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What Does It Mean When You Can’t Stop Thinking About Someone?

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When you can’t stop thinking about someone, it can quickly become annoying. Whether you are thinking about a crush or really dislike your boss, these thoughts can keep reappearing when you least expect them. Because you think about the person so much, they hold an out-sized hold on your subconscious mind and may reappear in your dreams as well. From thinking about them constantly through the day to dreaming about them at night, you need to find a way to escape from these constant, reoccurring thoughts.

What Does It Mean When You Can’t Stop Thinking About Someone?

If the person that you are thinking about is your crush, then it probably means that you are interested in them. Chemical changes occur in your brain when you start to fall for a crush. These changes mean that you are thinking about them constantly and feel nervous when you are around them. Even if your crush does not like you back, it does not stop your thoughts from turning to them all the time.

What If You Don’t Like That Person?

In some cases, you can’t stop thinking about someone because you dislike them. For many people, this is a boss or a family member that just annoys you. Everything that they do just reminds you over and over again that you dislike them. Your mind goes into a frustration circle where it keeps returning to the detail that bothered you so much. Unfortunately, this type of thought pattern can become unhealthy. Before long, your constant thoughts about the person become obsessive and you can’t think about anything else.

Ways to Stop Obsessive Thoughts

When you can’t stop thinking about someone, then you may have a problem with obsessive thoughts. This type of problem is often addressed with cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT). This type of therapy helps you to naturally channel your thoughts and change your normal behaviors.

One technique that is used is to imagine a large movie screen. On that screen, project the person or activity that you continue to think about all the time. As you think about this stressful image, suddenly tell yourself stop or have someone else say stop. This interrupts your thought patterns briefly. Doing it just once is not enough though. You need to keep doing the same process multiple times until you automatically want to say the word “stop” when you reach a certain point in your thoughts. Once you can do this successfully, you can start using the same technique in your daily life to get yourself to stop thinking about the one person constantly.

Do Constant Thoughts Mean That You Love That Person?

In some cases, thinking about someone all of the time means that you have some type of attraction to them. This is not always the case though. There are many reasons why you could find yourself stuck in thoughts of someone else. In some cases, you may even hate the person.

Other reasons why you cannot stop thinking of someone is because you are attracted to them, have fallen in love or hate them. They could be your mentor, so you think about them a lot. It is also possible that that person is just especially funny or interesting, so you think about them all of the time.

You are the best person to decide what these constant thoughts mean. If you feel like you have fallen for them, then you may be in love or have a crush on them. If you feel hurt when they are absent or wish that you could be around them all of the time, then your thoughts may be due to a crush. If you feel repulsed by the thoughts, then they may be due to a deep-seated hatred or dislike of the person. By analyzing the thoughts and how you feel, you can figure out what is potentially causing these thoughts to occur.

This person cold also just be someone who helps you out or who treats you like family. They could be someone who changes your life or motivates you to succeed. It is also possible that the person just appeared in the dream, and the dream caused you to think about them constantly. In some cases, you don’t even know who the person is. They could have been in the dream randomly, so you don’t know if they even exist in the real world.

If you dislike thinking about this person all the time, try picking up a hobby. Staying busy will help your thoughts turn to other, more useful topics. Watch TED talks, read a book or pick up a new hobby. Writing in a journal each day can also help you work through your thoughts and figure out what is going on. With enough time, these thoughts will eventually go away.

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  1. I think I found a guy, before this moment I really don’t have time for guys around me. We work in the same company before now most guys have been gossiping about me saying I had an opportunity to meet with cute single guys but don’t wanna mengle I over heard it from a married man.. so I think this guy now is just a new staff in the company. I felt he has been sent by those previous guys to come try me.. but on is mission he fell in love with me that what he said.. so every now and then he always look for means to check on me which I never quickly notice. I never wanted to give him a chance but he was trying.. until I felt I should just hear him out we went out ( hang out) I knew little about me but almost got me rape.. he is nice and respectful, he apologized. He said I give him inner peace and he is attracted to me.. he said different sweet things, I try hard not to fall for him but I think I did not until when I heard he also had a girlfriend in the company as well and almost everyone is aware except me. I felt heartbroken on hearing it so that moment I try to distance myself from him but he keeps coming close. I just can’t stop thinking about him now. I do know why and I need someone in my life.

    • You felt attracted to this person that you worked with. His behaviors were indications that he is attracted to you. You mentioned rape in your comment, which seems to mean that he attempted to rape you. If that is the case, then you should immediately end this relationship. Do not attempt to maintain a relationship with someone who attempted to rape you. It seems that you need to make a decision about your future, and take whatever action you feel is appropriate. Have a great day, Precious!

