“I miss you” is such an easy thing to say, but it’s also a little difficult to respond to. In essence, “I miss you” means “I want to be with you.” Naturally, that’s a great idea when you want her company. But what if you can’t be with her right now? What if you’re super busy with other obligations? And most importantly, what if she’s your ex and you know she’s bad news?
Below are some responses to “I miss you” that you can use depending on your situation.
When You’re Not Yet in a Relationship:
I miss you too. If you miss her too, then tell her! There’s no point in playing games with her when you clearly feel the same way. This is a great way to clue her in that you feel the same way she does. If she notices that you are both on the same page about where your little flirtation is going, this might be the nudge you need to finally take your relationship to a different level.
I wish I could be with you right now. There will be times when you won’t be able to meet up no matter how much you miss each other. If this is the case, skip the usual “I miss you too” and jump right into telling her how much you wish you were together right now. This can show her just how much you miss her without giving her a canned response.
What would you do if I was there with you? Open up a flirtatious little conversation with her by asking her what she would do if you were there. If you’re just in the early stages of flirtation, it’s likely that she’ll give you a fairly innocent answer – watch a movie, go on a date, or just cuddle on the couch. But if you’re headed towards a more intimate relationship with her, she might surprise you with a steamy text about exactly what she wants to do to you.
When You’re in a Relationship:
Let’s meet up. What better way to cure the blues than by meeting up with her? It shows her that you’re willing to spend time and effort just to see her, no matter how busy your schedules might be. Also, it’s always a good idea to be the first one to suggest meeting up because it shows her that you have initiative.
Where are you? Only say this if you’re willing to drop everything just to go to wherever she is. It’s a spontaneous text that might just pleasantly surprise her. After all, you know she’s going to swoon if you pop up at her place all of a sudden with some snacks just so you can spend a little time together.
Explain why you’re busy. Sadly, you can’t always meet up no matter how much you crave each other’s company. If this is the case, you have to carefully explain why you can’t drop what you’re doing and just be with her. When you explain why you’re busy, always make sure that you also emphasize that you wish it were easier for the two of you to be together. But also emphasize how important school or work or other obligations are. As a consolation, you can also use this opportunity to plan a date sometime in the near future.
When You’ve Broken Up:
I miss you too. It’s a can of worms that you have to think about before opening. When your ex says she misses you, you know she wants something. It could either be just a little closure, something more intimate, or perhaps a reconciliation. When you tell her that you miss her too, you should be prepared for what she might want from you. Figure out why she’s texting you out of the blue and think if reconnecting with her is worth your time. In the end, there are two possible scenarios here: either you meet up and things go great, or you don’t meet up and your communication will eventually taper off. It’s your call.
Absolutely nothing. Who says you’re obligated to reply to your ex? No one! When your ex says she misses you, it could be a trap. Everyone wants to be missed by someone, and if you seem particularly lonely lately, she might see this as a sign that you’re vulnerable to give in to what she wants. If you no longer want to be with her and are prepared to sever ties with her, silence is the best response. Sure, she might pester you for another couple of days and her texts might turn nasty. But keep your resolve and know that it’s better to let her air out her grievances as you work your way towards moving on.
Know exactly what to say when she misses you by picking out the right responses above!