Let’s face it: getting ghosted on sucks. Every woman has probably had an experience with texting a guy who seems really into you, only to be completely ignored for days or weeks. This phenomenon is still a mystery to most women, and we’re often left trying to figure out what we did or said to make him turn tail and run.
Most women just decide that it’s not worthy of their time to wonder and move on to someone who actually responds to their messages. But what about when a guy who disappears on you finally texts back? Trying to figure out the proper way to respond can be a bit difficult. After all, he’s the one who ghosted on you. It can be a couple days, weeks, months or even years when he finally decides to check up on you again. By then, you’re either over it or moved on. So what do you do?
1. Don’t respond
This is probably the easier option, and it entirely depends on whether or not you actually had a connection with this guy. Did you like him? Before he ghosted on you, did you connect enough that you feel like it might be worthwhile to see what he’s been up to and get to the bottom of why he disappeared? If the answer is no, then you don’t owe him your time or attention. So, just don’t respond. Let him know how it feels to be waiting for a response and just never get one. Guys who ghost on women more often than not have never had it happen to them before. So, give him a little taste of his own medicine. Especially if he’s not messaging you with a good explanation for what happened right off the bat.
2. Get to the bottom of it
Another strategy is to just ask him, straight up, what happened. After all, there may have been something serious that happened in his life that forced him to take all his attention away from other areas in his life. Maybe a tragedy struck his family, or many he got seriously ill. He could have lost his job or had to move – life is full of so many twists and turns that anything could have happened to him that caused him to have to stop responding to your messages. Even if this was the case, he probably should have mentioned it to you before hand. But still, if you feel that you have a real connection with this guy, then it’s a good idea to get to the bottom of what happened.
3. Give him another chance
Again, if you feel like your connection transcends the ghosting, then you can give him another chance. If his explanation for why he disappeared on you feels legitimate and he seems genuinely sorry that it happened, then there’s no reason why you shouldn’t reconnect with him. After all, there may be something genuinely special between the two of you that you don’t want to let get away. Of course, if he ghosts on you again then you have no reason to pardon him. But if it happens once and you feel up to it, there’s no reason not to let him back into your life on a trial basis.
4. Move on
If you’re not into ghosting him back, then you can explain that even though you liked him quite a bit, you’re not looking to reconnect with him. If his reasons for ghosting on you aren’t up to par – or he has none at all! – you can go ahead and let him know that you’re not into being lead on and then ignored for long periods of time (as most women aren’t!). This is your chance to let him know exactly how it feels to have been ghosted on, so take the chance and savor it. After all, you’ll never have to speak with him again. Or, if you’re not into the revenge fantasy, you can let him down gently. Either way, it’s your turn to say your piece.
When a guy tries to pick up where you left off after weeks or even years of never responding to your messages, it can be tricky to try and figure out where to go from there. Whether you’re into giving him another chance or not is entirely up to you. After all, the ball is in your court now. You have every reason to be annoyed or even ticked off at him. Follow your intuition. If you feel like he’s the type of guy to ghost on you again, then just say, “See ya!” and move on to someone who respects your time. You don’t have to give a ghoster the time of day if you don’t want to.