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What Does It Mean When You Can’t Stop Thinking About Someone?

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When you can’t stop thinking about someone, it can quickly become annoying. Whether you are thinking about a crush or really dislike your boss, these thoughts can keep reappearing when you least expect them. Because you think about the person so much, they hold an out-sized hold on your subconscious mind and may reappear in your dreams as well. From thinking about them constantly through the day to dreaming about them at night, you need to find a way to escape from these constant, reoccurring thoughts.

What Does It Mean When You Can’t Stop Thinking About Someone?

If the person that you are thinking about is your crush, then it probably means that you are interested in them. Chemical changes occur in your brain when you start to fall for a crush. These changes mean that you are thinking about them constantly and feel nervous when you are around them. Even if your crush does not like you back, it does not stop your thoughts from turning to them all the time.

What If You Don’t Like That Person?

In some cases, you can’t stop thinking about someone because you dislike them. For many people, this is a boss or a family member that just annoys you. Everything that they do just reminds you over and over again that you dislike them. Your mind goes into a frustration circle where it keeps returning to the detail that bothered you so much. Unfortunately, this type of thought pattern can become unhealthy. Before long, your constant thoughts about the person become obsessive and you can’t think about anything else.

Ways to Stop Obsessive Thoughts

When you can’t stop thinking about someone, then you may have a problem with obsessive thoughts. This type of problem is often addressed with cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT). This type of therapy helps you to naturally channel your thoughts and change your normal behaviors.

One technique that is used is to imagine a large movie screen. On that screen, project the person or activity that you continue to think about all the time. As you think about this stressful image, suddenly tell yourself stop or have someone else say stop. This interrupts your thought patterns briefly. Doing it just once is not enough though. You need to keep doing the same process multiple times until you automatically want to say the word “stop” when you reach a certain point in your thoughts. Once you can do this successfully, you can start using the same technique in your daily life to get yourself to stop thinking about the one person constantly.

Do Constant Thoughts Mean That You Love That Person?

In some cases, thinking about someone all of the time means that you have some type of attraction to them. This is not always the case though. There are many reasons why you could find yourself stuck in thoughts of someone else. In some cases, you may even hate the person.

Other reasons why you cannot stop thinking of someone is because you are attracted to them, have fallen in love or hate them. They could be your mentor, so you think about them a lot. It is also possible that that person is just especially funny or interesting, so you think about them all of the time.

You are the best person to decide what these constant thoughts mean. If you feel like you have fallen for them, then you may be in love or have a crush on them. If you feel hurt when they are absent or wish that you could be around them all of the time, then your thoughts may be due to a crush. If you feel repulsed by the thoughts, then they may be due to a deep-seated hatred or dislike of the person. By analyzing the thoughts and how you feel, you can figure out what is potentially causing these thoughts to occur.

This person cold also just be someone who helps you out or who treats you like family. They could be someone who changes your life or motivates you to succeed. It is also possible that the person just appeared in the dream, and the dream caused you to think about them constantly. In some cases, you don’t even know who the person is. They could have been in the dream randomly, so you don’t know if they even exist in the real world.

If you dislike thinking about this person all the time, try picking up a hobby. Staying busy will help your thoughts turn to other, more useful topics. Watch TED talks, read a book or pick up a new hobby. Writing in a journal each day can also help you work through your thoughts and figure out what is going on. With enough time, these thoughts will eventually go away.

717 COMMENTS

  1. I think I found a guy, before this moment I really don’t have time for guys around me. We work in the same company before now most guys have been gossiping about me saying I had an opportunity to meet with cute single guys but don’t wanna mengle I over heard it from a married man.. so I think this guy now is just a new staff in the company. I felt he has been sent by those previous guys to come try me.. but on is mission he fell in love with me that what he said.. so every now and then he always look for means to check on me which I never quickly notice. I never wanted to give him a chance but he was trying.. until I felt I should just hear him out we went out ( hang out) I knew little about me but almost got me rape.. he is nice and respectful, he apologized. He said I give him inner peace and he is attracted to me.. he said different sweet things, I try hard not to fall for him but I think I did not until when I heard he also had a girlfriend in the company as well and almost everyone is aware except me. I felt heartbroken on hearing it so that moment I try to distance myself from him but he keeps coming close. I just can’t stop thinking about him now. I do know why and I need someone in my life.

