There’s nothing wrong with opening yourself up to the idea of liking someone of the same sex as you. However, you may not always know what to do when that happens. These feelings might be brand new and this playing field may seem a little unsteady to you. That’s okay! Just take it one step at a time. This is a new and exciting adventure that you are about to go on, don’t wear yourself out worrying. You may not be used to trying to go after girls, if you are a girl. This may be something that you have no experience with. That’s probably why you stumbled across the article. You are looking for help, because you aren’t sure where to start. Don’t worry, we got your back! So, what do you do when you like a girl and you are a girl yourself?
It’s easy, peasy, lemon-squeezy.
Just follow these simple steps and find yourself tackling this endeavor with ease.
Step One: Be Comfortable With Yourself
The first thing that you need to do in this situation, is to become completely, 100% comfortable with yourself. Take time to process the way that you are feeling, especially if this is the first time you are really thinking about this stuff. The last thing you want to do is start pursuing women, when you haven’t even come to terms with your own sexuality. That only paves the road to be rocky and difficult to travel. You need to think about what you really want. You also need to give some thought as to whether or not you are ready to go on this journey. It may be exciting, but it can also be overwhelming and scary. That is why you need to take the time to get comfortable with yourself and figure out what you want to do.
Step Two: Get To Know The Girl You Like
Now that you have become comfortable with yourself, you can venture into the next step of starting a relationship with a girl that you have a crush on. You will want to get to know her slowly, because you can’t be quite sure right away if she is into women or not. Unless, of course she tells you right away or it’s pretty obvious. I.e. The two of you met at a LGBTQ bar, party or event. Your first goal is to find out whether or not she has the same sexual interests as you. But, you need to do this without being too obvious or coming off as rude.
Don’t think of this as different than any other crush. Go for it as you would if you were doing it with a man. There is almost no difference when it comes to the wooing of another person. You want to establish a line of communication between the two of you and ultimately get her to become comfortable around you. Avoid cheesy pickup lines or focusing on the fact that you are interested in women. She probably already knows that. Try to remain calm. Coming on too strongly may scare her off. For all you know, this could be her first attempt at romantically mingling with the same sex, too.
Step Three: Find Common Interests
You can’t become fond of someone if the two of you do not share any common interests. Without them, you will not have anything to bond over and bonding is crucial when pursuing something brand new. Ask her about her life. Try to keep the spotlight on her. This will make her feel like you are truly listening to her. Talk about things such as school, work and hobbies. Find out if you share the same tastes in music, film or literature. This should keep the conversation going for quite a bit of time. Ask her if she is in a relationship or is currently seeing someone. This is important, because you want to avoid any weird love triangles there might be at bay. That’s never fun for anyone.
She will appreciate the fact that you want to take the time to get to know her. Hopefully this will warm her up for the next step.
Step Four: Ask Her Out
We know that this might be the most nerve-wracking thing that we could ask you to do. However, keep in mind that you have come all this way and done all this talking to get her primed for the simple question, “Will you go on a date with me?”
But before you do that, find out some of the things she loves to do. That way when you ask her on a date, you can make it more specific.
I.e: If she tells you she loves go-karting in her spare time you may ask, “Would you like to go go-karting with me this Sunday? My treat.”
This will make her feel more inclined to go out with you, because you listened to her and are offering to do something that she likes.
We hope those steps help you figure out what to do when you like a girl and you are a girl. Remember, you got this!