We all have those days where we simply aren’t vibing with our partners. Especially women. Women can be much moodier than we expect them to be, which leads to a lot of those ‘we aren’t vibing’ type of bad days. They happen and they happen more often than we’d like to believe. That is just what happens when you are in a relationship with someone and you spend excessive amounts of time with them. This is true for family members, roommates and lovers alike. However, we might feel like something is truly off if the person that we love is constantly not vibing with us. One bad day turns into several days and several days seemingly melds into a month or more. This can be utterly distressing. What have we done to piss them off enough to get this type of behavior for such a long period of time? The answer we tend to brew up in our head usually consists of something along the lines of, ‘Well, they hate me now.’
Slow your roll, buddy. That is usually not the case. Although it generally feels that way, it’s probably not what is going on at all.
That’s why we are here to help you. So that you aren’t alone while you are trying to figure out what the heck is happening with you and your girlfriend.
What’s Really Going On
There is a very slim chance that your girlfriend actually hates you. If she did, she probably would not be with you at this point. She most likely would have up and left you long ago. Especially if this negativity she is projecting has been going on for a long period of time.
However, like we mentioned, there is a very slim chance that she might hate you. Not very reassuring is it? No, it’s not and we are sorry to let you know that. But the good news is that it’s pretty easy to identify when she is simply upset with you or if she actually despises you. How do you tell the difference? There’s a few things that seem to give it away. You just have to know what to be on the lookout for.
Timing has a lot to do with whether or not your girlfriend truly hates you or she’s just harboring some bad feelings for you for the time being. Think about how long she has been acting this way towards you.
Has it been a few days only? There’s a good chance you just did something to make her angry and she will get over it. Only if you figure out what you did wrong and apologize for it, that is. Chocolates and maybe even gift card to Sephora, or her fav makeup store, don’t hurt either!
Has it been over a month? There might be something wrong in your relationship and she is not happy at the time being. You haven’t made the effort to make a change, but how can you when you don’t even know what’s wrong or what’s really bothering her? We don’t blame you for being super confused at this point, but it’s up to you to ask her what’s wrong with the relationship and how you can fix it.
Have you tried those things and it’s been several months? Well, we hate to break it to you, but she might actually resent you if it’s been this long and you can’t seem to find a solution. The best thing that you can do in this case is ask her what you can do to resolve all of this. Otherwise it might be time for the two of you to go your separate ways. Sad, we know, but sometimes people just grow apart… Or grow to hate one another.
Another important factor to consider when you are trying to figure out whether or not your girlfriend actually hates you is to pay attention to her attitude towards other people. She might just be having a hard time in life and could be taking her emotions out on others. You’ll only be able to identify that by paying very close attention. But if she is only throwing shade your way, then it might be because she dislikes you right now or you did something to make her angry with you.
You Made Her Mad
Have you done something to piss her off? Yep, this is the most common reason that makes a woman start acting all hateful towards you. Now, you might not know what you did, but we can give a few examples to get the gears in your brain turning.
- You may have offended her. You might not think that saying or doing something offensive would cause her to go in full on anger mode for such a long time, but you would be surprised at the type of grudge a girl can hold. Maybe you said something negative about her appearance, her work or talent. Think hard. Can you think of anything you may have said or done that she might consider offensive? This could be the reason she is acting like she hates you right now. How do you fix it? Well, first you need to pinpoint what you did exactly. Then it’s best for you to think of a very sincere and heartfelt apology. Doing that will get you back on her good side fairly quickly.
- You may have made her jealous. Yes, women get jealous just like men do. They might even get more jealous, depending on their personality type. She may have witnessed you flirting or looking at another girl. This could have set her into a frenzy and made her very angry with you. You’d be shocked at how long she can stay mad and get petty over simple jealousy. It’s nuts!
- You were mean. There are times that you might feel the need to be mean. We get it, sometimes couples fight and they say things that they probably should not have. It happens. But there is a small possibility that she isn’t letting whatever you said go that easily. She might be holding on to it and replaying it in her head. Her best solution to coping with that is by dishing out some meanness right back at you. This could be why you feel as if she doesn’t like you any longer.
The Last Option To Consider
There is one last, very sad, option to consider when it comes to figuring why your girlfriend is suddenly acting so weird towards you. So what is this super sad option to keep in mind? Well, unfortunately sometimes couples fall apart because one of the partners decide that they no longer love the person that they are with anymore. This sucks, but it does happen. More often than we’d like to think. So what does this have to do with her acting rude and hateful towards you? Some people think that the best way to push someone away is by acting hostile towards them. They feel like it might make breaking up easier if they are mean to you. This makes you start to resent them and not be to opposed to ending things when the time is right.