Dating can be an infuriating process. It is hard enough to find the right person. If you date a guy and he sends you mixed signals, it is even harder to figure out what to do and what he wants. At first, he acts like he wants to see you again. Then, he suddenly disappears and you don’t hear from him for days. Why does he act like he wants to see you again and then disappears?
Unfortunately, there are a number of reasons why this might happen. He might not be interested, but there could be other things going on as well. By looking at his overall behavior and judging his actions, you can start to figure out exactly what is going on in his mind.
Why Does He Act Like He Wants to See You Again and Then Disappears?
1. He Isn’t Actually Interested
Unfortunately, the reason why he disappears might be he just isn’t that interested. He didn’t want to just tell you that you are wrong for him, so he acted like he was going to call you later. Then, he ghosted you and just never reached out again. It might not have anything to do with you—he might just not be ready for a real relationship. Whatever the case, his behavior may be because he just isn’t that interested in dating you.
2. You Were Just an Option
Another common reason is that he just doesn’t like to be alone. He wants something to do on a Friday night, so he went out on a date with you. He never planned on hanging around because he always saw you as just an option and not his soulmate.
3. He Is Dating for Fun
He might be a player, or he might not know what he really wants in a relationship yet. Sometimes, guys just date for fun. He might like having sexual flings, or he might just enjoy having a partner for the evening. If he is only dating for fun, he won’t be as committed to calling you or asking for another date. He only wants to go on a date when it suits him and he wants something to do.
4. He Doesn’t Think You Are Compatible
You both might be totally amazing people, but that doesn’t mean that you are right for each other. The best relationships are like puzzle pieces, and it is entirely possible that your puzzle pieces just don’t fit that well together. If this is the case, don’t panic. It’s better to know early on that you aren’t that compatible or the woman he is looking for, so accept it and find someone who suits your personality better.
5. He Is Shy About Rejecting You
No one likes to be rejected, and rejecting someone else is difficult. You don’t want to be the reason why someone else cries or feels unhappy. The right thing to do is to tell the other person what you want from the relationship and that the relationship won’t work for you. Unfortunately, some guys (and ladies!) don’t have the guts to just speak the truth. They are so afraid of having to reject someone else that they just disappear instead of telling the other person how they really feel.
6. He Is Busy
Think about his schedule. Did he mention a major project at work or an upcoming family event? If he seemed to be genuinely interested in you and in having a second date, then the problem might not have anything to do with the relationship. It is entirely possible that he is just really busy and hasn’t had the time to reach out yet. If this is the case, you just have to wait a bit and see what happens. When his schedule frees up, he will reach out to you again.
7. He Doesn’t Think You Are Interested
Guys aren’t always great at reading their partner’s feelings. You might have done everything possible to flirt with him and show your interest, but he may not have picked up on these signs. If he didn’t think that you were interested, he may have been afraid of asking for another date because he thinks you will reject him. After all, why pursue a relationship with someone who clearly seems to be uninterested in you?
8. Dating Gives Him Validation
In some cases, guys date around because it gives them an ego boost. He may have a poor self-esteem, or he might just like the sense of validation that comes with dating. Each time he goes on a date, it proves to him that he is a worthwhile person with likable qualities. Who you are and having a relationship just aren’t factors in his equation. As long as he gets the validation and ego boost he wants, he would be willing to date just about anyone.