  12. Hello

    I know that there are many explanations for gazing, staring but I am still curious about your opinion regarding this one.
    I was in a store and there was a guy shopping with his grandfather. When I looked in his direction (that’s when I first noticed him), he was gazing at me – in my eyes, he was serious and he didn’t look away. It happened few times while in the store. I went outside the store first and when he came out, while passing me by, he was looking into my eyes which also lasted for several seconds and I responded the same way.
    Several days later I saw him again – few times while he was cycling. Each time he looked at me and he was staring/gazing in my eyes for several seconds so I did too at him. Again, he was serious.
    What could this mean? Should I do something or does he expect some kind of reaction from me? Should I smile and say ‘Hi’? I have never approached guys or similar. I am pretty & cute and I do get looks from men, but only “weirdos” approach me 😀 This particular guy I like, but then again I’m afraid he’s a weirdo too.

    • He has locked eyes with you numerous times. This is an indication that he is attracted to you. His lack of interaction may be a sign that he is shy. Your feelings regarding “weirdos” is a reflection of your own personal beliefs and desires. It is possible that this person may have qualities that you like and qualities that you do not like. If someone makes you feel unsafe or uncomfortable, then do not nourish a relationship with them. Make a decision about what you want for your future and take appropriate action. Have a great day, Belle!

    • Thank you for sharing your supportive comment. Please share more of your thoughts and feelings in the future. Have a great day, Belle!

  13. Hi ‘Web Admin’
    Me again 🙂 I’d gladly share more since you’re the only person whom I’ve told this and maybe more people recognize themselves in this situation so it helps them.
    So, I’ve seen this guy again. He’s looking into my eyes again. It’s late in the evening, there’s no one outside except us 2, not a living soul, like we’re the only people in the world (just trying to describe the atmosphere, which would maybe make the interaction easier? 🙂 ). We pass each other by and nothing happens, not even a smile, but his eye-stare is there.
    (Look, I’ve really tried to say ‘Hi’ and smile, but I got scared of this serious eye locking of his). He’s the one who initiates it everytime. Anyway, maybe he’s just not interested and does this with everyone. I know that, when I’d like someone, I wouldn’t let it go just like this…maybe I’d try to smile or hang around the place in a similar time they do so we kinda “get used” to each other. This guy does nothing.

    • His eye contact is an indication that he is interested in nourishing your relationship. He wants to make you feel like he cares about you and wants to get to know you better. It is possible that he is shy, though he is certainly attracted to you. Reach out to him when you see him again, and speak with him about your thoughts and feelings. This will be an opportunity for him to share himself with you. Have a great day, Belle!

  14. Hi ‘Web Admin’

    I just wanted to let you know, and to bring a conclusion to the story, this guy and myself are in a relationship at this moment 🙂 Thank you for all your kind advices and I wish you all the best!

    • I am so glad to hear that everything worked out for you two! I hope it keeps going well for you–thanks for letting me know how everything turned out!

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