In recent years, scientists have been telling us that stress is bad for us. While we try to do things to avoid stress, it’s also stressful to see when someone we love is dealing with a great deal of stress. The thing is, you don’t need to sit there quietly as your man is at his wit’s end. There are a few simple things you can do and say to him that might help him out.
Here are some things you can say to your man whenever he’s feeling stressed out.
Do you want to talk about it? When a person is stressed out, one of the easiest things you can do for them is to listen to them. You may not always completely understand the ups and downs of why he’s stressed out, but that’s beside the point. The point of asking him if he wants to talk is to allow him to have a bit of an outlet to vent. But that’s not the only thing that will help him. Telling someone about his troubles might even help him articulate what it is that’s making him stressed, and perhaps help him find a solution to whatever it is that’s stressing him out. The bottom line here is to give him a moment to let all his feelings out.
I believe in you. When someone is stressed out, it’s usually from a misalignment of expectations. He wants to be able to do something, but he thinks he can’t, and that’s where the stress comes from. What you can do to encourage him is to tell him that you have faith in his ability to see things through. Oftentimes, even if he is not fully equipped to handle the situation, the confidence he gets from a loved one can help him achieve his goal.
Let’s take a break. I’m not talking about a relationship break. What this means is to take a break from all the things that are stressing him out. Stress is usually a combination of different worries that starts to feel like a ton of pressure on his shoulders. Worrying even more even if he can’t do anything will just make things worse. So one of the best things you can do is to take him away from whatever is stressing him out.
One thing you can do is to suggest a relaxing activity like cooking up a nice meal, watching a feel-good show, or just listening to music as you talk about other things. Taking his mind of what’s stressing him out can help his mind recuperate, and in some cases, even bring in a fresh perspective to help him solve his problems.
What can I do to help? The simple gesture of offering to help can sometimes be enough to let him know that he can always count on you. Once he has explained to you what it is that’s stressing him out, offer a helping hand to help him with things you’re capable of helping him with. For instance, if he’s stressed that he has to do overtime and can’t run important errands, offer to run those errands for him. If he’s stressed because he needs to cram for an important exam, offer to cook him a nice meal so he doesn’t get hungry while studying. And if he’s stressed out about people in his life, offer to be the one to listen to his problems. He’s sure to appreciate how you’re willing to help him out.
I love you. When someone is stressed out, it’s easy for them to think that they’re alone in their problems. But you can always prove him wrong by showing him and telling him how much you love him. Everyone has a different love language. Some like to use words to express their love, while others like to give gifts or gestures. So the moment you see that he’s stressed out about something, show him your love to let him know that he’s not in this alone.
I’ll leave you to it, but I’ll be here when you need me. There are some people who cope better with stress by being alone. If you feel that your man could use some space to help gather his thoughts and come out with a game plan, then let him know that you understand. Some people have trouble telling their significant others that they need space, and thus they end up allowing their stress spill over to their partner. If your guy is like that, be the one to make the first move and tell him that you’ll leave him to it (because you believe in him) and that you’ll be there for him when he needs you.
The most important thing to remember is that you shouldn’t take it personally when your man is acting stressed around you. Try to be as patient and understanding as you can, and just give him the moral support he needs.