It is quite normal to dream about your ex-boyfriend. Even if you have not dated for years, you still have memories of being together. Because of this, it is normal for dreams about your ex to happen at any point. Your dreams are made from your subconscious mind and just show your own thoughts, feelings and desires. While it can mean that you still have feelings about your ex-boyfriend, this is not necessarily the case. It could mean that you have unresolved feelings about the ex or that you need closure. Dreams about an ex-boyfriend are especially common if you have had to go through a difficult break up.
What Does It Mean When You Dream About An Ex?
Most of the time, dreaming about an ex-boyfriend does not mean that you are still in love with them. Your subconscious may make these dreams at random because of the memories that you have. The dream could also demonstrate what you want in a new relationship. Your subconscious may have chosen your ex-boyfriend to represent the love or affection that you want in the future. It may have also chosen your ex-boyfriend to show the fear that you feel about having a relationship that was just as bad as the last one. An ex-boyfriend could be a symbol of your hope for love that you are missing in your current relationship.
It is also important to look at what your ex-boyfriend is doing in the dream to figure out the meaning. A dream with an ex-boyfriend dying means something far different than a dream that your ex-boyfriend is having sex with you. You have to consider the context of the dream to discern its real meaning.
Specific Dream Meanings About Your Ex-Boyfriend
1. Dreaming That Your Ex-Boyfriend Is Dying
Death is often a sign of transformation in dreams, so dreaming about your ex-boyfriend dying probably does not mean that he is actually going to die or be injured in real life. Most likely, it shows that your subconscious is starting to move on. You recognize that he is no longer a part of your life and that he could move on to someone else. This type of dream is often a good sign that you are getting the closure that you need to heal and find a partner who is better suited to you.
2. Dreaming That Your Ex-Boyfriend Is Cheating on You
If your ex-boyfriend cheated when you were together, this type of dream could just be a throwback memory to the past. It could also represent your fear that the same type of thing could happen in your next relationship. Cheating dreams may not mean that your ex cheated though. They could also indicate that you feel betrayed by him. Since he left you, this is a natural feeling. You expected to be with him for years, and he betrayed you by leaving and no longer being someone that you could depend on.
3. Dreaming About Your Ex-Boyfriend and His New Girlfriend
This dream can represent fear or closure depending on the general ambiance of the dream. If you have moved on, then the ex-boyfriend may seem happy in the dream and you may not care that he is with another girl. If you have not actually moved on yet, the dream may indicate that you recognize that he could be with someone else and you are uncomfortable about that thought.
4. Dreaming About Your Ex-Boyfriend With Another Girl
This dream has a similar meaning to the previous one. Since the girl might not be his girlfriend, it could represent a fear that someone else got in the way of your relationship or that you are worried he could have cheated in the past.
5. Dreaming About Your Ex-Boyfriend Getting Married
Dreaming about your ex-boyfriend getting married could symbolize that you have completely moved on from the relationship and hope that he does as well. If this dream occurs immediately after a break up, it could represent a fear that he will have completely moved on in life before you can truly heal and move on yourself.
6. Dreaming About Your Ex-Boyfriend and You Getting Back Together
As you may have guessed, this dream generally shows that you still have feelings for your ex-boyfriend. It may represent a desire to be with him again or just a wish that things could have worked out differently. Unfortunately, a dream can only show your own thoughts, feelings and desires, so there is no way to know if your dream could even be possible in real life.
7. Dreaming About Your Ex-Boyfriend’s Family
When you date someone, you become an integral part of their life. After spending so much time with your ex’s friends and families, it can feel strange and lonely to suddenly be cut off from that part of your former life. This type of dream generally represents the fact that you may miss his family or that you miss being such an important part of someone’s life.
8. Dreaming About Your Ex-Boyfriend Having a Baby
A baby represents new life, hope and family. In this context, it could show that you are afraid that your ex-boyfriend will move on or that you accept that he has moved on. It could also show a fear that he will be willing to commit to someone else in a way that he was never able to commit with you.
9. Dreaming About Your Ex-Boyfriend Trying to Kill You
Death can be a transformation, but being killed in a dream is slightly different. Often, this type of dream shows that you feel like your ex limited you in life and “killed” off parts of you while you were together. It could also show that you figuratively feel as if the old you must be killed before you can move on, get closure and become the new you.
10. Dreaming About Your Ex-Boyfriend Crying
This could show that you hope or feel like your ex-boyfriend is unhappy about the break up. Often, dreaming that your ex-boyfriend is crying indicates that you feel depressed or sad about the end of the relationship, and you want him to feel just as bad about it. Unfortunately, the dream can’t show how he actually feels, so there is no way to know if he is just as broken up over the break up as you are.