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What to Say When She Says “I Have a Boyfriend”

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We don’t all wear our relationship statuses on our sleeves, so it takes a little guesswork and more conversations to figure out if the person we’re talking to is already taken. For some girls, it’s hard to outright say no to a guy without making him even more adamant to pursue her (thanks for that, unrealistic rom-coms). So for them, the best response would be to say that she has a boyfriend in the hope that the guy would back off.

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So when you’re talking to a girl and she tells you that she has a boyfriend, these responses might help.

When you really just want to be friends

In this scenario, you’re genuinely no interested in romantically pursuing her :

 

“Okay, that’s cool.” When you want to be friends (genuine friends!) with a girl, it shouldn’t matter if she has a boyfriend or not. It’s not like you’re trying to take his place, right? So when she tells you that she has a boyfriend, play it cool and still try to pursue a friendship with her. But remember, if she says this in a defensive way, it’s best to clarify that you’re not hitting on her so that she knows that you have no intentions of taking her away from her boyfriend.

“Awesome. I have a girlfriend too!” Ease her mind by telling her that you have a girlfriend. This might just be enough to clarify to her that you have no intentions of pursuing anything romantic with her. However, make sure that you make it obvious that you love your girlfriend by casually mentioning her in future conversations too. Some girls might take this response to mean that you’re mentioning your girlfriend to make it seem like you’re on the same boat if you do decide to cheat with each other.

“Oh, say hi to him for me.” Make her feel at ease that you’re not interested in her that way by directly acknowledging the presence of a boyfriend in her life. This response could be enough to ease her mind and make her realize that you’re not hitting on her in any way. Who knows, you might even suddenly become good friends with her guy!

“I’m not trying to hit on you.” For many women, saying “I have a boyfriend” is an indirect way of saying “I know you’re interested in me, but I’m not interested.” In other cases, it’s an ego-boosting move that makes her feel good when she has the option to reject a guy. To clear the air between you, make it clear that you’re not hitting on her. To further reinforce this, make sure you mention exactly why you’re talking to her such as needing her participation in a group project or just talking to her because you’re in the same class.



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When you want to be more than friends

This is what you say when you’re into a girl and she tells you that she has a boyfriend:

[More : How to Get a Girl to Like You when She Has a Boyfriend]

“Oh, sorry about that. I thought you were single.” Don’t push the subject when a girl says she has a boyfriend. For many women, saying no isn’t convincing enough, especially when guys try to insist on buying her a drink. Her best bet is often to say that she has a boyfriend so that guys would just leave her alone. If you genuinely thought she was single, apologize and tell her that you thought she was single. This might help clear any future awkwardness between you two.

“Hmmm. How serious are you guys?” If you have no qualms about breaking up a seemingly happy couple, this is what you can say. However, be prepared for a response along the lines of “leave me alone!” This response gets you a 50/50 chance of getting the girl because she might genuinely be willing to have a dalliance with you or she might think you’re an immoral creep who can’t take a hint.

“I’ll leave you to it for now. But I hope you remember me when you’re single.” When you realize that there’s nothing you can do for now, you can always mention that you’re willing to wait around for her. Who knows, she might see this is a good thing because it shows how patient you are. Just remember not wait around for her like some sort of creep! Genuinely wait for her while you can, but don’t go asking for updates every week on whether or not they’ve broken up!

“I don’t mind.” Now this is a response that takes guts! When you genuinely don’t care that she has a guy and you think she might consider cheating, this response could prove to be effective. On the other hand, it’s also very likely that she won’t take kindly to your response, and thus ignore you. This would lessen your chances of ever getting with her!

Never be caught off-guard when she says she has a boyfriend by remembering these responses.



58 COMMENTS

  1. there is dis girl we’ve seen each other for so long. we are friends, we sometimes talk on phone and it seems she love me too but I always find it difficult to say ‘I luv u’ to her. I dnt know where nd how to start or say it…

    • The two of you feel a strong emotional connection. It is possible that she shares similar feelings for you. If you love her, then use the word love rather than ‘luv’. She may become confused or uncertain about your meanings if you are not clear and honest. Speak with her about your thoughts and feelings. Give her an opportunity to share herself with you as well. Have a great day, Iyanda!

    • Comment:We dated for the past two years now her parents asked her to stop de relationship with me because of some past past clan issues but frankly speaking the love for each other is still strong,please I need advice

      • Her family has expressed their desires. It is up to your partner to determine if she wants to strengthen her relationship with her family or with you. If you are able to maintain a relationship with her, then do so. Perhaps speak with your parents, as this will give them an opportunity to speak with your partner’s parents. Have a great day, Gattuso!

    • You decided to no longer reach out to women. If you believe that is this is the appropriate course of action, then continue it. If you find that you are not happy with this lifestyle decision, then change your mind. Share your kindness and compassion with everyone in your life. Have a great day, Eric!

  2. Comment:have been talking to a particular girl since 1year she was now given me my answer now she said no and I love her and she is single

    • She has shared her thoughts and feelings with you. She is not interested in developing a relationship with you. If she is single, then her decision may have been based on a variety of reasons. Regardless of her reasons, you should respect her wishes. Continue to share your kindness and compassion with her, but don’t attempt to force her to establish a romantic relationship with you. Have a great day, Nasty!

  3. have been talking to a particular girl since 1year and was given me my answer today and she said no and I love her and she is still single

    • She has shared her thoughts and feelings with you. She is not interested in developing a relationship with you. If she is single, then her decision may have been based on a variety of reasons. Regardless of her reasons, you should respect her wishes. Continue to share your kindness and compassion with her, but don’t attempt to force her to establish a romantic relationship with you. Have a great day, Edema!

    • Determine what you want for this relationship. Decide what you believe is appropriate and viable. Speak with your love about your thoughts and feelings. Ensure that you give your love the opportunity to share themselves with you as well. Perhaps attempt to spend additional time with them in person. Have a great day, Emeka!

  4. I have a particular girl have been chatting with her and it seems that my heart loves her but i don’t know how to start a romantic relationship with her

    • You are interested in developing a relationship with her, so speak with her about your thoughts and feelings. You will find benefit in spending additional time with her in person. Attempt to learn more about her hobbies and interests. Give her opportunities to share herself with you as well. You will find that your emotional connection with grow. Have a great day, Collo!

  5. Comment:af been dating a girl for to mouth nw and will af meet 2 times on romansing but eventually she just changed. and I love her so much, I don’t no what to do now.

    • She has changed, which means that her behaviors are different. Determine what you want for the future of this relationship. Speak with her about your thoughts and feelings. Give her a chance to share herself with you as well. If this relationship is no longer viable, then focus your emotional energy elsewhere. Have a great day, Escan!

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