    • You felt attracted to this person that you worked with. His behaviors were indications that he is attracted to you. You mentioned rape in your comment, which seems to mean that he attempted to rape you. If that is the case, then you should immediately end this relationship. Do not attempt to maintain a relationship with someone who attempted to rape you. It seems that you need to make a decision about your future, and take whatever action you feel is appropriate. Have a great day, Precious!

  2. Hey,
    Thanks for posting this article.
    I feel a lot better for reading it.
    I have finally found somewhere where I can post this.

    So, I’m a 22 year old girl recovering from multiple traumas. My first ‘relationship’ if you can even call it that, was retraumatising nonetheless but however having said that it was also coupled with (unfortunately) my first same sex experience + my first ever serious relationship.

    Now, we met online.
    I have wanted to rectify that experience and also you know am just a normal bisexual who gets lonely sometimes. Now that I’ve given the context:

    I met someone online who I really like (after one girl that didn’t work out for me after a bad experience on our first date).

    Basically what happened is, we dated for a while a couple of dates and it was so lovely. However, she came up to visit me (I live quite far away from her). I was in a bad way that day and I feel I probably put her off (partly, subconsciously of course, on purpose). Anyway the long and short of it is I receive a text, just as I’m enthralled in a fantasy playing out and about to be further due to my trauma, saying she just wants to be friends. She ‘cares’ and ‘enjoys being with me’ and ‘if I want’ stay in touch as mates. She felt that it would be best for both of us. Initially I agreed. However, I knew that it’d be difficult as I’d already invested so much. She moved to France randomly recently and our regular contact has dropped to about one text if I’m lucky a month. I’d like to say that I’ve moved on, but (like she knows) I am still in recovery. I find life difficult. All that move has done is make me grow more obsessed with her. Sometimes I convince myself I have moved on. Other times I dream vividly of her as I did last night and love her more. I just wish she was here so I could talk to her about my feelings. I am also scared she won’t reciprocate. What do you think? Thank you. -Anon

    • The two of you were dating and your partner came to visit you. She informed you that she wanted to be friends and that she cared for you. She moved to France, and the two of you have started communicating less frequently. You are aware that she is no longer interested in maintaining this relationship with you, so allow thoughts of her to fade. Focus your emotional energy elsewhere, and determine what you want for your future without her. You will find great benefit in sharing your kindness and compassion at all times, as this will draw positive people and energy into your life. Have a great day, Kiwi!

  3. Hey,
    Thanks for posting this article.
    I feel a lot better for reading it.
    I have finally found somewhere where I can post this.

    So, I’m a 22 year old girl recovering from multiple traumas. My first ‘relationship’ if you can even call it that, was retraumatising nonetheless but however having said that it was also coupled with (unfortunately) my first same sex experience + my first ever serious relationship.

    Now, we met online.
    I have wanted to rectify that experience and also you know am just a normal bisexual who gets lonely sometimes. Now that I’ve given the context:

    I met someone online who I really like (after one girl that didn’t work out for me after a bad experience on our first date).

    Basically what happened is, we dated for a while a couple of dates and it was so lovely. However, she came up to visit me (I live quite far away from her). I was in a bad way that day and I feel I probably put her off (partly, subconsciously of course, on purpose). Anyway the long and short of it is I receive a text, just as I’m enthralled in a fantasy playing out and about to further due to my trauma, saying she just wants to be friends. She ‘cares’ and ‘enjoys being with me’ and ‘if I want’ stay in touch as mates. She felt she couldn’t commit and would be best for both of us. Initially I agreed. However, I knew that it’d be difficult as I’d already invested so much. She moved to France randomly recently and our regular contact has dropped to about one text if I’m lucky a month. I’d like to say that I’ve moved on, but (like she knows) I am still in recovery. I find life difficult. All that move has done is make me grow more obsessed with her. Sometimes I convince myself I have moved on. Other times I dream vividly of her as I did last night and love her more. I just wish she was here so I could talk to her about my feelings. I am also scared she won’t reciprocate. What do you think? I constantly torture myself with the thought that she doesn’t care, is with someone else and feeling great. I overanalyse every little thing in our interactions with each other trying to work out whether she likes me back or not. I admitted that I have a crush on her when she sent me that text that I received. She never outright said it. I have a feeling though. We met on a dating site. I don’t know I’m just sad and I miss her. Does that make sense? Thank you. -Anon

