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What Does It Mean When A Guy Stares At You?

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Have you ever wondered why a guy stares at a woman without, sometimes, blinking?! Yes it happens. Ever since we can remember, girls have been made completely uncomfortable by guys unabashedly staring at them. It does not matter what kind of moment you are in, if you are doing homework, walking through town, or sitting on the beach, men think they have the right to ogle at you.

Let me quickly state that a quick look never bothered anyone, but when they act as if you are odd, then it gets really annoying, really fast. They always make it look like they’re stripping all of your clothes off and then staring into your soul. It’s just creepy guys! If you’ve begun to wonder why it is that they stare and what to do about it, then here are some answers for you from men themselves.

1. They have literally frozen and simply cannot turn away. This happens when their system goes into overdrive and they are lost as to what to do next. It’s like that moment when you are handed your final exam and you write your name on the test and then freeze for a minute.

2. He thinks you are pretty or attractive and is considering whether or not you could be interested in him as well. His self-confidence will either show up here, or talk a stroll and he seems to have no control over it.

3. He sees holding your attention for a moment a victory that he can brag about to his friends later saying that the two of you had a moment.

4. They are literally absorbing the image to memory to recall later. Ewe! Seriously?! This is not something we want to think about, ladies! Moving on!

5. Not all of those reclaimed memories are used sexually, but can be for lighter thoughts like stealing a kiss, or imagining you as their girlfriend. Oh, thank goodness, because that was just creepy.

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6. They are addicted to sexual attraction. No brainer there! News flash, this part never goes away no matter how old they are. Males are always more concerned with making themselves feel good then with how creeped out you feel.

7. Weirdly enough, they are hoping that you catch them staring and approach them like some weird mating ritual staring contest. What is really strange is that they think this will work.

8. Their brain tends to shut off which is why they say incredibly stupid things when they’re caught or spit out one-liners that have you rolling your eyes and wondering why God didn’t give them the sense he gave a rock.

9. If he stares at you often and looks away when you look at him, then he is probably crushing on you and would actually like to get to know you a little better. This is the time when you may want to approach him and joke about his stares to open up a conversation.

10. Nine times out of ten, they are checking you out and think you are hot stuff. This does not mean they want to be involved with you, but could just mean they want to enjoy the view for a little while. Yes, that makes you scenery. Hello decoration piece.

11. He is thinking that he wants to meet you but isn’t sure what to say yet. Again, his self-esteem is playing a huge role in the frozen moment. If you want him to approach, try giving him a little smile or longer look. If you don’t let your body language tell him not to try do that he doesn’t get too embarrassed.

12. They are hoping you’ll remember them if you see each other again. Guys think they will somehow imprint their faces into your mind like werewolves. Maybe they watched Twilight too many times.

13. He is fantasizing about a wide variety of possibilities that could literally be anything.



14. He is mentally turning over a million things to say if he approaches you in hoped that the one he picks will score him a conversation.

15. They don’t know what else to do past seeing you. You have stolen all of their thought and they really don’t know how to act.

16. The ones who stare in groups are doing so for self-confidence because they know they couldn’t talk to you.

17. They are also the ones to enjoy making you feel uncomfortable because they are mad at girls always turning them down. It’s retaliation that you had nothing to do with but take the brunt of.

18. If you stare back, he’ll assume you’re attracted to him so don’t, unless you are, of course.

19. They are hoping it will lessen the chance of rejection if you are prepared for their approach.

20. Being sexually aware makes them feel good which makes them stare more.

21. They know they could never get you to date them so they are soaking up the moment.

22. If you look back for more than half a second, it encourages them to continue starring.

23. It could be completely innocent, like he’s actually reading your shirt. Let’s face it though, the odds of that are minimal. Especially if your shirt is plain.

24. If he stares at you for more than fifteen or twenty minutes, he’s being a creep! Avoid him at all costs because he’s not even worth thinking about.