  2. Hey,
    Thanks for posting this article.
    I feel a lot better for reading it.
    I have finally found somewhere where I can post this.

    So, I’m a 22 year old girl recovering from multiple traumas. My first ‘relationship’ if you can even call it that, was retraumatising nonetheless but however having said that it was also coupled with (unfortunately) my first same sex experience + my first ever serious relationship.

    Now, we met online.
    I have wanted to rectify that experience and also you know am just a normal bisexual who gets lonely sometimes. Now that I’ve given the context:

    I met someone online who I really like (after one girl that didn’t work out for me after a bad experience on our first date).

    Basically what happened is, we dated for a while a couple of dates and it was so lovely. However, she came up to visit me (I live quite far away from her). I was in a bad way that day and I feel I probably put her off (partly, subconsciously of course, on purpose). Anyway the long and short of it is I receive a text, just as I’m enthralled in a fantasy playing out and about to be further due to my trauma, saying she just wants to be friends. She ‘cares’ and ‘enjoys being with me’ and ‘if I want’ stay in touch as mates. She felt that it would be best for both of us. Initially I agreed. However, I knew that it’d be difficult as I’d already invested so much. She moved to France randomly recently and our regular contact has dropped to about one text if I’m lucky a month. I’d like to say that I’ve moved on, but (like she knows) I am still in recovery. I find life difficult. All that move has done is make me grow more obsessed with her. Sometimes I convince myself I have moved on. Other times I dream vividly of her as I did last night and love her more. I just wish she was here so I could talk to her about my feelings. I am also scared she won’t reciprocate. What do you think? Thank you. -Anon

    • The two of you were dating and your partner came to visit you. She informed you that she wanted to be friends and that she cared for you. She moved to France, and the two of you have started communicating less frequently. You are aware that she is no longer interested in maintaining this relationship with you, so allow thoughts of her to fade. Focus your emotional energy elsewhere, and determine what you want for your future without her. You will find great benefit in sharing your kindness and compassion at all times, as this will draw positive people and energy into your life. Have a great day, Kiwi!

  3. Hey,
    Thanks for posting this article.
    I feel a lot better for reading it.
    I have finally found somewhere where I can post this.

    So, I’m a 22 year old girl recovering from multiple traumas. My first ‘relationship’ if you can even call it that, was retraumatising nonetheless but however having said that it was also coupled with (unfortunately) my first same sex experience + my first ever serious relationship.

    Now, we met online.
    I have wanted to rectify that experience and also you know am just a normal bisexual who gets lonely sometimes. Now that I’ve given the context:

    I met someone online who I really like (after one girl that didn’t work out for me after a bad experience on our first date).

    Basically what happened is, we dated for a while a couple of dates and it was so lovely. However, she came up to visit me (I live quite far away from her). I was in a bad way that day and I feel I probably put her off (partly, subconsciously of course, on purpose). Anyway the long and short of it is I receive a text, just as I’m enthralled in a fantasy playing out and about to further due to my trauma, saying she just wants to be friends. She ‘cares’ and ‘enjoys being with me’ and ‘if I want’ stay in touch as mates. She felt she couldn’t commit and would be best for both of us. Initially I agreed. However, I knew that it’d be difficult as I’d already invested so much. She moved to France randomly recently and our regular contact has dropped to about one text if I’m lucky a month. I’d like to say that I’ve moved on, but (like she knows) I am still in recovery. I find life difficult. All that move has done is make me grow more obsessed with her. Sometimes I convince myself I have moved on. Other times I dream vividly of her as I did last night and love her more. I just wish she was here so I could talk to her about my feelings. I am also scared she won’t reciprocate. What do you think? I constantly torture myself with the thought that she doesn’t care, is with someone else and feeling great. I overanalyse every little thing in our interactions with each other trying to work out whether she likes me back or not. I admitted that I have a crush on her when she sent me that text that I received. She never outright said it. I have a feeling though. We met on a dating site. I don’t know I’m just sad and I miss her. Does that make sense? Thank you. -Anon

    Ps: Sorry if that’s a wordy post and I posted this twice. This one is edited and I didn’t know how to get rid of the other one.

    • The two of you were dating and your partner came to visit you. She informed you that she wanted to be friends and that she cared for you. She moved to France, and the two of you have started communicating less frequently. You are aware that she is no longer interested in maintaining this relationship with you, so allow thoughts of her to fade. Focus your emotional energy elsewhere, and determine what you want for your future without her. You will find great benefit in sharing your kindness and compassion at all times, as this will draw positive people and energy into your life. Have a great day, Kiwi!

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