    Ps: Sorry if that’s a wordy post and I posted this twice. This one is edited and I didn’t know how to get rid of the other one.

    • The two of you were dating and your partner came to visit you. She informed you that she wanted to be friends and that she cared for you. She moved to France, and the two of you have started communicating less frequently. You are aware that she is no longer interested in maintaining this relationship with you, so allow thoughts of her to fade. Focus your emotional energy elsewhere, and determine what you want for your future without her. You will find great benefit in sharing your kindness and compassion at all times, as this will draw positive people and energy into your life. Have a great day, Kiwi!

  4. Thank you for posting this article!

    Female, 17 here 🙂

    I met this guy through a friend a few months ago. We flirted over text and hooked up later on… He made jokes afterward telling me not to fall in love with him. I didn’t right away. I had told him that I wouldn’t kiss him because I only kiss people who I have feelings for. We hooked up a few more times, and eventually, I stayed the whole night with him. We got up and spent the day together. We walked through town holding hands and just being affectionate in general. Before I went home he kissed me. That was well over a month ago, and we started dating soon after. Well, as of lately I’ve been staying at his house with him and I’m the happiest I’ve ever been. He’s told me multiple times that he not only loves me, but he’s in love with me. I know I love him back, but I don’t know how to tell if I’m falling even further for him or if I’m just happy. I can’t stop thinking about him. I draw little doodles of him throughout the day ALL day long and I’m happy just watching him take something apart and put it back together. I want to see him and hear his voice constantly. I want to feel his hands and make him smile. I’m afraid to tell him how I feel because I’ve never felt this before and it is so terrifying.

    • It is clear that the two of you have nourished a strong social relationship. At this time, it seems that you have an intimate connection that is mutual. It is likely that your partner has similar feelings toward you and regarding your relationship. Speak with him about your thoughts and feelings, and give him an opportunity to share himself with you as well!

  5. Hey I hope you will respond me ASAP…
    So my story starts from here..
    Am 21 year girl with not as much attraction or prettiness. I’ve nothing by which a person got attracted from me. A face full of scars and a chubby body etc.
    An unknown person before 2 months text me on whats app. He wanna talk me. As he was saying that I found you as a random girl. After few days he was asking for my picture. I said okay let’s play a little game. I’ll gona send you any 10 pics of girls n I’ll be one in them and you have to judge. If you’ll right than we shall have lunch okay after some time he chose 4 girls and said you are no one in them. After some time again he picked 3 pics and said you are in one of them. I was shocked cuz he was right than I said okay now chose one picture and you’ll won after that he selected one and he won. I was shocked that how he could guess. After sometime we met. He was so stunning guy of 32. When I first saw him I fall in affectation. He became my crush. With several time some ups n downs came and gone. We didn’t talk as much on call or text or I just met him 2 times. He seems to be like a play boy type. He has so many girlfriends. He travel around all world. He has no religious concern. Fully open mind. He don’t care about girls. He don’t believe in love and all. After meeting him I just start writing daily dairy about him. Whatever I feel about him. Love, anger, missing, annoyed or sweetness I just write on it. All the time I just think about him. Just want his attentions, true feelings, love, care, respect, trust etc. I want him to miss me as I miss him and trust me. In my prayers I just all the time think about him. He is not a good guy I know.. I know it very well but beyond all his bulshits I want him. What should I do to stay in my life or permanently forget him. I don’t know how many time I reread our old conversation. He didn’t trust me at all. He think am like other girls. Like come take lunch together get physical and move on to next. But am not like that and I don’t want him to be like that. I don’t have any idea that what he want and why he came into my life. Recently I’ve got an car accident just fall in his imaginations so deeply that my car hit in another car. I’m getting lost in my mind where he is situated

    • What you do depends on what you want in the short-term and long-term. He is clearly not interested in settling down in the near future, and he also plans on continuing to date around. If you want to just have a one-night stand whenever he is free, then that is perfectly fine. If you want to have a committed relationship in the near future, you need to end things so that you can start healing and moving on from this. The course of action you take depends on where you see yourself.