25. It doesn’t necessarily mean that he’s into you, just that he wants to look for a little while.

26. If he only stares for about ten minutes, he may be a nice guy still.

27. They just don’t understand the creepy-crawly feeling it induces and think that it flatters girls. Apparently, they think a little highly of themselves.

28. To get him to stop, show him you’re in control. If he just won’t give up, point him out to your friends and laugh at his rudeness. That will definitely get the point across.

Most of the time, if a guy is staring at you, it means he is attracted to you in some way. As females, we are taught that it is normal to feel uncomfortable and to grin and bear it because it’s a compliment, but that doesn’t make it right.

Remember that you have control. If someone staring is making you feel awkward, or uncomfortable, tell them to stop or go where they can’t see you. If you get the creepy-crawlies and tingles up your neck, then that is your intuition screaming at you. In these circumstances, make sure you do not go into an empty room to try and avoid his stares.

Stay in a crowded area or with friends until he goes away. One of the most important lessons for young women to learn is to trust their gut no matter what social norms tell them to do. No, you do not have to talk to him. No, you do not have to be polite. And no, you do not have to endure an uncomfortable situation just because you are a woman.

30 COMMENTS

  1. I just broke up with my x man of eight years and I’m sure that this guy was scooping me out for the last 6 months just haven’t notice untill now he plays all the music I like when I go to the place witch I think it’s neet when I catch him looking at me he looks away and there’s only a couple of time we locked eyes together the was one time I was working for my girl friend she cleans homes so to make along story short we ended up at his house he knew I was working for her he could have called anyone in cleaning not sure what he wants from me but I like it

    • It is possible that he is interested in developing a relationship with you. Take this time to determine if you want to develop a relationship with him as well. If you do, then reach out to him. Speak directly and honestly with him about your thoughts and feelings. Give him an opportunity to share himself with you as well. Have a great day, Ottie!

  2. I just broke up with my x man of eight years and I’m sure that this guy was scooping me out for the last 6 months just haven’t notice untill now he plays all the music I like when I go to the place witch I think it’s neet when I catch him looking at me he looks away and there’s only a couple of time we locked eyes together the was one time I was working for my girl friend she cleans homes so to make along story short we ended up at his house he knew I was working for her he could have called anyone in cleaning not sure what he wants from me but I like it

    • It is possible that he is interested in developing a relationship with you. Take this time to determine if you want to develop a relationship with him as well. If you do, then reach out to him. Speak directly and honestly with him about your thoughts and feelings. Give him an opportunity to share himself with you as well. Have a great day, Ottie!

  3. There’s this guy in my class and he always looks at me with a straight face. There’s no way he’s spacing out because he does it all the time. We have almost never talked but its a little awkward. I don’t know why it happens but it literally happens everyday.

    • It is possible that he is interested in developing a relationship with you. He may be uncertain or confused about your feelings toward him. Take this time to determine what you want with this relationship. If you want to nourish a relationship with him, then speak directly and honestly with him about your thoughts and feelings. Have a great day, Jacky!

  4. There’s a guy on my school who has been staring at me for 3 years now but he never talks with me and i think he knows i have a crush on him to but we have never talked with each other.i dont know what to think is he interested in me or no? Does he like me or no?

    • It is possible that he is interested in developing a relationship with you. Take this time to determine what you want for the future of this relationship. It is possible that he is confused or uncertain about your feelings toward him. Speak directly and honestly with him about your thoughts and feelings. Give him an opportunity to share himself with you as well. Have a great day, Ana!

  5. Well, I am 64 and men stare at me all the time. That is why I googled this. I’m flattered at this age that men still find me attractive

    • Thank you for sharing your positive comment. It is great to have such positive energy entering your life. Have a great day, Chrissy!

  6. So theirs this kid in my class I’ve liked him before and my friend thinks he likes me because he treats me “differently and stuff“
    Also he has stolen looks at me about 16 times in one class maybe not looks but stares at different times but when I liked him he said he doesn’t like me back which was back in November and now I’m just confused with the whole situation

    • It is possible that he is interested in a developing a relationship with you. Take this time to determine what you want for the future of this relationship. Speak directly and honestly with him about your thoughts and feelings. Give him an opportunity to share himself with you as well. Have a great day, Krissy!

