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What to Say When She Says “I Have a Boyfriend”

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We don’t all wear our relationship statuses on our sleeves, so it takes a little guesswork and more conversations to figure out if the person we’re talking to is already taken. For some girls, it’s hard to outright say no to a guy without making him even more adamant to pursue her (thanks for that, unrealistic rom-coms). So for them, the best response would be to say that she has a boyfriend in the hope that the guy would back off.

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So when you’re talking to a girl and she tells you that she has a boyfriend, these responses might help.

When you really just want to be friends

In this scenario, you’re genuinely no interested in romantically pursuing her :

 

“Okay, that’s cool.” When you want to be friends (genuine friends!) with a girl, it shouldn’t matter if she has a boyfriend or not. It’s not like you’re trying to take his place, right? So when she tells you that she has a boyfriend, play it cool and still try to pursue a friendship with her. But remember, if she says this in a defensive way, it’s best to clarify that you’re not hitting on her so that she knows that you have no intentions of taking her away from her boyfriend.

“Awesome. I have a girlfriend too!” Ease her mind by telling her that you have a girlfriend. This might just be enough to clarify to her that you have no intentions of pursuing anything romantic with her. However, make sure that you make it obvious that you love your girlfriend by casually mentioning her in future conversations too. Some girls might take this response to mean that you’re mentioning your girlfriend to make it seem like you’re on the same boat if you do decide to cheat with each other.

“Oh, say hi to him for me.” Make her feel at ease that you’re not interested in her that way by directly acknowledging the presence of a boyfriend in her life. This response could be enough to ease her mind and make her realize that you’re not hitting on her in any way. Who knows, you might even suddenly become good friends with her guy!

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“I’m not trying to hit on you.” For many women, saying “I have a boyfriend” is an indirect way of saying “I know you’re interested in me, but I’m not interested.” In other cases, it’s an ego-boosting move that makes her feel good when she has the option to reject a guy. To clear the air between you, make it clear that you’re not hitting on her. To further reinforce this, make sure you mention exactly why you’re talking to her such as needing her participation in a group project or just talking to her because you’re in the same class.

if a girl says she has a boyfriend is that total rejection

When you want to be more than friends

This is what you say when you’re into a girl and she tells you that she has a boyfriend:

[More : How to Get a Girl to Like You when She Has a Boyfriend]

“Oh, sorry about that. I thought you were single.” Don’t push the subject when a girl says she has a boyfriend. For many women, saying no isn’t convincing enough, especially when guys try to insist on buying her a drink. Her best bet is often to say that she has a boyfriend so that guys would just leave her alone. If you genuinely thought she was single, apologize and tell her that you thought she was single. This might help clear any future awkwardness between you two.

“Hmmm. How serious are you guys?” If you have no qualms about breaking up a seemingly happy couple, this is what you can say. However, be prepared for a response along the lines of “leave me alone!” This response gets you a 50/50 chance of getting the girl because she might genuinely be willing to have a dalliance with you or she might think you’re an immoral creep who can’t take a hint.

“I’ll leave you to it for now. But I hope you remember me when you’re single.” When you realize that there’s nothing you can do for now, you can always mention that you’re willing to wait around for her. Who knows, she might see this is a good thing because it shows how patient you are. Just remember not wait around for her like some sort of creep! Genuinely wait for her while you can, but don’t go asking for updates every week on whether or not they’ve broken up!

“I don’t mind.” Now this is a response that takes guts! When you genuinely don’t care that she has a guy and you think she might consider cheating, this response could prove to be effective. On the other hand, it’s also very likely that she won’t take kindly to your response, and thus ignore you. This would lessen your chances of ever getting with her!

Never be caught off-guard when she says she has a boyfriend by remembering these responses.



156 COMMENTS

  1. There’s this girl I met in secondary school days, I approach her and tell her that I wanted to be in serious relationship with her, she said that she don’t want to be in a relationship now unless she finish her secondary school. So after we left school, we met again and I asked her, she simply said that she don’t want to be in a relationship unless if we can be casual friends..
    I love her so much but I don’t know what to do again.. Please help me

    • She has shared her thoughts and feelings with you twice. Do not attempt to ask her again. Share your kindness and compassion with her, and nourish a friendship with her. Her feelings are valid, as she wants to focus on her education. If you continue to press her, then you will find that she will not want to maintain a relationship with you. Have a great day, Fabulous!

