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What Does it Mean When a Guy Touches You?


It’s easy to know the rules when people communicate with words, but that’s just one way that we talk with one another. When it comes to romance actions, truly speak louder than words.

One of the best ways to tell if a guy likes you or not is paying attention to the way he acts around you, and no action speaks louder than when he reaches out and touches you.

If a guy touches you, then it’s probably a good sign, but things can get complicated as you consider just how he’s touching you. A guy who lightly brushes up against you in passing isn’t communicating the same thing as a man who reaches out and grabs your hand.

That much should be obvious; the trouble arises when you try and figure out the subtle differences between different types of touch. You don’t need to stress anymore. We’re here to help.

We will look at the different places where a guy can touch you to help you figure out he might mean. We may not be able to read your crush’s mind, but we can tell you what he might be telling you if he thinks like the average guy.

#1. Arm

When a guy wants to touch a woman, he will often think carefully about the way to approach it. He might want to take you in his arms then and there, but he knows that’s too much. Usually, guys will start out by touching arms. It helps that Western society has a few different socially prescribed greetings that involve the arms.

Handshakes are the most socially acceptable form of touching, and with hugs it’s common to end up with arms and hands touching. Another common trick for guys is a pat on the upper arm. If he leans in and places his hand on your arm for emphasis, then it could mean he is interested in you. You should also

#2. Hair

If a guy is touching your hair you can be sure that he is interested in you. Guys don’t touch their friends’ hair often. They might try and play it off like they’re just trying to help you out by moving a stray strand of hair, but the fact is that he’s looking for an excuse to touch you.

If a man is touching your hair, it means he wants to be closer to you. If he acts like he’s fixing your hair, it means that he wants to be seen as helpful. If he senses you’re stressed and pats your hair or runs his hands over it, then it shows he’s trying to soothe you and make you feel better. If he runs his fingers through your hair it shows an interest in intimacy.

#3. Back

A guy might place his hands on your back if he’s giving you a hug or sitting beside you and wrapping his arm around you. Both of these moves show a protective interest, and a desire to take you in his arms.

There’s also a psychological angle, by placing his arm at your back he’s acting supportive. He’s literally helping you to sit or stand up straight. Watch how his hands move when they’re on your back, as they move down the action gets more sexually charged.

#4. Face

This is a big one. It’s hard to come up with good excuses to touch a woman’s face. It screams attraction loud and clear. Sure, the guy could say he’s cleaning something off your face when he brushes his fingers across your cheek, but he knows you could handle any smudges or crumbs yourself.

This shows a certain boldness; you can’t hide a face touch because you’re going to be able to see it happening. He’s showing you that he cares and he wants you to know. Facial touching is also a common prelude to kissing, check to see if he touches or looks at your lips.

#5. Hips

If a guy is touching your hips, then there’s probably romance in the air. There’s a reason that a lot of dances involve the man resting his hands on a woman’s hips, or the small of her back. These areas are both very sensual and comfortable to hold while preparing for an explosive kiss.

If a guy is sitting beside you and rests his hands on your hips, it shows a deep sense of comfort. If he is standing in front of you and grabs your hips then a kiss is probably coming on, there are few other things that can happen when you’re face to face and pressed together.

Finally, if he’s behind you and grabs your hips, then he’s probably got something more dramatic than just dancing planned.

#6. Thigh

This is the big one. It doesn’t get much more intimate than this. Even the lightest touches in this area can send electricity through your body. If a man is touching you here, then you can bet he has something more than a goodnight kiss on his mind.

If a guy is touching your thigh, he might be testing the limits of what you’ll let him do. It’s common for guys to start low on a woman’s thigh and slowly move up, to see where the woman will stop them. Be sure to let any guy know when you’re uncomfortable with his touch.

Where and How

As you try and read your guy’s actions you have to remember that it’s not just about where he touches you, it’s about how he touches you. Brief, fleeting physical contact is something we share in all types of conversations. But if a guy’s hands linger when he touches you then he is probably expressing interest.

It’s especially telling if he begins to rub his hands over you slowly and gently. That’s when you really know sparks are flying. You should also try and observe how he interacts with other people. He might just be a naturally touchy guy.

If he seems to touch everyone he meets the same way that he touches you, then he might just be trying to be friendly. But if he touches you in ways that he doesn’t touch anyone else then you know that he thinks you’re something special.

Once you know how touchy a guy is, where he’s touching you, and how he’s touching you, it’s possible to develop a clear picture of what his intentions are. Of course, if he has good intentions he will also be careful to make sure that you are comfortable with all your actions.

If you don’t feel comfortable with the way a guy is touching you, then make your feelings clear. It’s your body, and a good man will respect that fact.


  1. Their is a guy I’ve known for over a year. He’s my sons instructer, he’s asked me personal questions and as we were leaving his office he put one hand on my hip from behind.I took it as he’s giving me a sign.

    • He touched your hip, which is a sign that he may be interested in developing a physical relationship with you. He feels emotionally comfortable with you. Determine what you want for the future of this relationship. Decide which actions you feel are appropriate. Speak with him about your thoughts and feelings. Have a great day, Christine!

      • So I finally asked a guy out that was showing me signs he likes me, asking personal questions, asked if I had a boyfriend, etc. So I asked him does he still not have a girlfriend and he smiled joking, everyone is my girlfriend and asked why I want to go out with him, why else, well I just said because I like you and I think you are very handsome, and he kept smiling and didn’t answer my question, he is korean and I’m american mind you. I told him my divorce is finally in a couple weeks, and he asked when? So for him to not answer I don’t know what to think, I caught him by surprise. Maybe its because I’m a customer at his work, cause my son goes their for his taekwondoe class. Now I’m confused

        • It is certainly possible that he is interested in developing a relationship with you. When your divorce is finalized, speak with him about your thoughts and feelings. Determine how this relationship may influence your child’s practice. You will find benefit in sharing your kindness and compassion with him. Have a great day, Christine!

  2. A co-worker of mine held my hand in his to give me a mint. He’s brushed my hand while taking something before, but the holding was a first.

    • He feels an emotional or social connection with you. He likely is interested in developing a stronger relationship with you. He may be physically attracted to you. Determine what you want for your future. Decide what is appropriate for this relationship. Speak with him about your thoughts and feelings. Have a great day, Jennaye!

  3. I’m currently dealing with a repressed memory of being raped. A new friend who knows my past recently cupped my face in his hands and later on rested a hand on each side of my ribs. I’ve never dated so this made me uncomfortable.

    • His decision to touch you may have been his attempt at emotionally supporting you. It is unfortunate that he chose to touch you knowing that you have been raped. Speak with him about your thoughts and feelings. Inform him of your desires. It is certain that he will respect your wishes and needs. Continue to nourish this relationship, as it is likely that he cares deeply for you. Have a great day, Sage!

  4. And after feeling confused about how I felt after asking this guy out when he never answered yes or no but was smiling and knocks on the window to wave to me as I was leaving, I walked out of the place looking down because I felt embarrassed, especially because he gave so many signs that he liked me.

    • His behaviors may be reflections of his social and emotional connection with you. He may be shy or uncertain about his feelings. Determine what you want for this relationship and take appropriate action. Have a great day, Christine!


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