  6. I think about someone all the time at first I liked them so it made sense but once I got rejected I moved on but we still good mates that talk often but the problem is if that’s the case why do I think about her it’s really weird nd it annoys me matter in fact I think it’s a headache to have someone so controlling on your thoughts that its com to a time were I even have to type at the end of the day I just dont wanna think about her

    • I think you are absolutely right. It can be incredibly difficult to get anything done if you are constantly thinking about other people. Sometimes, there is nothing you can do to get someone off your mind right away. Just give it time, and you’ll be able to heal.

  7. So basically I really have a problem here. I am a girl of 14 years studying grade 9. Mostly I am that sort of person who doesn’t care about love at first sight and all blah blah . But I couldn’t believe it when I had my first crush who was my dream boy( I kinda guess) . So I was like, representing the republic of Bangladesh from my school in the IIMUN conference held in our place. That’s when I met him. He was representing another school as the delegate of France. The moment I saw him,I couldn’t take my eyes off him as he looked soo!!!!!!!!!! Charming,fashionable and handsome. He was really bold like me( maybe that’s what attracted me to him). He won the best delegate award at last due to his boldness of speech and expression. I couldn’t help but notice that he had many friends and was quite a popular kid in the school. We were there for two days to attend the conference and All I did was to look at him and observe him. I didn’t actually get a chance to speak to him as he was always hanging out with someone. But then he had excused himself to fetch water during the conference and I did the same. There I told him that he was amazing throughout the conference and he told me that my points were correct as well but I could have been a little more confident.After this we thanked each other and headed back. Then, for a large number of weeks, I keep thinking about him. Then I get an idea to look up his instagram profile. There I follow him and text about how amazing he is and that I want to be his friend. he just says he has no problem with it. Instead of being a good friend I just blurted out everything to him texting he was my crush and why I thought of him so and why I am sorry for telling him this. He didn’t text me after this. So I kept saying sorry and pleaded with him. After this he told me that I was smart,nice and pretty and all. But he already has a girl he likes. So,of course, I was not heartbroken because I knew these kinda guys always have their own girlfriends. But I just can’t stop thinking about how handsome he is and his awesome expression and speech towards me. I just feel like I want to be with him but I can’t. I feel like if he’s there with me I will achieve everything and anything in this whole wide world . I feel he was so special to me that nobody else will be to me ever. Please help me I just so obsessed with him in my thoughts.

    • All you can do is focus on moving on. When you are totally infatuated with someone, you think about them constantly and it feels impossible to focus on anything else. He told you that he has someone else, so it is unlikely that he will be dating you in the near future. Additionally, if he does change his mind, he knows that you like him, so he can always reach out to you. I wouldn’t count on anything changing though–at least you were brave enough to tell him how you feel, so you now know that you should just move on instead of hoping for something that isn’t happening.

  8. I am married and he is married.
    But I’m always thinking about him and trying to find means of getting his attention all the time. I become happier anytime i get closer to him. And he keeps telling me same only that he’s a bit relaxed. I realy appreciate, love, respect and admire all that he does. The only difference is that I actually don’t have sexual attraction for him though. But i lik him dearly…… He’s all over me…

    • It is completely normal to think about someone a lot when you have an affair with them. It is because the forbidden nature gives the intimacy a sense of adventure and excitement that the relationship doesn’t actually have. Unfortunately, this affair could completely destroy your life if you let it, so I would take a step back and really think about what you are doing. This excitement won’t last, and the infatuation is because of that forbidden excitement. Is it worth losing your marriage and entire lifestyle over a little excitement?