    • Well… the girl is hard-type like. So it needed a strong trick that will develops her interest in having a man. My dear, just maintain this friendship with her. There is what is called platonic intimate relationship. This type of friendship is casual and deep but not romantically sticked together. Having this friendship with her brings you 75% closer of developing her interest and feelings about if you played the role well. Keeping this type of friendship with her has many things to be doing and things to avoid doing too much to avoid breaking the power needed to work on her feelings. For the summary of the ways you handle this. Though is casual friendship you are keeping with her but few atimes you tries to use some romantical tips on her like: u used to call by her name, few atimes call her pet and romantic names like baby, sweedy, or customize her name. Also, few atimes, when you both have had a nice conversation, outing or any good time spent together, try giving her some peg on her forehead, cheecks. When doing these romantic tricks, don’t show emotional seriousness on your face because seeing it on your face before the time of the trick to work on her might make her avoids you most atimes so be careful. Also, you can try to find out the things she like most. Get her those things atimes, buy special gifts like jewelry, clothes and underwears like bra and pants. The underwears you bought is a greater tool to drive her love emotion upside down though she might look uncomfortable and sound like this; oh! why must you buy underwears for me cos she is shy but inside of her she love it? Don’t ever apologize or say sorry. Just laugh and say oh that you saw them and love it and you thought it will looks good on her though you didn’t know the seizes she wears but tell her to wear it and know is it fits her seize. Job well done on this. Also, you can atimes say ” I like you”, acknowledge her intelligence and beauty. Few times, you use “I love you”. She will be able to know the changes and this will keep her wondering and thinking about you. While doing these tricks, Don’t loss your value. Make her to look for you atimes by avoid seeing her. Atimes tell her a lie that you are traveling but promised her to come back in a week or there about. The period of your absence is the real time the power of the tricks manifest. When the whole job is complete and work perfectly. To some girl, She may make you know that she has developed feelings for you, talking how good you are. But to some girls, they can’t say a word. Try to look into her eyes carefully,examine changes in it when you both stay together. Examine her body movements and emotion and know what signal it giving and take a nice shot of romantic kiss on her lips. Stubborn ones will try to forcely remove her lips, hold her head firm and insist on kissing her while you are looking inside her eye ball. Stop, if she hits you? Smile… is a nice responce. Don’t apologize, just say I love you. Easy girls will respond I love you too, but stubborn ones, will be quiet for a moment while looking into her eyes. Is a responce too that she loved you too. Just go close to her and cuddle her tight and let her know that all you wanted is to make her happy. She will feel safe and relax. If she is still dull and moody, cheer her up like baby smile for me and all that. Just go to have a drink or dinner together, Have a walk with her. On how you want it tonight, whether she sleeps with you or not is all in your hands; she is now your lover. 👍

    • My dear, go into casual relationship with her from there she will study u to know you better, if actually you are serious with her…

      • Thank you for sharing your supportive comment. Please share more of your thoughts and feelings in the future. Have a great day, Fabulous!

  2. Be a casual friend with her,along the line,if she really want you,she will make u more than a friend to her.am suggesting this,bcos most girls normally use casual friend to know the person they re about to accept into their lives well.

    • Thank you for sharing your support comments. It is beneficial when members of our community share their insights and experiences. Many members of our community will benefit from your thoughts and feelings. Please share more of your positive comments in the future. Have a great day, Rotek!

  3. Hi I have this girl have been pestering long ago…have try so many ways to make her show the green light. But always insist..but one thing I notice about her is that if I distance my calling with her for like a month, then I now call her after a month she will respond politely and also she feel for me……what can I do ….and I love this girl….

    • You feel a strong emotional connection with her. Her feelings may or may not be similar to yours. Perhaps you will find benefit in attempting to spend time with her in person. This should help nourish your relationship. Speak with her about your thoughts and feelings. Ensure that you respect her wishes and desires. Have a great day, Darey!

  4. I have girl I tell her that I love her but she told me she have a guy n I use to call her every day but one she told me not to call her again n I try to call her she didn’t pick my calls pls help me what can I do to get her

    • She has told you to not call her. You said that she has not answered your calls, and this likely is because she has told you to not call her. Respect her wishes. She is in a relationship and has asked you to not call her. Listen to her. Determine what you want for your future without her. Have a great day, Shola!

  5. Please, there is a girl learning work along my shop,,we were not a friend before,, until when she wanted to do her birthday ,I noticed that she is one of my Facebook friend,,,so we started chatting from there I collected her number and I gave her a perfume as a birthday gift,,,, and I love the girl but I don’t know what to do,,,,

    • The two of you are nourishing a social relationship. You have stated that you love her. Determine what you want for the future of this relationship. Speak with her about your thoughts and feelings. Nourish your relationship by spending additional time with her in person. Have a great day, Pablo!

  6. Please, there is a girl learning work along my shop,,we were not a friend before,, until when she wanted to do her birthday ,I noticed that she is one of my Facebook friend,,,so we started chatting from there I collected her number and I gave her a perfume as a birthday gift,,,, and I love the girl but I don’t know what to do,,,,

    • The two of you are nourishing a social relationship. You have stated that you love her. Determine what you want for the future of this relationship. Speak with her about your thoughts and feelings. Nourish your relationship by spending additional time with her in person. Have a great day, Pablo!

