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What Does It Mean When A Man Touches Your Hair?

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Guys are tricky people. They do a lot of things that we, as women, don’t always come to understand very easily. Like when they leave the toilet seat lid up or scratch their balls in public… But, more importantly to figure out is why they do some things they do to you. Men do a lot of strange things to themselves, but when they get you involved is the real time to be asking questions. Men don’t seem to always be the most intimate creatures, so when they do something like that it tends to catch us off guard. Like when they touch our hair. We might be slightly confused as to what this gesture can mean. Unfortunately for you it can mean a lot of different things. It all depends on three things: How, when and, lastly, why.

what does it mean when a guy touches your hair

Why do these things matter so much? Well, the first two things are what gives away the last thing. The last thing being the why part of it all. Without discovering how and when then you will never come to discover why he did it in the first place. There are different levels to men and, yes, there are even different levels to silly little things like when they touch your hair. Strange, right? But it’s true!

The how he touches your hair is the most important thing to pay attention to. The way that he goes about doing this can give away all the details you need to get to the bottom of why. Was he pulling it? Was he tousling it? What kind of motion was he making when he went ahead and touched the beautiful hairs on your head?

Also remember that you can’t figure out the true meaning behind the how unless you evaluate when it was done. As in, what were the two of you doing when the gesture was made?

Let’s go over some of the different ways that a man can touch your hair and what they generally mean.

Tousling: We mentioned tousling just above here. We did that because it’s a common thing that people do when they touch another person’s hair. This is not usually common when two people are romantic with one another, however. What is tousling? Tousling is when someone uses their hand to mess up your hair in a playful fashion. Tousling means he is being playful with you. It could possibly be a flirting tactic. But mostly this is done to children or someone that he feels is younger and a little more immature than him. It’s a sign of friendship, encouragement and playfulness. He could just think you are really cute or he could do it because he is subconsciously saying, ‘Good luck pal!’ To figure out which it is, it’s best to think of what you were both doing when he made this gesture.

Pulling: Pulling can go one of two ways: Sexually or aggressively. Now, we might find that if the boy is immature he will pull your hair to get your attention. They always say that boys are meanest when they like you, right? Well, whether this is true or not is up for debate. Now if the boy is a little bit older, more like a man, and he pulls your hair it could mean that he is horny. Men tend to use the hair as a pawn to let you know they want you physically. This is generally done when the two of you are letting things get heated up with one another. Such as during a makeout session. Now there are times that a man might pull your hair aggressively. This is done if you are in a fight or he is angry with you. You can tell it is done angrily if he is using an aggressive tone with you, too. If this happens, please leave immediately. As you don’t want the situation to escalate and bring on anymore violence.



Playing: Playing with someone’s hair can be done in many different ways. He could twirl your hair around his fingers. He could run his fingers through your hair. He could also just put his fingers on your scalp and rub in a circular motion. This is the best type of gesture done when a man plays with your hair, because it means he likes you! Unless, of course, you don’t like him, then it’s a little bit creepy. But let’s hope it’s the opposite for you. When he does this it means he is establishing a deeper level of intimacy. He is trying to connect with you on a more sincere, flirtatious and sexual level. Usually these are the type of behaviors done by someone who feels very connected, protective or caring of you. You might find these are most commonly practiced when the two of you are alone with each other.

Brushing: When a man brushes your hair out of your face or tucks it behind your ear it can send tingles down the back of your spine. As it should, because this is definitely something done when the person doing it has feelings for you. He is trying to be endearing towards you!

Now you know the different types of ways a man touches your hair and what they mean. This should give you all the insight you need on why men do these types of gestures and whether they are good or bad!

10 COMMENTS

  1. There’s this guy in my class; he’s very nice and funny, although I don’t think that he ever thought about having a relationship yet. I was in the school bus with him and I wan leaning on his shoulder. I closed my eyes and suddenly I felt him pulling an end of my hair playfully, a few times. I looked up and I saw him smiling and he asked ‘doesn’t it hurt?’ What does that supposed to mean? He’s definitely not shy, but sometimes he acted like that.

    • This action is a reflection of his emotional connection with you. He may be interested in developing a relationship with you. Take this time to determine what you want for your future. Speak directly and honestly with him about your thoughts and feelings. Give him an opportunity to share himself with you as well. Have a great day, Helena!

  2. A guy I have known for six years I was with him just talking and he was taking his fingers through my hair and given me a rubbing my shoulders.It really caught me off guard.

    • He is interested in developing a relationship with you. His physical actions are signs of his emotional closeness and physical desires. Take this time to determine what you want for your future. Speak directly and honestly with him about your thoughts and feelings. Give him an opportunity to share himself with you as well. Have a great day, Cerrie!

  3. A guy that had a crush on me. While I was on lunch walk behind me and gently touch my up buns but I felt the touch shock but smile and said hi. He was already walking away. What dose that mean? Im sure it’s nothing. He is very shy also.

    • It is possible that he feels a strong emotional connection with you. He is interested in developing a physical relationship with you. Determine what you want for your future. Decide what actions you believe are appropriate. Speak directly and honestly with him about your thoughts and feelings. Have a great day, Graceann!

  4. A guy I work with playfully put my hair into bunches and pulled me. I was in his way refusing to move. And he used this to move me out the way.
    We flirt a lot and I’m confused as to if he’s interested or not. I think the hair pulling means he is? What do you think?

    • He is interested in developing a relationship with you. He likely feels a strong social or emotional connection with you. He is attracted to you. Determine what you want for your future. Speak directly and honestly with him about your thoughts and feelings. Give him an opportunity to share himself with you as well. Have a great day, Sann!

  5. Hi!
    I’m from Argentina, so we greet with a kiss on the cheek. I do administrative work for a firm in my city. And the owners of the firm work in the same office floor than me. They have a familiar/friendly attitude towars the ones who work at that floor. Every morning they kiss on the cheek to everyone of us they encounter. But… one of the owners tends to grab mi arm and squeeze it softly with one hand, and places his other hand in the back of my head when he kiss me. He es like 41 and Im 26 (women). What do you think of that? He is a warm person but I have not see him doing it with the other girls on my office.
    Excellent article, thanks!!

    • This person is interested in developing a physical relationship with you. His actions may not be culturally or socially acceptable. Determine what you believe is appropriate. Speak directly and honestly with him about your thoughts and feelings. Decide what you want for your future and take appropriate action. Have a great day, Nad!

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