  9. I am married and he is married.
    But I’m always thinking about him and trying to find means of getting his attention all the time. I become happier anytime i get closer to him. And he keeps telling me same only that he’s a bit relaxed. I realy appreciate, love, respect and admire all that he does. The only difference is that I actually don’t have sexual attraction for him though. But i like him dearly…… He’s all over me… What affection is that. What’s really happening to me?

    • It is completely normal to think about someone a lot when you have an affair with them. It is because the forbidden nature gives the intimacy a sense of adventure and excitement that the relationship doesn’t actually have. Unfortunately, this affair could completely destroy your life if you let it, so I would take a step back and really think about what you are doing. This excitement won’t last, and the infatuation is because of that forbidden excitement. Is it worth losing your marriage and entire lifestyle over a little excitement?

  10. there has not been a single day within these 5 years of knowing this guy that i didn’t think of him. i love him, he told me he loved me too once but we argued not too long ago and now he wants nothing to do with me. i’m jealous of everyone and anyone who comes into contact with him. i still love him and i think about him all the time but i know that he doesn’t care about me anymore. i don’t know what to do. i don’t want to love him anymore but i do. we argued like cats and dogs but at the end of the day i’d die for him. i asked him if he hated me and he said “i dislike you”. i’m so confused. sometimes i catch him starring but then he looks away. he’s really close with this girl who used to be my best friend until we drifted, we’re still friends just not as close. they’re always hugging and sometimes holding hands but i can see him stare at me sometimes, i can see in his eyes that he might miss me i’m just so confused.

    • He may or may not miss you, but it definitely sounds like he doesn’t want any relationship anymore. He seems to hold grudges and negative feelings based on the past, and it seems like it is unlikely that he is going to move past those feelings any time soon.

    • If your thoughts land on either of these people in the future, then focus your emotional energy elsewhere. Acknowledge that these relationships are not viable, and turn your thoughts away.

    • If your thoughts land on either of these people in the future, then focus your emotional energy elsewhere. Acknowledge that these relationships are not viable, and turn your thoughts away.

  11. I really need help with this. After exploring my issue further, I see that what I thought was love addiction actually isnt love. How can I know what love is if my mind is functioning like this. I really need help

    • It is certain that you are aware that you are having difficulty navigating your relationship. You will benefit from introspection, so take this time to determine what you want for your future. If you need to remove yourself from someone in your life, then do so.

  12. Good day! I appreciate this article a lot and I hope you can help me suffice things with my current situation.
    I realized that maybe I really am obsessed with certain guy I’ve met online. I just can’t stop thinking about him all day, all night!
    We met in this Christian app where both of us are newbies and started to hit off a pleasant conversation. Turns out that we’re very compatible with each other. We share a lot of similar things, we agree about everything and we understand each other pretty well. He’s practically my twin soul and I can’t believe he is happening! His attributes doesn’t do any justice though, he’s too kind, too sweet, too talented, too amazing for me to handle. I got an impression that he likes me back because man! He cares a lot! We share the same principle too about one relationship towards one lifetime marriage which I might highlight this one because it’s actually a big deal! Both of us never had a date! And if WE happen to take this to the next level then our road would be narrowed to as lifetime partners. And I absolutely have no problem with that!
    But what I’m corcerned about at this very moment is we’re both not ready!
    While I’m living a life with a professional job, he on the other hand is still a student. It will take 7 years for him to graduate in med school, only then he’ll be ready. He’s a very practical man, he has everything planned out and he wouldn’t jump in a relationship unprepared. I completely understand and in awe with that,
    So we’re not rushing things here. We’re both enjoying this getting to know journey. We have plenty of time contemplating if we are right for each other.
    My concern is, the more I get to know him, the more time passes, the I more I get attached with him.
    I think about him every hour, every minute, checking messages time to time, get impatient if he hasn’t replied. I even had a hard time sleeping because I think about him a LOT! I’m so obsessed. I’m so afraid he might lose interest and I don’t wanna lose him. I can’t now.
    I don’t want him to notice and I’m just trying to be chill as possible. But inside, I want him already and I want to make a step further, I want to put a string between us just so I can reassure myself that I won’t lose him.
    Help me. I trust him. I do. But I’m just so paranoid and obsessed. Help me get through with this feelings.
    Thanks a lot for reading.
    It would mean the world to me if you respond. You can be blunt or whatever I can take that. Just please give me an advise. Thank you!