  7. I have this girl I love,, real beautiful and nice but she has a boyfriend… Have tried everything but it seems like her feelings are unstable,, today she acts like she loves me and does d opposite tomorrow … We’re very close tho,,I even give her relationship advice… What do u think I can do to get her?

    • She has a boyfriend. Do not attempt to nourish a romantic relationship with her at this time. Continue to share your kindness and compassion with her. If her relationship naturally ends, then speak with her about your thoughts and feelings at that time. There is no benefit to be gained in harming her current relationship. If her relationship remains strong, then focus your emotional energy elsewhere. Have a great day, Tobii!

  8. I once approached a girl and asked her to be my girlfriend and she told me that she is not interested in the relationship. I later got to know that she is now dating another guy. I love this girl so much but I am a guy that is really short of words as I don’t even know the kind of topics to bring up when I am around girls. What do you think I can do to get this girl back.

    • She has informed you of her feelings. She is in a relationship with someone else. Respect her wishes. Do not attempt to damage her relationship. If her relationship naturally ends, then speak with her about your thoughts and feelings at that time. For now, focus your emotional energy elsewhere, and determine what you want for your future without her. Have a great day, Anon!

  9. There is this girl i meet on social media, i was like telling her i love you an she the same, just like we’re having the same fellings, according to her that she can’t sleep without me singing for her i will just try an sing for her even though i don’t know how to, just for the sake of love i have for her she will be glad an go to sleep she even ask me to come over and i said i will try. she was latter offline for like two days, the first day i saw her i was like horny where have you been for two days not seing u online, her respond shock me, that she when to Texas for a visit, i ask a boy or a girl she said a boy, who is he i ask she said her boyfriend i thought she was jocking where is he from she said spain can i see his pic an she send it to me, i ask her an u want to marry him ryt she said yes. I was like telling her that she dissapointed/ hurt me. Since then i don’t use to chart her up like before again.Pls help me what does that mean because i truely love her.

    • The two of you were not in a committed, romantic relationship. You share a strong emotional and social connection with her. Each of you care for the other person. She has decided to visit someone else. She may be nourishing a romantic relationship with him. Determine what you want for your future. Speak with her about your thoughts and feelings. Give her an opportunity to share herself with you as well. Have a great day, Justice!

    • Thank you for sharing your positive comment. It is wonderful to hear that you solved your own question. Please share your insights and experiences in the future. Have a great day, Willie!

  10. Comment:

    There is this girl in my church I like alot but always forms for me. she gave me her number,when I call she hardly pick ,when I chat her she hardly chat. I had to ask her to tell me if she want me or not so I can move on with my findings. she can’t say yes or no. now am giving up on her though I really have d feeling of making her my wife. but am bored n get discouraged right now. what should I do?

    note: I have managed to take her out n she told me she has a distance boyfriend

    she visited my home once and that’s when d conversation really slows down

    • She has informed you that she has a boyfriend. This means that she can not maintain a romantic relationship with you. You can continue to nourish a friendship with her. Do not attempt to harm her relationship. If she is no longer satisfied in her current relationship, then she should speak with him about her thoughts and feelings. If she becomes single and reaches out to her, then speak with her about your thoughts and feelings at that time. Have a great day, Bobby!

  11. Comment:I have a girl we schooled together in primary school from class 1 to class 8,,I used to like her and even till today I always dream of her ,,I made a promise to myself that I will marry her come rain or shine,,but she blocked my phone number and went silent but she is there in facebook n whenever I message her she doesnt reply,,,she once told me that to let her serve God then she will come to think of my idea. Now what should I do ,,should I go for another chick or wait for her desicion?

    • She has decided to block you. She has informed you of her thoughts and feelings. If you care for her, then you should acknowledge that she wants to focus on her religion. Ensure that you treat everyone with the respect that they deserve. She is not interested in developing a relationship with you at this time. She has made her decision, so determine what want for your future. Have a great day, Boniface!

  12. Here come this girl we love each other but she have this ignoring attitude which make me to be doughting her if she truly love me nw, and I asked her if she still love me, she never say no all she will say is she can do without me ,this bothers me alot bcoz for a girl to say I love u but keep ignoring definitely something is wrong, pls what can I do about this

    • She has informed you of her thoughts and feelings. She does not love you and has been clear with her words. Determine what you want for your future. Decide what type of relationship you want to nourish. You may find benefit in determining what you want for your future without her. Ensure that you share your kindness and compassion with everyone in your life. Have a great day, Crackus!

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