  7. Okay so there’s this guy in my art class and I always catch him looking at me and my friends notice it too. He’s the hottest and most popular guy in my school though. He’s actually really sweet a funny… could he be into me or just be staring lol

    • It is possible that he is interested in a developing a relationship with you. Take this time to determine what you want for the future of this relationship. Speak directly and honestly with him about your thoughts and feelings. Give him an opportunity to share himself with you as well. Have a great day, Someone!

  8. There a guy at school I like and he bullys me but he stares at me when I don’t know that he is looking at me does that mean he likes me

    • It is possible that his actions are signs that he is interested in developing a relationship with you. He may be confused or uncertain about his thoughts and feelings. Take this time what you think is acceptable and what you want for your future. Speak directly and honestly with him about your thoughts and feelings. Give him an opportunity to share himself with you as well. Have a great day, Alexandra!

  9. There is a guy in eighth grade with me. I can tell you that I stare at all the time and I catch him looking at me a lot in all my classes. He knows I like him, and he teases me about it but lift up his shirt or biting him lip or even just talking to me or standing really close to me. He would not do anything bad because I know him and we go to a really strict private school where nobody would ever do anything like that. I KNOW he is sexually attracted to me but idk… can you help me??

    • He is interested in developing a relationship with you. He likely wants to develop a physical relationship. Take this time to determine what you want for your future. Speak directly and honestly with him about your thoughts and feelings. Give him an opportunity to share himself with you as well. Have a great day, Help!

  10. There is this guy I work with. He began making an effort to speak to me quite often. Everyday for a couple of weeks. He always spoke first! One of my good friends actually told him that I was pronouncing his name wrong (with out my consent) and after he found out, he told my friend to tell me that “it’s done”. So today, he didn’t make an effort to speak. Does that mean he isn’t interested anymore? Can ignoring be a positive thing?

    • It is possible that he felt embarrassed because your friend told him about your pronunciation. He may have other influences in his life that may be affecting his actions. You want to develop a relationship with him, so speak with him about your thoughts and feelings. Explain the situation. Give him an chance to share himself as well. Have a great day, Help!

  11. My history teacher stares at me whenever I’m in the hallway with friends, waiting to be let into the classroom, or simply being in his view, he also always stays at bay and acts rude/nice to me on certain days but now it’s just rude/mean. I personally think he’s attracted to me in some odd way but at the same time I don’t wanna misinterpret things. Any thoughts on that?

    • It is certainly possible that your teacher is attracted to you. He should not be behaving in this manner. You may want to speak with your counselor or a staff member that you trust regarding his actions. If his behavior is unacceptable to you, then speak directly with him about your thoughts and feelings. You may want to have a teacher around for the conversation. Have a great day, Asia!

  12. There’s this guy in my class who stares at me from across the room. I always catch him staring at me with a blank expression. This one time I caught him looking st me when he was kinda hiding behind someone else. I like him, but I don’t know what those stares mean..

    • It is possible that he is interested in developing a relationship with you. He may be shy or confused. He may not be certain whether or not you are interested in him. Determine what you want for the future of this relationship. Speak with him about your thoughts and feelings. Give him an opportunity to share himself with you as well. Have a great day, Pastel!

  13. This boy in my class always stares at me all the time deep down into the eyes and it’s in every class he stares at me for over 30 minutes,And he’s dating someone but never stares at them only me.Please explain!

    • His behavior may be an indication that he is developing a strong emotional connection with you. He is in a relationship, so do not attempt to harm his relationship and partner. If his relationship ends, then speak with him about your thoughts and feelings. For now, you will find great benefit in sharing your kindness and compassion at all times. Have a great day, Emily!

  14. there’s a guy i dislike and i know he dislike me as well but when i was eating with my mom i saw him. he suddenly come in to the restaurant to eat too. what does it mean, what is his motive?