    • These kinds of feelings are normal when you are just starting a relationship. It sounds like you are falling for him fast, so just relax and enjoy the experience. Either things will work out or they won’t–there’s no point in worrying too much yet when you don’t know for sure how long the relationship can end up lasting. Just play it by ear and see what happens! Good luck!

  13. Okay, I was just searching for an answer of my late feelings for someone, so I‘m gonna write it’s down here.
    I’m a freshman in uni and when I went out with my friends from Uni to get to know the local bar scene I started to mingle with this guy which has the same major as I have. It was really nice and he asked me out for a beer the next day. I rejected because I’m in a long distance relationship. Since then even when I see him in class, I will avoid him. But I can’t stop thinking about him and asking myself what he feels about me….
    That situation is messing with my mind.
    What can I do about it?

    • Don’t do anything about it as long as you are in a relationship. He wouldn’t be able to trust you if you left your current boyfriend for him, and you’d regret doing it. If you are starting to feel like your long-distance relationship isn’t working out, then that is a different story. In that case, you can end your current relationship and, when you are ready, start dating again. Good luck!

  14. Hi, sorry with my English actual there is a girl we met at bustop I picked her in my car so in a very short time I fall inlove with her, wich she use to call me everyday but after one week me too fall in love with her. But when ever I call her she will picked the call and said I am busy I will call you back and she will not. So I am tired I don’t know what to do again old. Help me out.

    • Either she is actually busy and just forgetful, or she doesn’t want a relationship and wants to let you down easy by “forgetting” to call you back. You can still try calling her for a while longer because she may just be afraid to make a move. Who knows? Good luck!

  15. Really appreciate the article. I haven’t talked about my situation with anyone and its stressing me out. Long story short, this girl at my company had a crush on me, shes in relationship of 6 years at that. I’m in a 6 year stale relationship as well. . Plus she was married 10 years. Anyway, we ended sleeping together 3 times, kissing. Holding hands, texting everyday, displaying romance etc. Almost like a couple in a way. Eventually I know I was doing wrong, or at least we both did. All this in less than 6 months.
    Now I can’t stop thinking about this person that I have to see everyday, we still text almost every other day, but its platonic. Unfortunately, behind the scenes feelings for her still arise…even when she walks pass me..feels like the world stops and we both cold stare at each other and lock eyes. We know its wrong…I have told my partner and she understands as shes been unfaithful to me too. I hate that this person doesn’t leave my mind..any advice? Thank you

    • If you are determined that you want to keep your current relationship going, I’d think about switching to a new company or a different department. Everyone has “the one that got away.” If you keep thinking about the what-ifs of what could have happened, you’ll never be happy and you could ruin your current relationship for a relationship that probably wouldn’t work. If you can’t put this out of your head, you may also want to consider why you’re currently in your present relationship if you think it is stale. Perhaps you need to focus on spicing things up with your current partner to make things work out and avoid the other woman entirely.

  16. Hey so in my school there is this boy who is younger and am older am like 17 and i think he is like 12 or 13 i never talked to him and we are not even in the same grade. This is so awkward because i am gay but am still in the closet every time i see him i get nervous and i keep walking but i know that deep inside i think he is cute and attractive when he passes around i stare at him without him noticing. I know that i am not a pedophile but i can’t stop thinking about him even though he’s younger when he’s not at school i feel sad because i like him. I just what him to notice me!

    • Your relationship will not be viable in a year from now, and there will be social and legal reasons why you should not nourish the relationship due to age differences.

