A first date can be as nerve wracking as they are exciting. After all, they’re so full of potential! But making a first impression can be a bit intimidating. Usually, we all know where we stand at the end of a first date: either the date was good, or it was bad. Unfortunately, there’s always that middle ground where you might think the date went really, really well, but the guy that you went with ends up blowing you off afterwards.
He won’t answer your texts and ignores all your messages. It’s frustrating, and figuring out whether or not he really means to be ignoring you can be tricky. There’s always the desire to confront a guy after he pulls a stunt like like this. However, there are some key things to keep in mind after a guy blows you off
1. Stay calm
This is the most important thing to do when you’re confronted with a guy who completely blows you off after the first date. Don’t let yourself give in to feeling like you have to figure out what is going on right this second. Keep going about your daily business. If he’s worth anything, he’ll get in contact with you. The best thing you can do for yourself right now is to stay chill and ignore the impulse to keep texting him or calling him or trying to figure out why he doesn’t want to talk to you. If he’s a good person, he’ll let you down if he’s not interested rather than just disappearing off the face of the earth.
2. Pay attention
If he’s blowing you off by being too vague to schedule another date, he may be trying to tell you something without actually saying it. If you thought the date went really well, but all of sudden his schedule seems to be full up of visiting family members and work deadlines that didn’t exist before, he may just be trying to ease out of your life slowly. Pay attention to what he says. You may have to learn to read between the lines to get to the root of the message. If it doesn’t seem like he’s interested in setting up a second date or seeing you again, then it’s probably time to just move on.
3. Stop checking up on him on social media
It can be really tempting to check up on what he’s doing. You may want to see if he’s going on other dates or if he’s mentioning you at all. For your own sanity, it’s time to just delete him off your friends list and stop checking up on him. The more you do that, the more you’re just going to drive yourself crazy trying to figure out why it didn’t work out. There’s going to be other guys more worth your time, so don’t waste precious minutes of your day checking up on the ones that didn’t work out
4. Don’t corner him
If the both of you run in the same social circles, it may be probable that you’re going to see this guy at a party or social function. It can be tempting to go up to him and try to get an answer out of why he stopped returning your texts or just ghosted you altogether after your date. Resist this urge! It’s not worth it! Not only will it make you look (and feel!) kind of crazy, but it’s only going to feed into those negative feelings. If he didn’t want to see you again, then that’s that. While you definitely deserve an explanation, you may not always get one. The best option is to just show him you’re having a good time without him.
5. Don’t give him more time than he’s worth
A guy who blows you off isn’t the kind of guy you want to be in a relationship with anyway. It only goes to show that he doesn’t respect your time or your feelings enough to give you a proper explanation as to why it didn’t work out. So don’t focus all your energy on him. There are going to be plenty of guys who are worth your time, so learn to let the ones that didn’t work out go. Stay focused on the positive things you have going on in your life and move forward.
It sucks when a guy blows you off. Sometimes, there’s just no explanation as to why. If you’re struggling with the feelings of inadequacy after a guy totally ghosts on you, remember that there’s always going to be jerks in your life. It’s probably not even something that you did. Sometimes, guys will blow women off for completely shallow reasons – you’re too tall, or he doesn’t like your hair cut. The best thing to do is to just move on with your life.