    • There is no motive. You were at a restaurant and he was also at the restaurant. You do not like this person, so do not waste your energy thinking about him. Focus your emotional energy elsewhere. Perhaps take this time to look inward. Ensure that you share your kindness and compassion with everyone in your life. Have a great day, J!

  15. There’s this guy who I have known for about 9 months and he works across my building at the hospital. I always stared at him over the months and never thought he liked me back until he stood at the employee door 1 month and 1 week ago making an eye connection with me and we ended up kissing from the distance and I disconnected eye contact from him after dropping my keys and he rushed into his door so fast from I think embarrassment. 2.5 weeks later I didn’t see him at all. I faded out everything since I was going into some sort of depression emotionally and than we suddenly bumped into each other when he heard my voice and rushed out the meeting room door at Social Services and stood there in shock to see me, than he came over and conveyed he has a crush on me without speaking and he wanted to kiss me before he left. I just stood there frozen and faded him out since I barely slept for a few weeks and he left very sad and hurt. Came to my work building window at first teasing me about my hair in a kind way and he was very sad. He disappeared suddenly after that and I desperately was looking for him. I ended up calling the hospital, but didn’t know what department he worked in and walked over to Soc. services and told a case worker to call him and let him know that I was looking for him. I even reached out to a guy that comes out smoking at the same spot he does for months and asked him if he knew him and if he could look for him for me. He said he could do his best and 2 weeks later, some guy came outside with a hat on and he just stood there by the tree looking around until he had seen me and I just stood there in the window confused. Than I left and he went back inside looking stressed out. Like I said, I faded out who he was. The next week came around and that same guy walked over to the back of my building to the dumpster and I didn’t know what he was doing. He left and I went outside 2 hours later to take the trash out and there he was standing there casually scrolling through his phone and he kept looking up at me until our eyes met and he sighed. I was in a bad mood that night and he looked sad for me. Than we just stood there staring into each others eyes and I unlocked them from feeling awkward with wanting to hug him, so I walked back up to the door and closed it. I didn’t realize he walked after me and said he cares and he doesn’t want me to be upset and I’ll make myself sick. His voice was so sad and I didn’t know what just happened. I felt really bad. The next day he kept coming outside stressed out smoking and he looked at me sadly with frustration.

    This was happening for a week until he started standing by the tree again at the same time I was coming to work and leaving work and he looked at me as I was leaving from his phone and it was like that for another week. I didn’t know how to speak to him from feeling upset with myself for not talking. I carried this weight on me for weeks. He also honked at me when I was biking home with my headphones on and he passed by me suddenly in his car after midnight (I didn’t have a chance to wave to him since it was out of nowhere) and I than last Monday I ended up crossing paths with him again when it was pouring outside as I was wiping my glasses on the sidewalk and looked around, there he was standing there in the rain at his home! I was literally standing down his driveway from him. I was like what the heck? It freaked me out that I whispered he scared the shit out of me. Now, its still awkward between us and since it has snowed, hes now having his breaks in his car. I feel like we won’t ever talk to each other and I feel like a jerk for ignoring him but we both aren’t even talking!? I’m also in a long distance relationship and I don’t know about him. He seems to drive 2 cars but it makes me wonder if they might be a girlfriends? I don’t even know, hes always alone outside until last Thursday, he was talking to some woman and I never see him interact with anyone outside. I guess I’m very confused with what to do and if hes ignoring me now since I am? I don’t know what to do and why he approached me in the back of the building just staring at me? Looks like he wanted to talk but we didn’t. He only said something as I closed the door. I’m usually a talkative person, but nervous around him since I like him and I feel hurt that he can’t talk to me. I missed his presence when he was gone and now that he’s been back again, I feel content, but annoyed that we still don’t talk after all this time. Why can’t he just say hi to me when he sees me? I would wave and smile this time.

    • It sounds as though the two of you should determine what your relationship is. He is continuing to share his positive energy with you. He clearly views you as a friend. It is possible that your relationship will grow in the future. Speak with him about your thoughts and feelings. Give him an opportunity to share himself with you as well. Have a great day, Shan!

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