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What Does It Mean When He Ignores My Calls?


This is one of the worst feelings in the world. If you are currently dating a guy and he ignores your calls, you are afraid that he wants to break up and move on. You are afraid that he could be ghosting you or is with another woman. If you just broke up with him, then you are afraid that this is a sign that he never wants to get back together again. Depending on the circumstances, there are a number of different things that it can mean when a guy ignores your calls.

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The root cause of the problem is that he does not want to talk to you. It is very easy to pick up a phone. If you are certain that he is not distracted or busy, then the only reason he would ignore your call is because he does not want to talk to you. Now, you just have to figure out why he does not want to talk to you.

1. You Got in a Fight

If you just had an argument with him, then your answer is easy. He is still upset about the argument, so he does not want to talk to you. He might just need time to cool off and think things over. If he is just upset, then your best bet is to stop calling him for a while. If you keep calling him all the time, it will only push him further away from you. He needs a chance to cool down, so let him think about things in peace.

2. He’s Busy

This is an obvious and quite common reason why he would ignore your calls. He is busy, so he can’t answer the phone. He might be focused on schoolwork, working late or cleaning his house. Whatever the reason, he is too busy to answer his phone. Even if you text him, he might forget to respond to it when he finally has time. This reason makes sense if he eventually returns your call or texts back. If it takes him a week to respond and he just says, “I’m busy,” then he is most likely lying. If he is genuinely busy and remembers the call, he will respond as soon as he can.

3. He Is Not Interested

Rejecting someone is scary. You are afraid that they will yell at you, seem hurt or burst out crying. If he is not interested in you, then he may be hoping that ignoring your calls will give you a hint. He might be deliberately trying not to respond so that you move on to someone else. If this is the case, he is just too afraid to tell you how he feels. Instead, he is trying to nudge you away and hopes that you get the hint.

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4. He Is Seeing Someone Else

This is not always the case, but it is a possibility. This might be the case if he does not answer your texts or calls for a while. Then, he suddenly starts responding for a while. Then, he abruptly goes silent again. If he is seeing someone else, this behavior is because he stops messaging you when he is with the other girl. You can either ask him about his behavior or do some serious Facebook stalking to figure out what is going on.

5. Things Are Getting Too Serious

Commitment can be terrifying. Even when you know that you are with the right person, it is natural to fear something that could become a lifetime commitment. If you have been hot and heavy for a while, he may also be afraid that you will start talking about being in an actual relationship. He might be ignoring your calls because he is afraid of having that talk. If you have already been in a serious, long-term relationship, he may be afraid that the relationship will only lead to marriage. Until he knows what he wants or gets over his fear of commitment, he might not be responding anytime soon.

6. He Forgot

Life is hectic and busy. While you never forget to respond to a text or a call, he is not you. If he does not respond for a few hours or up to a day, he might have just forgotten about it. He got your text or call while he was in the middle of it. He expected that he would be able to answer later when things toned down, but then it completely slipped his mind.

This only makes sense as a reason if actually responds within a day. If he responds days or weeks later, then he did not actually forget. He responded because he wants something instead of just forgetting. If this is the case, then you have to start thinking of another reason for his behavior.


  1. I’ve been in a relationship 3 years but it’s always difficult to get ahold of my BF. I can call him several times or text and no response until like quite awhile goes by but he seems to answer for everyone else. I’m suspecting there is someone else. And it seems to be around the same times.

    • It is possible that there is another influence in his life that is causing him to behave in this way. If he has given you reason to believe that there is another person in his life, then determine what you want for the future of this relationship. Regardless, you should speak with him about your thoughts and feelings. The two of you have a long established relationship, and he should respond to your messages. Have a great day, Lisa!


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