  17. Hi. I have such an issue. I can’t stop thinking about a teacher. It’s nothing romantic. But I want to be friends with her maybe. I don’t know why. And my every action is based on that. For example, if I am going out with my friends, I will think about the probability that I can run into her in the city so I need to dress nice and if my friends are embarrassing me in public, I would ask them to keep their voices down so just in case she happens to be there, I wouldn’t look bad. I try to impress her all the time. I look for ways to spend time with her.

    I have tried to maintain boundaries. I don’t go overboard. But I can’t stop thinking. I keep checking social media sites if she has posted anything new. But I don’t cross the line when I meet her. So basically no crazy actions.

    And then usually she is very nice to me. But sometimes when I do not get a good response from her, I overthink about it again and again.

    It is not a stalker situation or a romantic one. I just feel the need to impress her so much that it is all I can think of. What should I do?

    • Don’t attempt to nourish a relationship with your teacher. The relationship isn’t viable, and any further actions should be avoided.

  18. Comment: Hi, i have an issue, after trying to date someone and it didn’t work out, i made a decision that whosoever would take her of my mind i would date dat girl, then few weeks later i met a girl like she was everything i wanted so energetic, fun when ever she was around me, when ever i had a problem she always has the best advice for the situations, she even told my friends how much she likes me, then a day came she came over to my place after playing together when she wanted to leave we kissed, and from there everything was going fyn till when i packed from my older house to a new one, then she stopped visiting, i called her she would answer like she didn’t want to talk to me, then a day i when over i met her with a guy and she told me he was her boyfriend that she would not leave the relationship because she didn’t want people to say unpleasant things about her, since then the boyfriend was monitoring her calls so she won’t answer my calls, even in church we normally sit together but he stopped her he would always sit by her after service he would escort her home, since that day i was literally confused for almost a month, then all of a sudden i received a call from her saying she wanted to see me, that day was like the best day we’ve ever had together, when i got home i received a text from her saying she was happy i came and would love to see me again, this year see sent me a new year message the perfect way i would love it because she has a letter “r” pronunciation problem but makes her words sweet, she obviously omitted all letter r in the message cause she knew i would love it, when i called her she just laughed and said it was to give me joy, my i can’t go a day without thinking about her, i even wrote a lot of poems about her and even her name is written in my Bible but my friends tells me that this are all just infatuation am feeling but but i don’t think it so.
    I just confused please maybe u can help me out

    • It is clear that the two of you share a strong connection. It is certainly likely that she is interested in nourishing your relationship. Speak with her about your thoughts and feelings, and give her an opportunity to share herself as well. Spend additional time together in person.

  19. Please, what does it mean when you can’t stop thinking about the guy your dating, I can’t stop thinking about my boyfriend, Nathan, and I can’t bring up the nerves to tell him I’m CRAZY about him, because many people call me the Tsundere type.

  20. Hi, its Ceciliia again, I can’t stop thinking about Nathan, it hurts my head, and I really think he’s “The One” if you know what I mean. But I think of him constantly, and its making my grades go down, but I really didn’t care untill I realized how much I’ve missed in the real world, like how many F’s I’ve really been getting, about 18😥 There’s nothing wrong with Nathan, but I think there’s something wrong with me, please can you tell me whats wrong with me? Please andswer as SOON as possible!!!!

    • During the initial stage of the relationship, you’re in the infatuation stage. Hormones in your body make you feel like it is impossible to think of anything else. After a few months, your kind switches to a more sustainable level of affection. While what you are experiencing is normal, you should really spend more time focused on the rest of your life as well! Good luck!

  21. i am falling love with a guy but we cannot declare what label even 5 years we can’t used communication until we graduate college. what this meaning if when a guy always missing when i am not around but if am around with him but with a long distance he ignore me a lot it’s like i am annoying or bother around him.5years always he doing that until we graduate he can’t admit what he exact feelings with me.

    • Making a commitment is hard if you are in school, but telling you how he feels should be easy. If he isn’t able to even talk about a future together, how do you know that he plans on there being a future? You should sit down and have a serious talk because you have already spent five years of your life waiting for someone to give you some sign of hope or commitment, and it might not pan out. Good luck–I hope that everything works out for you!

