His hand is on the door, but you don’t want to see him go. What should you say to your man when he’s about to leave you for good?
You thought it was just going to be one of those fights. You have a debate and start arguing, and then you end up parting ways for a while. But you know in your mind that sooner or later, one of you is going to put down their pride and apologize. Apparently, this isn’t one of those times because you can see in your man’s eyes that he wants to end your relationship.
When he thinks the best thing for the two of you is to break up, here are some things you can say to him to convince him otherwise.
Please don’t go. It’s a simple plea that can be effective. When he hears that you don’t want him to leave you, it might give him second thoughts. Oftentimes, people give out threats and ultimatums about leaving just to check if their partner will chase after them. While this might not be healthy relationship behavior, it’s quite common. And because that’s the case, simply asking him not to leave might make him change his mind.
I love you. Remind him of how much you love him. Tell him how much you love him and what you love the most about him. We know it’s tough to say this when you’re in the middle of a fight that might end in a breakup. However, it might jog his memory and make him remember how good your relationship really is.
I’m sorry. Let down your pride and be the one to apologize first. Apologies often don’t come easy, but they might be an effective way to make your man stay with you. When your guy is about to leave, he might think that it’s the only way to get out of a bad situation. But when you apologize for what you did (no matter how trivial they may seem), it can help him realize that you’re willing to let go of your pride just so you can stay with him.
We can work it out. For most relationships, a breakup is imminent when you two just can’t get along anymore. The fights become more frequent and the silent treatment becomes deafening. Oftentimes, you start to just stew in your anger until you hit a breaking point. When your man has hit the breaking point, he might be convinced that there’s nothing else to be done to keep your relationship afloat. And that’s when you should insist that there is still a way to salvage your relationship.
When you say that you can work out your relationship, make sure you have a more or less concrete game plan. For instance, if he’s leaving because he says he feels trapped in a relationship, tell him how you’re willing to give him the space he needs. If he says he’s leaving because he’s not happy anymore, ask him what’s making him so sad and what you can do to fix it. And if a third party is involved, tell him how you’re willing to rebuild your trust in each other until everything is fine again.
What about all our good times together? In the heat of an argument, it can be easy to forget all the good times you had together. When he’s on his way out, he might only be thinking of all the times you’ve been fighting. But when you remind him that you had some pretty awesome times together, it might make him think twice about letting all that go.
Where did we go wrong? This is a rhetorical question, but it might make him think that the root of your problems might be simple after all. When he threatens you with a breakup and lists down all the things that are making him unhappy, ask him this and he might also consider the things he has done to bring your relationship to ruins. After all, it’s impossible that all the things that are wrong with your relationship stem from you, right? So when you ask him this, it might force him to take a long, hard look at what he has done to make your relationship as ruined as it is.
Let’s take it back to the start. A clean slate is something we can all hope for when we think that our relationship is beyond repair. For many couples, it’s difficult to let go of all the issues you have faced together, and thus it seems only logical to break up. But when you suggest that you’re willing to let it all slide just so you can start over, it might make your boyfriend willing to start anew to save your relationship.
Don’t let your relationship go just because of a fight. If it’s still worth fighting for, give it your all!