  22. Hello !
    So exactly 7 days ago i met a girl in an online game . Since then we are in touch every day , she asked for my instagramand we followed eachother, i saw her pics and she saw mine . Since day 2 I felt like i want to know more about her and i started asking her some light questions like her age … if she has a boyfriend or not but at the same time i was trying not to look like a freak or something since we were knowing eachother for 2 days and in an online environment. She kindly answered to my questions without asking me why i want to know more about her . From day 2 to day 7 which is today things changed a bit ( im talking about how i feel here ) , i keep thinking of her when we’re not talking or when she is at work or i am at work , when i go to sleep she is in my mind . I do want to mention that i like her so much and i have a hunch that she likes me too but the distance between us makes it a bit harder in terms of me asking her to go out with me or stuff like that . I just don’t know what to do and i need any advice possible . Thank you very much and please excuse my english as it’s not my native language. Have a great day/night

    • You could keep talking to her for a while longer so that she has more of a chance to fall for you, and you have more time to figure out how she feels. It sounds like she could be just looking for a friend, although it is also possible that she is interested in you. If you want to just get it over with and see if you have any hope of being together, just be honest with her and ask her how she feels.

  23. Hey hai thanks for this article
    There is a guy who came by himself into my life and made me to like him … we just met once and everything was well for few days but later I don’t know wats wrong he started ignoring me ,he just stopped talking to me and suddenly he calls me at some times … I am quite confused with his actions , he sometimes do the thing I like and he sometimes keep on posting quotes in social media , I don’t understand what’s going on with him .. I was kinda thinking about him like hell and not even going out of my mind … I don’t know what to do ?? I asked him the reason but he never replied to them and texted casually .. I should definitely try this STOP thing to get rid of him from my mind 😖

    • He may have met someone else, or he may have just realized that you weren’t the right person for him. Rather than tell you that he didn’t think the relationship was right, he stopped talking to you as much instead. Whatever the cause, it sounds like he has definitely decided that this relationship isn’t right for him. All you can do at this point is focus on moving on and finding someone else you can be with.

  24. Thank you ! I just wanted to tell you that she has many friends in real life . So that might cut the chances of her only looking for a friend ..she also told me that rarely adds someone to her friends list .. I would wait a little bit more before i ask her about how she feels about the situation. Thank you one more time , you’re doing a great job ! It really helped me .

  25. Thanks for this article! I’m curious, I was attracted to this guy a year or two before we met in person. At first I did not realize he was the same exact guy! We hit
    It off and had great chemistry. Things did not work out, but I can’t stop thinking about him and how we ended up crossing paths. Should I find other thoughts to stop thinking about him?

  26. Thank you so much for posting this! So umm.. I met this boy last year in 7th grade.. We became friends about two months after meeting eachother, he would always tease me or try to make me laugh and around Christmas time that year I bagan to have feels towards him. He was different from other crushes i had.. Basically thoughts of him started to take over my mind, and i even started seeing him in my dreams. After a while I tried getting rid of my feelings for him but they kept coming back stronger than before.. Around summer time I found out that he had liked me that year but was to scared to tell me.. This year the memories of him have gotten so resent that it has been keeping me up most of the night! I like him but I’m getting sick of thinking about him all the time!

    • The two of you share a strong connection, and it seems like you are interested in nourishing your relationship. Take this time to determine what you feel is appropriate. If you are interested in developing a romantic relationship with him, then speak with him about your thoughts and feelings. Give him an opportunity to share himself with you as well. If possible, then you should attempt to spend additional time with him in person.

  27. We are not in good condition with my my girl friend she want to give up after she so my chats with other girls on my Facebook messenger and I love her so much so help me to get her back please!

    • You are aware that she is no longer interested in nourishing this relationship. Consider what you believe is viable. Allows her statements to guide your decisions at this time. You may want to give her an opportunity to reach out to you. If she does, then share your kindness and compassion with her at that time.

    • Consider what is viable, and think about how she feels about your relationship. Determine what you want for the future. Speak with her about your thoughts and feelings, and give her an opportunity to share herself with you as well. This will help the two of you determine what you both want for your partnership.

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